These Parents were as useful as a chocolate teapot (MacDonalds related)

(62 Posts)
pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 14:08:27

Went to MacDonalds with dd 6, she has ASD and developmental delay. We went sit down with our food, behind where I was sitting was a mini football pitch set up in lights where a very rowdy group of boys (7/8 years mabey) were pretending to play and shouting and cheering and knocking against my chair.

They must have been in a group tat one boys parents have taken out after football, they were all dressed in football gear of their local club. The host parents did nothing to tell the boys to be quiet and tone down their noise and behaviour. The parents got the boys ice cream and because one was messing about his ice cream spilt everywhere behind me. The parents did not tell this boy off, they said never mind the lady will clean it up and will get you another one shock. my dd was behaving much better, sitting quietly eating.

I eventually told them to be quiet after my chair was bashed for the umpteenth time and the screeching got louder, the parent came to apologise but te screeching and shouting still carried on. We eat up and left. My patience was in tatters, but dd was very calm

Aibu to think the parents should have told the boys to quieten down and to stop messing about, and to not get te boy who spilt his ice cream another for messing about, even if teir not the boys parents. I would no have any qualms about telling a child in my care off if they were misbehaving and being a nuscience

CloudsAndTrees Sat 18-May-13 14:13:35

It might have been a birthday party or special treat for some reason.

I would have told them they needed to stop bumping into your chair if there was nowhere else for you to sit, but if you had other options of places to sit then I would think it's your own choice that put you in that position.

If the 'restaurant' has set up a facility for football inside, then you have to expect it to be used. It's McDonald's, I don't think you can expect children not to play in that type of establishment.

BackforGood Sat 18-May-13 14:15:15

I think everyone has different tolerence for noise, but, if I were looking for a calm, quiet place to eat and chat, then I wouldn't choose a McDs on a Saturday lunchtime.

I don't really understand what you mean by the "mini football pitch set up in lights" to be able to comment if what they were doing was reasonable or not. Sorry.

Remotecontrolduck Sat 18-May-13 14:15:38

I really want a McFlurry now...

<not helpful>

<gets in car>

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 14:27:23

No, no other seats available. Dd loves MacDonalds nowhere else, it's a Saturday ritual. It wa an image f a football pitch in lights. But surly as parents you expect better behaviour from older children, if they were screeching and shouting very loudly you would tell them to tone t down in a public place where role are eating.

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 14:29:36

We're people are eating sorry. I certainly would not allow that behaviour from my children. Might have been a birthday treat not a oarty as ts a wall MacDonalds so so party facility.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 18-May-13 14:30:30

It's Macdonalds on a Saturday afternoon.
What do you expect?

Your daughter has ASD and you don't consider that one or more of the offending children might also have had special needs of some sort?

If you were that offended, why didn't you speak to the children or the adults? I hope I would have done so. A calm, smiling, polite "Could you please ask the boys to calm down a bit? I can see they're excited and having a lovely time but I'm afraid they're really disturbing us" would be responded to positively by anyone remotely reasonable.

I'm just back from Saturday lunch at McDonald's. It is definitely not an environment for those who can't tolerate or cope with noise and bustle.

CloudsAndTrees Sat 18-May-13 14:34:06

Tbh, if I took my 7yo boy to an area that was designed to be played in, no I wouldn't tell them to tone it down. I would expect them not to bump your chair though, and if they didn't do that then they would be made to sit down.

A place like McDonalds focuses much of it's marketing on children, therefore I expect it to be a place where children are allowed to behave like children. I don't think cheering is misbehaving or being a nuisance in a place like that, and I'm actually quite a strict parent!

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 14:40:15

Horry I don't think they had special needs no, just loud raucous boys. So iam being unreasonable for expecting Chidren to behave a bit better in public. As kids we sometimes went to MacDonalds and would not behave lik that. Itwasent a play area, but light projected football pitch. But hey ho what would expect

swooosh Sat 18-May-13 14:43:28

Excuse me if this is rude but what has your DDs ASD got to do with this problem? She behaved well and ignored the problem, it was probably a kids birthday party and it is Mcdonalds on a SATURDAY!

Sirzy Sat 18-May-13 14:43:40

why would they have a light projected football pitch for any reason other than people to play in though?

I can see why you were a bit annoyed but really you were being unreasonable as I would have been in the same situation

greenfolder Sat 18-May-13 14:45:35

macdonalds full stop- you put up with that im afraid.you are never going to get that number of overexcited small boys to be quiet. mcdonalds encourage you to eat up and leave

thebody Sat 18-May-13 14:56:37

I wouldn't go to maccis on any day. Just for teens I think.

Take your dd somewhere nicer as a Saturday treat.

Not criticising you just saying its not a peaceful place and you have to eat with your fingers..

Yeuk!!

crashdoll Sat 18-May-13 15:02:06

YABU and expecting to much from McDonalds!

crashdoll Sat 18-May-13 15:02:17

*too much

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 15:04:06

Oh dear think I am expecting a bit too much of kids these days and getting cantankerous in my old age grin

IcingTheCake Sat 18-May-13 15:04:55

To be honest I'm surprised the staff didn't move the chairs around better so there was plenty of space around the pitch ( I'm guessing it was the ones that are projected from the ceiling onto the floor?) I don't think you we're being unreasonable, I would've made sure the boys kept a good distance from all tables/chairs, as you get some really young kids in mcd's, future ref, if you see a staff member in the dining area you can ask them to ask the group to mind others, we used to get it all the time when I worked in a mcd's and we knew how to deal with more stubborn kids/adults too.

Yabu for going to McDonalds

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 18-May-13 15:07:56

Yabuptight Exit wink

Startail Sat 18-May-13 15:12:19

In ours the football pitch is a interactive game. It causes my DDs to get excited.

There is a lovely line in my old copy of toddler taming, something like...

"If your DCs are stressing you out, go to Mc Ds. There is sure to be a child there that makes you see yours isn't so bad"

NetworkGuy Sat 18-May-13 15:47:45

well done IcingTheCake, for some commonsense and constructive comments, rather than criticising the OP for using that particular chain. (also for explaining for the benefit of this old duffer {me} what the hell the football pitch idea is...).

No YANBU, OP, but afraid boys have pretty appalling role models in footballers, and clearly the nominal 'guardians' were only half cognizant of any other customers.

pigletmania Sat 18-May-13 15:59:50

Ahh some people who actually agree with me grin. Whether its te Nobu o MacDonaldsi would not expect Chidren to run about screeching like banshees and knocking people sitting in their chairs. I could see others around me looking annoyed at them, and the staff seemed exasperated.

IcingTheCake Sat 18-May-13 16:04:33

I must admit I'm surprised the amount of people who completely turn their noses up at it, your kids will only go without telling you, everyone wants to know what the fuss is about haha

ShadeofViolet Sat 18-May-13 16:11:55

Our local MD's has one of those interactive games. There is a splatting fruit one and a basketball one. We go in for Saturday breakfast when its early and therefore really quiet. I always think what a nightmare they would be if its packed.

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