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to think my friend is right and I do actually attract all the weirdos on the bus?

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OwlLady Tue 21-May-13 11:02:52

as it's happening here now sad shock. I have posted on several threads in my limited time here in the last few weeks and a fair few have been deleted as they were started by frogs, badgers and hares

is this an affliction that only I have been blessed with? confused

MoominMammasHandbag Tue 21-May-13 11:49:08

It is a standing joke in our family, that if I am left alone for a moment, I will always be accosted by a strange, shouty and often drunken man.
It has happened to me in Brussels, Florence and the south of France. And most recently in a local naice pub.
It has got to the stage where my family just stand there laughing their heads off while I deal with the idiot.

Sugar That's completely different and you know it. This is not about you!

OwlLady Tue 21-May-13 11:51:21

sugarmouse, I don't want to go into a spiel about myself, but my daughter is severely disabled and I really am not being personal about sections of society. It was honestly meant in a lighthearted manner. I had a womans offload to me in the Drs surgery yesterday, she was lovely, but it does get a bit draining when it's everyone. The weirdos was more an observation about the threads that i have posted on here that have been deleted! I am sorry i do think that is weird that people would make up whole family scenarios that strangers could post on for their own pleasureconfused

Loulybelle Tue 21-May-13 11:53:17

Luckily i dont have the weirdo curse, i just suffer from twatitis, ie attract masses twats!!!

Sugar, did you take things waaaay to seriously at uni too? Possibly rounding on people and getting aggressive for imagined slights where none were intended?

Whilst your course mates were wrong to mock you, your demeanour on this thread does somewhat suggest you might be a leeetle hard to get on with

Owl.... I think they recognise a sucker who won't tell them to f-off. I used to get crazies and drunks homing in on me all the time but since I've started being more assertive and telling them to bog off I seem to get less of them approaching in the first place.... I must be exuding 'Don't mess with me' vibes grin

In all honesty to many I'm
Probably the weirdo on the bus. grin

I don't feel picked on

flippinada Tue 21-May-13 11:58:38

I don't think anything offensive was meant by the term weirdo.

I'd class myself as a weirdo, personally, and its a label I'm happy to have! Weirdos are great.

OwlLady Tue 21-May-13 12:00:07

smile

I am most probably the weirdo aswell, as wheremy says like attract like shock

My son asked me the day why deer can all be together in a space, such as a park but they will only stand with their own breed. I had no answer to this question

SugarMouse1 Tue 21-May-13 12:02:27

SummerRain-

No, not at all!

I was nice to these people and had a bit of general chitchat conversations with them, such as 'Hi', 'how was your weekend', etc, etc

I was quiet but I am just a shy person, I guess

I am not eccentric, don't have an outlandish dress sense, any interest in alternative culture, unusual tastes in music etc, not a member of a strange religion, or a political activist

Besides, even if I had been 'too serious', how exactly would that make me a freak? It would just make me 'too serious', right?

Have you ever been bullied SummerRain?

EuroShaggleton Tue 21-May-13 12:03:01

I used to be a weirdo magnet. I seem to have grown out of it. Or maybe got better at giving off "don't fvk with my" vibes.

EuroShaggleton Tue 21-May-13 12:04:01

sugar this thread is not about you and the fact that you think it is, is rather odd.

EldritchCleavage Tue 21-May-13 12:04:18

I really didn't read this thread as being about stigmatising people or encouraging unkindness or bullying. Op is just asking whether other people find they tend to be the ones approached by unusual people or those in distress. She is not encouraging people to laugh at them for being unusual or in distress.

And yes, it used to be me, but now I've got children and have too many chores and don't get enough sleep I am tired and grumpy by the time I get the bus or train home from work, so I don't get picked as the one to talk to any more.

SugarMouse1 Tue 21-May-13 12:04:26

Owl-

Lets hope nobody ever treats your daughter like a pariah then, for being severely disabled.

herd instinct.... to blend in to a crowd of similar animals so each individuals chance of being picked off and eaten is diminished. They recognise their own species and form a herd with those animals they feel affinity to.

OwlLady Tue 21-May-13 12:06:05

she is treated like a pariah hmm

Sugar Wtf? There was no need for that. The thread is about random nutters not fucking disabilities. Stop trying to make it about you.

I'm always attracting nutters and weirdos. When I'm out having a drink I only seem to pull the nutters too. Its like I an aura

Weegiemum Tue 21-May-13 12:07:02

Ok sugar mouse ill defend my post.

I used "weirdos" as it was in the OP.

I've suffered recurrent chronic depression for many years, including a suicide attempt that put me in intensive care and an episode of PND o bad that I was air ambulanced to a mother and baby unit.

Even now I see a psychiatrist 6- monthly for a general mental-health checkup as I have a personality disorder (under control) and need objective opinions.

The woman I spoke to on the bus (that I took to a&e in a taxi and waited until her dp arrived) may well have been a "weirdo" to many people. I was able to see through it - I've been there.

I suppose I use the term loosely (maybe I'm wrong) as I've got a group of friends, all of whom are/have been mentally ill and we call ourselves the "Weird Sisters", which reflects what society thinks of us!

SugarMouse1 Tue 21-May-13 12:07:04

Then, why not just say 'unusual' or 'distressed' people?

Instead of the lovely word 'weirdo'

Incidentally, some severely disabled people call themselves 'spastics' or 'retards' and are proud to be

Does this make the terms okay?

flippinada Tue 21-May-13 12:08:14

Owllady as a result of this thread I'm seriously considering changing my user name to "that weirdo on the bus" grin.

ThreeDudesOnABus Tue 21-May-13 12:08:49

If you can't spot the weirdo on the bus, you are the weirdo. Hth.

OwlLady Tue 21-May-13 12:08:52

sugarmouse, for someone who doesn't like being bullied yourself you are being quite unpleasant

yes, chronically Sugar.

And unsurprisingly it was my own behaviour which triggered it. Not that the ones bullying should have reacted as they did, but I am capable of realising the impact my own behaviour had.... and unfortunately kids/young adults can be vicious in their desperation to 'fit in', which often includes targeting those who more obviously 'don't fit it' and ridiculing them.

It's not right, but it is extremely common.

You're all grown up now though, and it's probably time you let it go and looked forwards instead of dwelling on past events.

This thread wasn't about you, or in any way related to what happened to you.

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SugarMouse1 Tue 21-May-13 12:10:51

What is unpleasant about what I've said?

I was pointing out that this isn't the nicest term or the most respectful way to treat people

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell Tue 21-May-13 12:10:55

I once got shown a bag of toys by some drunk guy who went on to say that my grand children would love them. I was 21 ffs didnt even have kids and the bus driver had to come and rescue me

This ^ just made me snort.
I too must have one of those faces, I've heard more 'interesting' life stories than I've had hot dinners.
They always single me out in bars, the harmless weirdos, and I'm too polite to do anything but stand there and smile and nod. grin

Sugarmouse that comment was out of order. No need.

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