AIBU to think crocodile pajamas are unisex and perfectly suitable for DD?(186 Posts)
This morning I went to Tesco to get DS and DD some pajamas, DD didn't want any of the girls pajamas (cats, cakes, butterflies etc on them) so I said we would look the other side of the shelf for some for DS and go somewhere else for hers.
On the Boy side we selected some with monkeys on for DS and DD saw some with green and blue crocodiles on, and said she liked those. They had her size so I picked up the pack and asked her if she was sure those were the ones she wanted. She was sure so I popped them in the basket at which point an very friendly assistant who had been setting out shoes told me the Girls pajamas were around the other side of the display, I said thank you but we were fine. Then while i was selecting myself some knickers she appeared with a pack of pink pajamas and asked me if DD preferred those. DD bless looked at me and said 'I like crocodiles' so just said again no, we are fine and walked away.
I am sure IANBU, but do you think I am and if I am could somebody please explain what makes crocodiles unsuitable for girls? I am not bothered by the shop assistant she probably has really girly daughters and thought I was trying to make a point and was making sure the crocodiles weren't being forced on DD.
Also, in the very early 20th century, pink was actually a "boyish" colour!
I want a set - those pyjamas are fab
I'd find that very annoying too. The funny thing is that it seems to be perfectly fine and unremarkable for adult women to dress from head to toe in blue, or for adult men to wear pink shirts.
It's fine in itself for a little girl to like wearing pink or a little boy to like wearing blue, but it does seem like it's forced upon you because of the vast amount of colour coded children's clothes.
It seems the marketing has convinced loads of the population that girls can only use pink and boys blue. At least here on MN there are people who don't listen to that rubbish.
My girls quite happily play with what some people would consider to only be "boys toys". They have their blue lego tubs, their plastic bow and arrows and plastic swords.
They are also obsessed with Star Wars. They have their Star Wars quilt cover and their blue Lego quilt cover. I have had some comments but at the end of the day, children like what they like and you can't force things on them.
I'd rather they be happy than be forced to have something just because it is considered to be the way society wants.
By the way - our local Tesco had the crocodile PJs of notoriety reduced today.
Was thinking about this thread earlier as bought dd some muller corner yogurts (as a treat) they are a new range and have pink and white heart shaped biscuits for girls and brown and white biscuits for boys
<faints at the gender madness>
It would turn their clitoris into a penis, that's why not, you fool!
I've just had a boy after a girl. My neighbour just had a girl after a boy. She's been round and given me all her blue blankets and blue baby towels. She's even got rid of white things lined with blue.
Kind, but mad. I do not understand why anyone would think their DD couldn't be dried by a blue towel? Why ever not?
I find it weird that adults seem to classify colours as "boy" or "girls" when they are just colours. I mean, yellow for a girl and green for boys, when adult clothes will feature both colours for either sex.
And it seems more prevalent here in Britain than on the continent. DD went to Germany in March and came back with a lovely emerald green dress and green high heeled shoes. (3.5 inch high heels when she's still not quite 13 - her dad nearly had a heart attack when he saw them . I told him he'd lost that battle before it ever started.)
I want to post as I feel like I'm with kindred spirits here. Baby not yet born and so much indignation from family that we didn't find out the sex because 'how will we know what to buy'
I saw the cutest little socks in yellows, oranges, blues and greens with little cars and trucks on them. Apparently if we have a girl they can never be used.
I did challenge and got back the view that when people look in the pram they'll make the wrong assumption about the sex - big deal I am perfectly capable of answering the question about the sex or correcting them if they've made the wrong assumption.
I can see many battles ahead so no doubt you'll see me on here in years to come! Plus on eBay selling toys and clothes that have been worn once, photo taken then inexplicably got ruined and disappeared
pinkstinks is a great website
I'm sure she was just trying to be helpful, but since when was a mother incapable of buying her own children's clothes?
What has society come to now that girls can only wear pink sparkly shit?
Annoys me no end
that would piss me off
i have a ds and although i am aware of the gender stereot types there seems to be far more pressure on young girls to look and act a certain way
DD1 has had (mainly from Mothercare as I love their animal pjs) - Ladybirds, Giraffes, and Tiger pyjamas recently... while I don't like the crocodile ones pictured just cos of the style of them - I'd have no objection at all to buying her some if I found some really cute ones.
Get sick to death of her being mistaken for a bloody boy at the moment though - she was wearing a flowery hand-knitted cardigan, a snoopy dress and leggings the other day - hardly the most masculine of outfits... but because the outfit was blue I got told a fair few times what a lovely little boy she was! She doesn't wear much pink, especially pale pink - she doesn't suit it - and I like strong colours - but it does grate when she's wearing dresses yet still getting mistaken for a boy because they're in bright red or green or whatever.
KitKat -- actually if I'm remembering correctly, crocodiles change sex depending on hatching temperature...
How I regret the demise of the KidsStuff clothing company.
No boy/girl nonsense from them, everything in the catalogue (possibly barring the skirts? can't remember if they had any) was shown on boys, girls and often teddy bears alike -- we have some great pics of DD and both DSs in sheep, fish, rainbow stripy and dinosaur PJs with a teddy wearing teeny matching ones.
Some of their PJs did all three children without looking threadbare.
Presumably that's why they went out of business, come to think of it -- nothing ever, ever wore out...
I don't have time to read the whole thread so i apologize if someone else has pointed this out but....
Half of all crocodiles must surely be female?! Same with dogs, dinosaurs, and also half of all cats must be male?
I get my 20mth old son the peppa pig onesies from asda... I don't see the issue.
DD-just-2 is living in checked flannelette shirts and plain dark jeans with lacky-sided boots, with her
lovely curly soft hair in two pigtails.
I'm constantly asked why my 'little man' <boak> "hasn't had his hair cut, he looks like a girl"
Their faces when I reply " [hmmm] that's because she is a girl..." Are both insulting and priceless.
DBro pulls it off better than any girl I've seen, anyway.
I love this thread.
My problem and I can see it already even though DD is only twelve weeks old is going to be the IL's.
They have an obsession that she is only allowed dolls and "girly" toys. No lego, football or nerf guns are allowed for her.
My and her are sport mad and football mad but apparently she's not going to be!
Well excuse me but my little girl can be whatever she wants to be. If that means a house full of pinkification then that's fine but equally bring on the cars and lego.
Why do our children have to fit in certain boxes?!
I have to admit though I have bought her a few pink girly dresses but she also looks very cute in her jeans and t shirt from "boys" section!
(On a side note, am v annoyed Mini Boden no longer comes up to age 14. Johnnie B is more expensive & less awesome: I want the giraffe PJs! Actually, I wonder if the boys' sizes come up bigger than the girls' do...)
When my niece was very wee (she's v nearly 2y7m so still wee, but a very leggy thing) my sister & I were very annoyed all the Tigger stuff was aimed at boys. And people got weirdy over a girl being in Awesome Tigger Onesies. Apparently they don't know that Piglet's a boy too...
It's odd really isn't it how people think that certain clothing should be gender specific.
DD's favourite coat is her Gruffalo coat and everyone always thinks that she is a boy when she's wearing it. Why can't there be female Gruffaloes? After all, how did the Gruffalo's Child (who is a girl) come about?
YADNBU...before we knew what gender we were having For DS1, I did the nursary up in a friendly dragon theme - all kinds of people commented how boy-specific it was. How sad...dragons are fun....surely they should be fun for boys and girls alike?
I don't mind dolls and pink and such but find it horrid that toy/departement stores are gender divided...it limits our boys as well as our daughters.
I am currently wearing tiger jammies right now and they are my favourite pyjamas
Also has dibs on tiger jammies.
socks couldn't agree more. I am letting myself fall into a bit of a 'she can have what ever toy she likes
as kind as it falls into my idea of appropriate even if the intention was good.
We will just have to wait and see!
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