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Tina Mallone Pregnant at 50

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Lickitysplit Thu 16-May-13 13:07:11

AIBU to think it is crazy that Tina Malolne (from Shameless) is pregnant at 50 by donor egg?

squeakytoy Thu 16-May-13 13:48:05

I just think she is an attention seeking idiot for going public with something so early, and for what gain other than to get her face in the media.

Have a baby, fine, but just go and do it privately.. the world does not need to know.

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 16-May-13 13:49:24

Why poor kid confused?
It looks like its going to be a very much loved and wanted kid with two loving parents.
Apparently there's the chance it may be twins toogrin

lisaro Thu 16-May-13 14:03:07

Nobody has mentioned a man of 50 as we are discussing this case. And yes, if by life limiting illness or condition you mean significantly life shortening then having a child you know you definitely will be leaving mother/fatherless very early in life of course it's wrong and selfish.

Sparklingbrook Thu 16-May-13 14:06:28

Her husband is 30ish. the kid will be fine.

Sparhawk Thu 16-May-13 14:07:29

lisaro It must be nice living in a world where everything is just so black and white. hmm

Lottapianos Thu 16-May-13 14:08:17

I don't know how I feel about her being pregnant at 50 but am shock that she is going so very public about it so early. Is she one of these people who seem to live their entire life through the tabloids/trash TV, like Denice Welsh and Kerry Katona?

Sparhawk Thu 16-May-13 14:10:11

Oh and I was talking in general, hand-wringing panic if a woman has a child later on in life, barely a mutter if a man does. She may live to be ninety, she could die the very next day, no-one knows and age absolutely doesn't determine someone's ability to be a parent.

cloudpuff Thu 16-May-13 14:10:37

I saw her on the Jeremy Kyle show (my guilty secret) and he grilled her on having ivf at 50 and she that younger mums could die tomorrow, they both seem in love and seem to have thought it through, she said she would have 3 goes and if it wasnt successful they would buy a puppy. She said over the last two years she gone gone from a 28 to a 8 and her body is healthier than it has ever been.

I get the impression the baby will be very much wanted and loved, dont really see a problem with it, good luck to them

lisaro Thu 16-May-13 14:11:47

SparhawkI would imagine it would be very nice to live the life you want with bugger all thought for the consequences for anybody else.

Mumsyblouse Thu 16-May-13 14:12:05

At current estimates, which are likely to go up in the next few years, the child would still have just under 30 years of having a mum around, and 45/50 years of having the dad around. I can't get outraged by that really.

Sparhawk Thu 16-May-13 14:13:14

You're right, because clearly people with life-limiting illness think, 'Fuck it! I'll have a child because I can,' with absolutely no thought or consideration about what might happen.

LaRegina Thu 16-May-13 14:13:49

I would say she's made it her business by announcing it on National TV at five weeks hmm

I don't warm to her personally but I'm sure that won't bother her.

NotSoNervous Thu 16-May-13 14:15:04

YABU. I'm pleased for her. She looks in the best physical shape she's been in years, she's in a good relationship and doesn't look near 50. I hope it all goes well or her

NotSoNervous Thu 16-May-13 14:15:13

For her*

LaRegina Thu 16-May-13 14:15:29

And the fact that her husband is '30ish' doesn't mean he's going to be around for more than five minutes.

<runs>

FannyFifer Thu 16-May-13 14:15:37

Good luck to her I say, obviously not something she has decided on a whim.

EleanorFarjeon Thu 16-May-13 14:17:54

I can't imagine having a baby at 50 (or even 40 for that matter), but good luck to Tina & her husband.

I was really moved by their story on TV this morning.

Not everyone has textbook lives. She's met this guy later in life, she's got herself slim & healthy and they seem to have their heads screwed on.

I really hope it works out for them.

fedupofnamechanging Thu 16-May-13 14:19:39

I think it's lovely. It's an awful feeling to desperately want to have a baby and not be able to have one, so I'm glad it is now possible for older women to have this option. People live longer and work longer these days, so we are not 'old' in the way that previous generations were by 50 iyswim.

I also think it's important from an equality pov that women have the same opportunities as men - if the dad was 50 no one would be even commenting.

Best of luck to her and her dh.

meddie Thu 16-May-13 14:20:44

My nana was 50 when she had my mum (thought she was having the menopause). My mum says she hated it having such an old mum and dad and had lost both her parents by the time she was 14,it had a huge impact on her life.

Chelvis Thu 16-May-13 14:26:38

Having spent some time with the women, it's her personality rather than her age that makes me feel sorry for the child ....

My great gran had her last child naturally at 52 (unplanned and very unexpected) and she always claimed that it kept her young. She lived to 94, was the first in the family to get a CD player and had a really positive, forward thinking attitude. Not sure I'd want to still be changing nappies 35 years after having my first child though!

I don't really know her story so can't really comment on her case.

However, if it is just a case of she is with a younger man and wanted a baby with him so he can have a child of his own then then no, I don't really agree. Most men who get with a lady approaching 50 will realise her baby days are over. I personally think when your body stops you being able to get pregnant (and I am talking about people without fertility issues here) then it is time to stop!!

I don't know though, was she trying for years and if so then I can sort of understand.

My mum had me when she was 33 and in those days that was considered old. However, she died when I was 39 and I wish she had had me younger so that I could have had some more years with her.

However, life not black and white so I honestly don't know whether Tina Malone is unreasonable or not although I do sway more to the unreasonable camp.

Lottapianos Thu 16-May-13 14:39:13

'Having spent some time with the women, it's her personality rather than her age that makes me feel sorry for the child ....'

Chelvis, I don't know her from Adam but I remember watching her on Celebrity Big Brother a few years ago and she was vile - bullying and argumentative and loud and just seemed dreadful to be around. And she used to bite her toenails! <puke>

EyesCrossedLegsAkimbo Thu 16-May-13 14:41:58

Is she still married to the same bloke she wed on Celebrity Four Weddings?

loofet Thu 16-May-13 14:46:56

'She said younger mums could die at any minute' Yeah, but there's a lot less chance of that happening than there is a woman in her sixties dying. Also it is now our business, she's made it our business by going into details and making a big announcement live on TV. So really we're open to be as judgemental as we want, she's invited that.

It's selfish imo. If she dies at the average age then her kid will be 32. She might not live to see it have children or get married, definitely won't be fit enough to look after the children. That's IF she dies at the average age but she's been a lifelong heavy smoker and always been obese until the past couple of years so chances are she won't. Also I don't think it matters if you're in good health, nobody is as fit and energised at 50 as they were at 25, that's just the natural ageing cycle. She'll struggle keeping up. Even the UK's oldest mum admitted she shouldn't have done it.

She also has a 33 yo daughter who might be getting married and having kids herself soon. She'll be a grandma to kids younger than her own child. Odd, no? So yanbu, totally with you and she shouldn't have announced at 5 weeks.

everlong Thu 16-May-13 14:49:02

My mum had me at 44 and died at 48. Growing up motherless has been hard, as a little girl but also as a woman with her own children.

A mother is needed for more than just the early years.

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