about car parking(52 Posts)
I probably am and if the mn jury says I am I promise to listen and move it.
We live in a row of terraces there are 3 houses
Our house-middle house-end house
It's a main road and parking is limited, the end house has a driveway with space for 2 cars and they have 1 car. Me, dp and the couple next door
they have a car each share the 2 spaces at the front of the house, whoever gets home first parks there, this is fine as the other 2 park elsewhere. Anyway the man who lives at the end can be difficult and if he decides we have done something wrong, can be anything from dsc making a noise in the garden to next door hovering on Sunday mornings, he will park his car in one of the spaces sometimes in the middle of the spaces so none of us can park there. This has gone on for 2 years.
It's all very petty and for the most part I ignore him, but he's really annoyed me this time and I'm afraid I'm being as childish as him
I have a 4x4 and because I know if I park outside the house the neighbour on the end has trouble reversing off of his drive
he won't reverse onto it I rarely park there and have an arrangement with the pub across the road to park in their car park, but last week I had a bootfull of shopping so parked outside his house in one of the spaces to unload the space outside my/middle house was taken I put the shopping away and then had to go and lay down because I had a migraine. About an hour later the man at the end knocked on the door and demanded that I moved my car from outside his house, dp explained that I'd gone to lay down and he couldn't move it because he has a back injury and can't drive, this caused a major rant from neighbour but he left, my migraine turned into some kind of virusy thing which meant I was laid up in bed for 4 days so the car stayed where it was with neighbour knocking on the door everyday demanding I move it and dp explaining I was ill, on Thursday I was better and was back at work but I used dp's car instead of mine because I needed to take it to get new tyres, I fully intended to move my car when I got home but didn't get in until after 9 and decided to wait until I went out the next morning. On Saturday my grandad was rushed to hospital and my mum picked me up so we could go together to see him in the early hours, she dropped me home at 2pm, neighbour was outside his house but turned his back on me so I went indoors, 5mins later he knocks and asks dp if he could make me move my car, dp said he would ask me and neighbour says "don't ask tell her what are you a man or a mouse" and went back into his own house, now I admit it was petty of me but after that I refused to move it, it is 100% legally parked, not blocking anyone in and is taxed.
I've just had a phone call from the man next door who has been asked by other neighbour to ask me to move my car, he says he isn't bothered that it's parked there but found it funny that he had asked him so was passing it on.
So despite the fact that he could have at any point knocked on the door in the past 3 days or spoken to me when I saw him outside he has chosen to go through dp and now the man next door who he doesn't even get on with.
Dp says I should just move it for the sake of neighborly relations and I say I'm not moving it till he asks ME the person who actually owns the car,I know full well it's because I'm a women as hehas
I said in my op that dp has a back injury, he hasn't even been able to get in a car since Jan never mind drive one, the only reason he's able to answer the door is because it comes straight into the lounge so he only has to shuffle from sofa to door.
If your parked legally then I would leave your car there for as long as you need. Your neighbour is the only one being unreasonable, how dare he ask you to move it in the first place!
Sorry but pandering to people like this only gives them the impression that they are being reasonable in their ridiculous demands. If you're legally parked and not impeding his access to his drive in any way then I see no reason why you should move your car ever if it doesn't suit you to do so.
This is the layout of houses and parking
End house |
Middle |2 parking spaces
my house |
I'm not blocking him in the problem he has is that he refuses to reverse onto his drive and then struggles to reverse out onto a main road, my car doesn't make that anymore difficult than any of the other cars being there, he's wife who does reverse onto the drive doesn't have any problems
The lines moved, basically the spaces start half way in front of his house to the end of my house so enough space for 2 cars parked 1 in front of the other, well away from his drive
I would pop round and ask his wife if she would mind "parking/getting off the drive" her "little mans" car as he is obviously not as able a driver as you two women.
You could recommend him parking lessons with a local driving school if he struggles to park, you know, just being neighbourly and all.
It is petty, but so what? He's being an arse for the sake of being an arse and two can play at that game!
I would leave it there till you are ready to move it, and if he actually decides to speak to you about it, you can innocently ask him why it bothers him so much what with it being public property?
Also, not fair to say a migraine is not too bad to move a car. I get visual auras with mine, it would be dangerous for me to move a car, even a few feet. And yes, they do go from 0-60 in regards to how quickly and how bad they can be.
My migraines are bad enough not to move a car, I lose sight of the left hand side and can't judge depth so even if its just moving it you could still hit a cyclist / person and kill them.
Back to the original question, move it when your ready, cheeky bugger!
I think you've had a bit of a hard time here OP!
I'd leave the car for now - he sounds like a sexist idiot, who can't drive to boot! Everyone knows that you should reverse into your drive and then drive off into the main road with full visibility if that's what the road layout demands.
It sounds to me like he's crossed the line between being a bit dotty and harassment. I'd be having a word with the local PCSOs. You were ill, your car was parked perfectly legally and he has a driveway to use so isn't impacted by this at all. Knocking at your door and then trying to involve other neighbours is just crazy.
Forgot to add - my migraines have been bad enough not to drive too so completely understand where you're coming from there.
Don't move the car at all until you were going to anyway.
This man clearly needs an issue to spend his time worrying about, and it would be unfair to deny his tiny mind it's only source of stimulation.
YANBU go for full petty and don't move it until you need to. I love peeing stupid people off just for the laugh.
I had a great petty parking dispute with our previous next door neighbours. We have one car drives out the front and then allocated spaces round the corner so 2 spaces altogether. We have 2 cars and they had a car and the DH's workvan. There is a single car layby right by their house and a 3 car layby across the road (allocated spaces are under trees so cars get covered in sap and bird poo). If the single space was free I would park in it as it was on our side of the road. But she hated it. She'd purposely park in the space and even if her DH didn't bring home his workvan leaving their drive free overnight she would have the space just for the sake of it. As i don't use my car much i'd get it in the space as much as possible just to piss her off. Didn't actually bother me where I parked. Now she's moved it's actually an unwritten rule that it's my space lol.
Oh and BTW there is no way i could drive a car with a migraine. I get very light sensitive and have to hide under a duvet.
OP tomorrow you will be on here complaining someone let your tyres down overnight. You will need another lie down then.
I think I'd knock on his door and say you'll move your car when he apologises for calling your DH a mouse!
after 2 years of him punishing you and other neighbor for petty infringes in his opinion with the parking over 2 spaces I would say fuck him - and I would happily tell him to his face. However, that way a quiet life does not lie
The car has been moved.
I knocked on his door and said I understood he wanted to talk to me, he said no he didnt need to talk to me as he had talked to dp and neighbour, I asked what the problem was and he said my car was in front of his house, I agreed it was and asked why it was causing a problem since it wasn't blocking his drive or causing a hazard to other cars and he just kept saying it's in front of my house, I did apologise for the fact that it hasn't moved for a week but explained I had been ill and then moved it forward to the space in front of my house which is no where near his drive and because the road curves slightly he can see around it easily but he wasn't happy with this and started yelling he then told dp that he needed to make me move it again and when I pointed out calmly that dp can't make me do anything he told dp that he should teach me my place and keep me under control.
I asked him why exactly my car being parked outside my house was a problem and his reply was to scream in my face that it doesn't matter why it is because he says it is and I should move it, at this point I came into the house and left him to it.
I've just heard him shouting at the lady next door for parking her fiesta outside his house
He sounds vile!!! What type of property are you and him in? Owned, rent, council?
I think you should contact the police at some point for some advice, hopefully they will agree to contact him and explain he has no right to decide who parks where and that his threatening behaviour is not acceptable.
We both rent, middle house owns.
We actually have the same letting agents but different landlords, the letting agents are great and have spoken to him before which calmed him down for awhile but he always starts again.
Hahaha! Sorry! Your lovely lady neighbour then asked her fiesta in the same spot. That did make me chortle
Saying that, he's an arse. Any point in having a word with the letting agency again over attitude and the way he spoke? He could claim that the situation dagged for a week, six of one etc but I really do feel sorry for his wife because he probably sits at home and rants about parking.
Well if neither of you are allowed to park there then who the hell is?? ffs! Twat!
Middle house has called the police beforeand reported him for intimidating lovely lady next door (llnd)
llnd had parked in the space outside his house and he stood in front of her front door and refused to let her into her house until she moved the car.
Yeah complain to the letting agent!
The neighbour the other way is the mil of the letting agent so even if he claimed it had been parked there for longer I could easily prove it hadn't
I would park it there every fucking day from now on.
In fact I'm sure I learnt on here that legally, you can block someone out of their own driveway but not in it iyswim.
Actually, I think parking it on his fucking face would be the best option.
Either way I would make his life hell from now on.
Absolutely talk to the letting agent!
And I think you should contact the police about his threatening behaviour, even if you didn't feel particularly threatened, someone else could have easily felt threatened.
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