My neighbour is outside mowing/trimming land that belongs to us. Should I be annoyed or grateful?

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There's a small strip of grass/bushes opposite our house. It's the top of a private road so technically that bit is ours. The grass has got a bit overgrown (was mown 2 weeks ago) and one of the bushes was, admittedly, a bit too bushy.

It was on the list to do this weekend. DH is working away this week.

The neighbour has been out with a chainsaw, a strimmer, a mower. I want him to go away! I barely know him (he lives 5 doors down.) Is he doing this to be nice? Is he being an arse? Should I go out with a pitchfork?

DameFanny Thu 16-May-13 22:11:47

shock

Oh my God! I'll keep my neighbour I think!

cocolepew Thu 16-May-13 21:38:41

A man few doors away rugby tackled him to the ground, it wasn't the first time we have had to call the police on him. He was a nightmare.

I want to know too!

DameFanny Thu 16-May-13 21:10:08

coco - what happened next?

Startail Thu 16-May-13 21:01:50

You are reminding me to get DH to do our hedge before next door decides it's an eyesore. She's lovely, but she's not as tall as DH and her garden slopes slightly. She cuts it lower than looks right our side. In any case she's getting on and it's a great beast of a hedge. DH and his petrol clippers ought to do it.

N-S hedge so no great shading issues, it's actually us who loose evening sun, but gain privacy.

ilikehomecookedfood Thu 16-May-13 21:00:03

I did this for my neighbour - it seemed a bit churlish not to as I was out there with the lawnmower anyway! I did text first to ask, though.

Some people are just funny about longish grass; my dad is, he has endless conversations with his neighbours about the length of it hmm

cocolepew Thu 16-May-13 20:57:30

My ndn decided to cut the grass opposite my house,(the council usually do it) then he got out his chainsaw and decided to cut down trees. I asked him to stop and he chased me down the road with the chainsaw.
I didn't give him a beer.

superram Thu 16-May-13 20:52:41

I secretly want to trim the hedges of the house 5 doors down. My own could do with doing but theirs would be a great challenge (fill half the pavement). I would ask first, but probably will never do it. Maybe hoovering my own home would help..,,

I think my husband will just be happy my bush is being trimmed at all to be honest blush

IceNoSlice Thu 16-May-13 20:50:21

Fnar fnar at bush trimming puns.

greenfolder Thu 16-May-13 20:43:36

When my older dc were babies our lovely neighbour david used to do our lawns front and back- he was retired and said that by the time he had warmed the mower up he might just as well do ours. In reality he was lovely and just wanted to help out (and make a fuss of the babies). When I retire I hope I can find a nice young couple to help out!

conantg Thu 16-May-13 20:21:06

Your husband may have views on your neighbour attending to your bush while he is away working.

I get why you're embarassed - but the chances are all your neighbours with the immaculate houses can remember the day when they had little kids and were too tired and busy to trim the garden, too.

I remember dh dithering once about whether to mow the neighbours lawn - it was one of those at the front that joins on with no obvious line between houses, and once you've got the mower out it only took a few minutes extra to do the lot. He was all worried about whether the neighbour would be embarrassed if he mowed it. (He did mow it, she said thanks, it was fine!)

MOTU Thu 16-May-13 15:02:00

Ha ha ha!!! This exact thing is happening to me! And it's our front garden so I am desperately trying to not make eye contact while he is right outside my window. I would move but I'm pregnant and having my one hour of resting time while my toddler sleeps! At least today he's clothed, last time he was shirtless-almost lost my lunch!

shoofly Thu 16-May-13 14:58:16

I used to feel embarrassed by our messy garden, but with a small child who didn't sleep, it was way down my list of priorities. I was always shamed by a quite intimidating neighbour whose garden was immaculate. I mentioned it once to the neighbour in a "Oh your lovely garden puts me to shame" kind of way. She promptly told me to not be daft, I had a husband and small child and more important things to do with my time! She said she was retired and loved gardening and basically it kept her busy! So never worry too much what other people think.

reelingintheyears Thu 16-May-13 14:55:19

I'd actually want him to leave it alone and let wildlife and wild flowers have a chance,even nettles are good for attracting butterflies.

I'm just really embarrassed. I'll be seeing all the other neighbours and they all know he's done it. They're all older with immaculate houses - we're the only ones with little children, a doer-upper and messy bushes.

blush blush blush

I did give him a beer.

OneLittleToddleTerror Thu 16-May-13 13:16:21

Oh now read that you've gone and thanked him. Well done! I wish I have neighbours that nice!

OneLittleToddleTerror Thu 16-May-13 13:13:51

And if he does it again, how about go out, chat to him and maybe offer him a tea and biscuit? Then you'll get to know him, isn't it?

OneLittleToddleTerror Thu 16-May-13 13:13:05

I would be grateful. I'd want a neighbour to come over and do my front garden grin

Floggingmolly Thu 16-May-13 13:10:15

Are you sure the land belongs to you? He probably imagines it's owned by all the residents in common.

HesterShaw Thu 16-May-13 13:06:40

Arf at "not maintaining my bush." grin

HesterShaw Thu 16-May-13 13:06:19

GRATEFUL OF COURSE. Are you mad, woman?

Mine is so overgrown. I'm waiting for neighbour to get fed up of the sight of it and do it. They will crack soon

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