about car parking

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

I probably am and if the mn jury says I am I promise to listen and move it.

We live in a row of terraces there are 3 houses
Our house-middle house-end house

It's a main road and parking is limited, the end house has a driveway with space for 2 cars and they have 1 car. Me, dp and the couple next door they have a car each share the 2 spaces at the front of the house, whoever gets home first parks there, this is fine as the other 2 park elsewhere. Anyway the man who lives at the end can be difficult and if he decides we have done something wrong, can be anything from dsc making a noise in the garden to next door hovering on Sunday mornings, he will park his car in one of the spaces sometimes in the middle of the spaces so none of us can park there. This has gone on for 2 years.

It's all very petty and for the most part I ignore him, but he's really annoyed me this time and I'm afraid I'm being as childish as him

I have a 4x4 and because I know if I park outside the house the neighbour on the end has trouble reversing off of his drive he won't reverse onto it I rarely park there and have an arrangement with the pub across the road to park in their car park, but last week I had a bootfull of shopping so parked outside his house in one of the spaces to unload the space outside my/middle house was taken I put the shopping away and then had to go and lay down because I had a migraine. About an hour later the man at the end knocked on the door and demanded that I moved my car from outside his house, dp explained that I'd gone to lay down and he couldn't move it because he has a back injury and can't drive, this caused a major rant from neighbour but he left, my migraine turned into some kind of virusy thing which meant I was laid up in bed for 4 days so the car stayed where it was with neighbour knocking on the door everyday demanding I move it and dp explaining I was ill, on Thursday I was better and was back at work but I used dp's car instead of mine because I needed to take it to get new tyres, I fully intended to move my car when I got home but didn't get in until after 9 and decided to wait until I went out the next morning. On Saturday my grandad was rushed to hospital and my mum picked me up so we could go together to see him in the early hours, she dropped me home at 2pm, neighbour was outside his house but turned his back on me so I went indoors, 5mins later he knocks and asks dp if he could make me move my car, dp said he would ask me and neighbour says "don't ask tell her what are you a man or a mouse" and went back into his own house, now I admit it was petty of me but after that I refused to move it, it is 100% legally parked, not blocking anyone in and is taxed.

I've just had a phone call from the man next door who has been asked by other neighbour to ask me to move my car, he says he isn't bothered that it's parked there but found it funny that he had asked him so was passing it on.

So despite the fact that he could have at any point knocked on the door in the past 3 days or spoken to me when I saw him outside he has chosen to go through dp and now the man next door who he doesn't even get on with.

Dp says I should just move it for the sake of neighborly relations and I say I'm not moving it till he asks ME the person who actually owns the car,I know full well it's because I'm a women as hehas

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

Argh wasn't ready to post....

He has form for being sexist.

So mn jury tell me straight should I move it when I get home or leave it till wed when I will be using it again?

I already now I'm being petty and childish but his attitude has really wound me up

[WorraLiberty]

Legally you're allowed to park there so move it when you want.

But yes, the whole thing sounds extremely petty and childish

And let's face it, even with migraine you could have moved it if you wanted to.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

I am afraid I would be as petty as you.

People get away with being like your neighbour because others respond to unreasonable arseishness with forelock tugging, in the name of being 'reasonable' or 'rising above it'. Well not me and I recommend not you either because all it gets you is footprints on your forehead from where they wiped their feet all over you!

I would tell the neighbour that if this other guy wants to come and ask you to move your car, you will move it, providing he is polite about it, considering it's a public road and he has no legal grounds for even asking.

Bugger neighbourly relations. He's not fussed about them, is he? Or he wouldn't be a twat.

[MalcolmTuckersMum]

Difficult to say. I'm still trying to make sense of your OP esp the bits with the strike-through.

[MrsPresley]

If it's parked legally then YANBU, but, if you are not moving it "till he asks you" then YABU.

He's already been at your door, how many times?

He probably doesn't believe that you have ill etc and TBH I probably wouldn't either, I would think you are just being awkward.

Saying that though, if your car isn't causing him any problems then he is BU.

[plainjaney]

If its taxed and insured you can park it where you like providing there are no restrictions on the road.
Personally because of his 'harassment' I'd leave it there for as long as I could.
Worraliberty, not sure if you have ever suffered with severe migraine but moving a car isn't something I'd be capable of when I get one. Visual disturbances and vomiting are not unusual at all and would make driving quite dangerous.

[MrsMangoBiscuit]

He wants your DP to "tell" you to move your legally parked car?! lmao

Petty, schmetty! I'd leave it there.

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

I couldn't of moved it with a migraine they come on suddenly and everything goes blurry that's the one thing I was not being petty about I could not of safely moved the car and for the next 4 days I couldn't even get out of bed dp had to call the emergency Dr out and I nearly ended up in hospital. It's everything since I got better that is when I became as childish and petty as him which I admit for the past 2 years I've ignored both sets of neighbours and dp with this stupid parking thing and now I'm as bad as them

[WorraLiberty]

yeah but she managed to unload the car and put the shopping away before having to go an lie down.

It makes me wonder if she would have quickly moved the car if she happened to like the her neighbour.

[WorraLiberty]

X posted

Oh well if you're enjoying being petty and childish, I'm not sure what else to say.

You sound as bad as each other.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

Sorry but I think YABU. Yes hes a petty sexist pig. But why stoop to his level?

You could have taken a few mins and moved the car, even with a migraine, even at 9pm after a days work, even though your relative was in hospital. Those are pretty lame excuses tbh.

You had the moral high ground all this time and now you are just as bad as him.

[plainjaney]

Worraliberty, I've found in the past that doing things like unloading a car can trigger them.
We recently bought DS's a bed and dragging it in the house from the van triggered a severe migraine, I had to lie down for hours after as it really knocked me. I think dehydration can be a factor - you are busy, not necessarily as hydrated as you should be and then you exert yourself. Never pleasant things.

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

It's the attitude he has of asking the men to make the little lady move her car that's the problem Im quite happy parking in the pub like I have done since we moved in!

He's the reason the last people who lived in our house moved

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

The migraine came on after I unloaded the car I was fine until the last shopping bag then I vomited and had blurry vision, they really do come on that quickly

[MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour]

Why should she move the car? It's parked legally and she chose to park there, his wishes don't trump hers

I wouldn't have moved it either op

[Lj8893]

Worra, you have obviously never had a migraine!!! They can come on within seconds and can last ages, and the OP has stated how she then became very ill with a virus.

It does all sound a little petty but tbh if I was you, I'd be doing exactly the same!!! Although it scarily reminds me of a neighbour we once had when I was younger, his "petty" ways got so out of hand he pissed in my mums car. Yep, you read it right.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

But she has knowingly caused this neighbour difficulty in getting out of his drive. What if he had an accident because of where she parked?

Maybe legally she is ok, but that doesnt mean its morally ok.

I just cannot understand the mentality of people who want to be petty. Rise above it.

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

wannabedomesticgoddess your right I could have moved it at 9pm but decided that since it wasn't blocking his drive and I was using it first thing in the morning to go to the stables I would leave it, I wasn't trying to be difficult I was just tired. I then ended up in a&e with my grandad at 4am and when I'd got back at 2 had actually walked in and said to dp "I'm going to the toilet then I'll move the car" when I came out of the toilet I overheard his comment about telling me and that's when I started being petty.

Point made though I knew it was petty so I will move the car when I get home

[Onesleeptillwembley]

I've no doubt you'll have an excuse but why couldn't your husband move it? On the other hand if you weren't blocking his drive (slightly confused) then you are entitled to park there but I'd dump the PA crap and tell him where to get off.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

I am struggling to understand the parking issue .

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

Can I just add that my car being there doesn't make it anymore difficult for him than if it was anyone else's because of the layout of the road, he can see the traffic lights so knows when the road is clear, when he first started being funny about parking he had a row with next door and blamed it on my car being there so he had parked there to teach us a lesson, I then stopped parking there to avoid any problems but he just found more reasons to be difficult.

Until last week I haven't parked there in at least 18mths

[ThedementedPenguin]

No don't move the car.

[PuppyMonkey]

Well tbh I think in the time it's taken you to type all this, you might as well have moved your car and got on with your life. If he's an arse, you making a point may not really help matters.

[smilingthroughgrittedteeth]

I said in my op that dp has a back injury, he hasn't even been able to get in a car since Jan never mind drive one, the only reason he's able to answer the door is because it comes straight into the lounge so he only has to shuffle from sofa to door.