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To encourage my girls to do pageants?

(176 Posts)
Sparklymommy Thu 16-May-13 21:24:25

Ok, sure I am going to be blasted here, however:

I am in the UK, where the pageant scene isn't nearly as bad as it is in the USA. My daughters WANT to compete and ooze confidence and stage presence. They both already perform in dance festivals and talent shows and love the whole dressing up, being beautified thing. My eldest is 10, my youngest 4 next month.

I would never "expect" them to win, or put pressure on them if they didn't do well. I am not into "sexualising" them or turning them into mini adults I just think they would enjoy the experience and it would be good for them.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Thu 16-May-13 21:25:32

Yabu. You sad, sad woman sad

Pozzled Thu 16-May-13 21:26:13

Yabu.

Because you would be teaching them to judge themselves, and others, on appearances.

PoppyAmex Portugal Thu 16-May-13 21:26:59

"It would be good for them"

No, it wouldn't. YABU.

gordyslovesheep Germany Thu 16-May-13 21:27:22

YABU I am guessing this would involve make up and posing and being judged on your 'beauty' - brilliant life lessons for girls right there

Euphemia France Thu 16-May-13 21:27:36

I would keep encouraging the dancing and acting, and nip "being beautified" in the bud. Let them be children - childhood is over all too quickly.

I fail to see any benefits they will gain from pageants that they won't get from dancing/acting.

ChocsAwayInMyGob Thu 16-May-13 21:27:41

What Pozzled said.

Get them to aim for a good career that uses their brain. It is a much bigger favour to them.

Yes, it would be really "good for them" hmm

If they're already doing dance shows and so on what's wrong with continuing those? At least the focus there is on their talent.

NannyPlumIsMyMum Thu 16-May-13 21:31:03

Yabu.

Really???

Sigh.

BackforGood Thu 16-May-13 21:31:46

Can you explain in what way "it will be good for them" please ?

MumtoLaura Thu 16-May-13 21:31:48

I would go for it if they would enjoy it. My Dd would love to try it too.

gordyslovesheep Germany Thu 16-May-13 21:33:07

are they the kind of dance shows that require them to wear neon lycra a face full of glitter, fake and and hold their legs over their heads ...if so - maybe pageants would be better?

ZZZenagain Thu 16-May-13 21:33:27

You say they already "ooze confidence and stage presence. They both already perform in dance festivals and talent shows" so what would they get out of the pageants that they don't already have?

Do more drama, more dancing instead?

SlumberingDormouse Thu 16-May-13 21:33:32

If they enjoy performing, encourage them to sing or learn an instrument. Pagentry is at best, empty; at worst, actively damaging.

boardingschoolbaby Thu 16-May-13 21:33:35

I would always have been hugely anti pageants. However a couple of years ago one of the student teachers at school went home and entered her sister in the Belfast rose competition as joke. As revenge, her sister then entered her too. My friend ended up winning and is still having a fantastic time through this; there is so much more involved than I ever knew about, and she has been in a position to do a huge amount of high profile work for charities that are important to her. It would seem that not all of these competitions are solely about appearances and surprisingly (for me) there was a huge amount of weight placed on personality, values and general life skills that I would never have thought would be involved. I don't know if this particular one is different, or if perhaps these pageants are developing to be less one dimensional (or maybe they never were as one dimensional as I believed them to be).

gordyslovesheep Germany Thu 16-May-13 21:33:51

fake tan ! ffs

Cravingdairy Thu 16-May-13 21:33:53

Your three year old 'WANT[S] to compete and ooze confidence and stage presence'? Are you sure?

SirBoobAlot Thu 16-May-13 21:35:17

If you want them to maintain self confidence, don't enter them into this kind of bullshit.

Why teach them that the only thing that matters is their appearance? Surely everyone wants more than that for their children?

Jengnr Thu 16-May-13 21:35:35

Course there is. Every beauty queen wants World Peace.

picnicbasketcase Thu 16-May-13 21:36:24

I think it's sad that you think it's good for them to believe that their only value is in their looks. Putting makeup on children and dressing them up like adults is completely unnecessary and inappropriate.

ZZZenagain Thu 16-May-13 21:36:57

don't these pageants get expensive with all the costumes, fake tans, make-up, nails and so on? Couldn't you imagine spending all that money on singing lessons, drama classes or something instead?

boardingschoolbaby Thu 16-May-13 21:37:16

Haha, well yes there is of course the miss congeniality edge to it all....

ShadeofViolet Thu 16-May-13 21:37:19

Pagents do sexualise young girls.

Its nasty, horrid stuff for people with little taste and no sense.

RubyOnRails Thu 16-May-13 21:37:37

It's fucking shallow. Get them into drama if they ooze that much stage presence. They are inevitably being sexualised if they're coated in makeup etc.

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