To still be struggling with the bra situation - warning - saga!

(82 Posts)
pouffepants Wed 22-May-13 19:13:14

IABVVU since there have been at least 8 billion bra threads, but I'm clearly far too thick to get it right.

I watched with interest when the bra interventions began. I often heard it quoted that most women wear the wrong bra size, and I assumed I was one of them. This is due to a bra fitter making me cry as a pregnant teenager in mothercare, telling me I would have saggy tits forever since I was wearing a 'c' cup, and she said I only needed a 'b' cup even when feeding. So I've spent years ashamedly grabbing sizes c/d over the years convinced that a) people would laugh their socks off if they saw, and b) I'd just have to put up with saggy tits since I couldn't bear to wear anything smaller.

So when it started on here, I thought 'what the hell' and got the tape measure out. 32' under and 39' over. Wtf?? That's 32f! So someone said to lean over to do it. That's something I always avoid since my boobs seem to go long and sausagey when I do that, the reason I was convinced they were saggy, just seem completely empty. Well that was even sillier! Measurement 41' = 32g.

So I ignored that one and went to m&s and bought some 32fs which to my astonishment seemed to fit. All good. But within a couple of weeks I realised that I had 4-boob again. Weird! So I decided to measure myself again. But when I leaned over, I found the weirdest thing, my boobs no longer went sausagey, they were quite full. And measured 43'. Surely boobs don't just grow to the space available? Bit scary really! And another realisation, my boobs aren't saggy at all, they're pretty upright really when I stand up, it was only ever when I leant over, that I thought they were saggy. There's not much of a crease underneath at all.

So i went back to m&s (only place local) but couldn't find anything I was happy with the fit of. So I followed the advice on here and went to bravissimo. Had to make a day of it, since it's miles away.

The fitter agreed that my bra was a bit small, and put me in 32ff. I did query the amount of armpit fat, but she said that was normal, and then i felt so self conscious that I went along with it. I hate shopping at the best of times and since I was so far from home I felt pressured to buy (by myself not them), so I bought 3 bras including a sports one.

£90 down, I now realise that my bras don't pass the points put on here. The back doesn't ride up, but I can pull it quite far from my body even on the tightest hook, which I'm wearing it on. There's definitely overspillage of boob at the top, and I think under the arms, though that may be just my fatness.

I feel like I should have tried lots of different sizes, but the fitter kept telling me they fit great, and I didn't argue. She kept saying about scooping, but then showed me just a little gentle nudge to get them in place, I felt far too silly to do a major tit yank, like I've been instructed here.

So of course I've cut the labels off, they're never going to accept them back now are they, even though I've only had them 3 days. And the whole point of going was so I would once and for all know my size, so I could buy on the internet in future, and not have to trek about all over the place for bras, and I don't even know that! And I can't afford any for ages now!

HazleNutt Thu 23-May-13 14:34:37

diddl I think what might have been said is that if you measure 80cm then based on that, you would want to grab a bra that's labelled EUR80/UK36. However, 80 cm is not 36 inches - 80 cm is 31,4 inches and therefore, you should try bras that are labelled EUR70/UK32.

isThis people are all A,B and C because they are wearing too big back sizes. A true A-cup means that the person has just 1 inch difference between over-and underbust measurements. Try it with a tape measure, an inch is really not that much and honestly, most people have more than than.

And for example 36C cup size is exactly the same as 30E - no, the wearer did not grow gigantic boobs suddenly.

diddl Thu 23-May-13 14:35:37

Thanks everyone for taking the time to explain to me!

I have changed from an 80 band to a 75.

Really don't think I could go lower than that!

HazleNutt Thu 23-May-13 14:37:25

mummy can you take the measurements and post? But if you have been measured as 36B by mothercare or M&S, you are more likely around 32D - you need to go up a cup size if you go down a band size to get the same volume.

MummytoKatie, the bras themselves are made to fit without adding inches but most retailers are still measuring that way so the bra doesn't fit right. If you've been "measured" at a 36B for example, then that suggests you measure somewhere around 31-32 (probably nearer the lower end as you sometimes wear a 34) and about 38 across. Which means in reality you are more like a 30FF, 30F, 32F or 32E.

Thats very reough - if you can measure yourself as per the info /blog links upthread we'll tell you where to start

ButternutSquish Thu 23-May-13 14:54:48

Thanks, going to measure again and then try some different bras over the weekend!

pouffepants Sun 26-May-13 20:17:58

Hi everyone, just to update.

Bravissimo have been fantastic and are accepting the bras back, and have advised 30gg, which they're going to send me. This sort of makes sense, under the sister size thing, 32ff would be the same as 30g, and then an extra size again would be 30gg. But, if you start from scratch then 32 band plus 8 inches would be 40 inches, and 30 band plus 10 inches is also 40 inches, but hey-ho, if that's what they say.

So I've posted them off, and am waiting for replacements. But today I was in a different town, and there was a house of fraser, so I thought I'd try some on, although I wasn't going to buy anything. They didn't have any 30gg at all, so I tried a 32g. OMG, it was absolutely colossal, I hardly touched the cup. So I tried 30g, which was also much too big.

The ones i'm waiting for from bravissimo are panache, and these were freya. Do the sizes vary that much? Which makes my whole bra size hunt pointless really. Anyway I now await the arrival of my bras with trepidation.

mumofweeboys Sun 26-May-13 22:10:33

Hi

Iv always found freya bras to be a funny fit for me. I dont get in with them.

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