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To not want to hear how busy people are, all the time?

(93 Posts)
Lamour Sat 18-May-13 16:12:57

I really am sick to the back teeth of people saying how busy they are. Lots of people are busy. Most just get on with it.

There is a mum I bump into at the school on a regular basis. Every conversation I have with her (usually initiated by her in the first place) goes along the same theme, of how terribly busy she is, and how her life is so hectic, and she has this on, and that on, and oh she's just so very very very busy. She volunteers this information. I have long since stopped asking her how she is as her reply is always "busy". We used to meet up but I got fed up with her asking me to meet her and then saying "I'm so busy for the next 6 weeks" and pencilling me in for a half an hour coffee in 6 weeks' time.

I also have an acquaintance on my Facebook friends list, who tells the Facebook world on a daily basis how busy she is, and lists the things that she has done each day. Then everybody marvels about how she fits it all in, and how she must surely be superwoman. Said woman does have several children, but IMO does a lot of unnecessary things and puts pressure on herself to make everything perfect. She will do something during an evening, such as ironing everything in her ironing basket, or wrapping up teachers' end of term presents, and then put a photo on Facebook of it, and again bleat on about how very busy she has been and what a busy evening, and how it's not easy to do things like ironing or present wrapping when you have several children.

It just feels competitive, and silly. As I said, lots of people are busy, but most just get on with it.

Unami Sat 18-May-13 16:16:25

I totally agree. This is one of my major bugbears - people making a big, big deal about how busy they are to try and make themselves look more important than other people.

We all have 24 hours in a day. We all have a number of things we have to fit in to that finite slice of time. We are all 'busy' in different ways. When people bang on about how busy they are, what they really want to say is '(more) important (than you)'.

Lamour Sat 18-May-13 16:18:08

Unami, that is my thoughts exactly. It's an importance thing.

The woman I know from school will always say she is too busy to do anything, and brings it into any conversation.

Even if it's about something such as a TV show, she will scoff and say "I'm far too busy to watch TV".

Mintyy Sat 18-May-13 16:19:07

Sorry, I don't have time to read such a long op wink

HollyBerryBush Sat 18-May-13 16:21:33

Perhaps she can't afford to go out and upload photos of herself pissed every night in an interesting way? perhaps she likes being indoors with her family and ironing and that's interesting to her?

If you don't like her busy yet dull life, delete her.

nananaps Sat 18-May-13 16:21:58

This reminded me of my mil who was too busy to come to see her only gc because she had to go to the post office and walk her dog. She felt genuinely too busy to do any thing else that day grin

I think that its a very busy world, i am on mat leave at the moment and dont know how i fitted everything around work and the house/kids etc. But i love it, i prefer to be busy tbh.

I dont tell every one having said that, although you should know that i am a bit too busy to be here right now..or should be too busy grin

But i agree, it is irritating to be told of how very important folk are as they are 100 times busier than you.

My pal makes me not want to arrange anything with her as i feel that she wont be able to fit me in, she does seem to cram every moment with something. That makes me sad as i love my friends company.

Gauri Sat 18-May-13 16:21:59

Op, you and I are obviously not that busy. Me for reading my our loooooong op and you for typing it.... Here wine.

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 16:27:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lamour Sat 18-May-13 16:31:35

No she always asks me to do things, SecondComing. I have long since stopped bothering to ask her, as I think it's pointless organising a half hour coffee in 6 weeks' time (which she'd have to go early from anyway as she's so very busy)

She'll say about meeting up, then do that sound sucking air in through her teeth and start to say again about how busy she is...

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 16:40:22

Its called making conversation and speaking about random shallow shite though, surely?

TheSecondComing Sat 18-May-13 16:41:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Samu2 Sat 18-May-13 16:46:41

I am hardly ever busy. I have five children and think I should be busy all the time but very rarely am.

People who go on about being busy all the time make me wonder what I am doing so wrong grin

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 16:47:34

I literally have to arrange meeting people for 4 weeks time and even then am doubling them up..tis pain..these are people I really want to see, so don't assume she is avoiding you.

Yes I am one of these boring types who goes on about how busy I am. winkgrin

SkiBunnnnny Sat 18-May-13 17:11:35

Maybe the posting on Facebook is a motivation tool. Some people write to-do lists so they get the satisfaction of crossing things off when they are done. It's like an extension of that.

Triumphoveradversity Sat 18-May-13 17:14:02

The only people I have ever met that have harped on about being busy are actually not busy, maybe some people need to justify their existence.

tethersend Sat 18-May-13 17:16:09

Marking place to post later when less busy.

Ilikethebreeze Sat 18-May-13 17:26:03

Same here, Triumph.
The irony now is that she is genuinely very busy indeed.
And doesnt literally doesnt have the time to tell me!

Jinsei Sat 18-May-13 17:38:48

Truly busy people don't have time for FB. wink

EglantinePrice Sat 18-May-13 17:47:31

I know a few of these

"I'm so important busy, look at all my achievements how busy I've been this week" [yawn]

ChippingInIsMissingHerLatte Sat 18-May-13 17:49:53

Tethers grin

StealthOfficialCrispTester Sat 18-May-13 17:52:12

yanbu
I do sometimes find myself telling people this and hopefully always manage to shut myself up
Compared to some people I am busy, compared to others I have loads of time
If I wasn't on MN so much, those extra hours in the day I keep moaning about might magically appear grin

noddyholder Sat 18-May-13 17:54:07

I always look busy but do the bare minimum.

ssd Sat 18-May-13 17:55:28

busy people are a pain in the arse

its like they are so popular, they just haven't the time for anything

ugh

Gigondas Sat 18-May-13 17:56:03

Yanbu this boils my piss too.

rabbitlady Sat 18-May-13 17:57:02

maybe, when they are saying they are so busy, they are saying they don't have time for you.

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