To wonder if this is a cultural thing and not like it?

(101 Posts)
AMAZINWOMAN Thu 16-May-13 17:38:05

In my office we have many volunteers. One of them only gives a "high five" to other black colleagues.

I really dont think the office is the place for a high five anyway, but if it is a cultural thing, then I am wary of saying something.

Is it a culture thing?

GoofyIsACow Thu 16-May-13 17:40:36

confused

ShatnersBassoon Thu 16-May-13 17:42:18

It's a friends thing, I imagine.

Is black a culture?? I'm confused....and I'm with Goofy

OHforDUCKScake Thu 16-May-13 17:43:34

hmm

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Thu 16-May-13 17:45:39

I expect they just like each other.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 16-May-13 17:45:47

Cna you tell us what it is you don't like?

Is it the high five, or that you aren't included?

Are you sure it is only black colleagues that are included?

Or is it only friends that are included? (might be one and the same thing, in this case, or might not)

LEMisdisappointed Thu 16-May-13 17:46:06

high biscuit why does this bother you? are you jealous because you don't get slipped some skin?

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 16-May-13 17:46:30

If you did say something, what would you say? - what would your complaint be?

sue52 Thu 16-May-13 17:46:43

More a young male person's thing and nothing to stress over IMO.

GoofyIsACow Thu 16-May-13 17:47:26

'Slipped some skin' grin

LEMisdisappointed Thu 16-May-13 17:47:50

oh and if they are volunteers, i should think that keeping it a laid back, friendly place to work is better than being all uptight, woldnt you think?

squoosh Thu 16-May-13 17:48:45

I had this awful David Brent type boss once who was very into high fiving. Made him all hip and down with da kidz doncha know!

He also used to cock one leg up on the table and vigorously play air guitar all the feckin' time, 'strumming' dangerously close to his displayed crotch area.

Ahhhh memories.

Cultural high fives? confused

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Thu 16-May-13 17:50:23

Two of my ex colleagues used to fuck each other while others did the work.

High fiving would've been a vast improvement.

grin

Cloverer Thu 16-May-13 17:50:43

I don't remember the last time I saw anyone over the age of 10 high five grin

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 16-May-13 17:52:20

MrsRajesh

hahaha. Publicly???

JenaiMorris Thu 16-May-13 17:53:37

Eh?

Gunznroses Thu 16-May-13 17:53:53

Yes its a cultural thing! Black people don't know how to "hand shake" only high five. Didn't you know? hmm this must be dealt with before it spreads!

MamaMumra Thu 16-May-13 17:54:13

grin @ is black a culture

I think you should get on with your work OP

MamaMumra Thu 16-May-13 17:54:53

Why don't you ask them OP? hmm

My last workplace contained two people who enjoyed groping each other very vigorously, and the man also enjoyed fiddling with himself, with the same energy, and just as publicly, so high fiving sounds okay.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 16-May-13 17:55:07

I love high fives. My quiz team high fives each other when we win. We're all old, and none of us is black. I do some voluntary work though, so there's your common denominator. I bet OP is on the payroll grin

lljkk Thu 16-May-13 17:56:04

Um, just ask the guy why he never high fives you if you think you're being left out?

I'm white and high-five people all the time but I am American so a cultural pleb, after all.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 16-May-13 18:24:55

I work with children and I high five them all the time, although I'm now worried they might be laughing at me behind my back for being so uncool

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