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AIBU to think crocodile pajamas are unisex and perfectly suitable for DD?

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CockyFox Thu 16-May-13 12:32:12

This morning I went to Tesco to get DS and DD some pajamas, DD didn't want any of the girls pajamas (cats, cakes, butterflies etc on them) so I said we would look the other side of the shelf for some for DS and go somewhere else for hers.

On the Boy side we selected some with monkeys on for DS and DD saw some with green and blue crocodiles on, and said she liked those. They had her size so I picked up the pack and asked her if she was sure those were the ones she wanted. She was sure so I popped them in the basket at which point an very friendly assistant who had been setting out shoes told me the Girls pajamas were around the other side of the display, I said thank you but we were fine. Then while i was selecting myself some knickers she appeared with a pack of pink pajamas and asked me if DD preferred those. DD bless looked at me and said 'I like crocodiles' so just said again no, we are fine and walked away.

I am sure IANBU, but do you think I am and if I am could somebody please explain what makes crocodiles unsuitable for girls? I am not bothered by the shop assistant she probably has really girly daughters and thought I was trying to make a point and was making sure the crocodiles weren't being forced on DD.

MarthasHarbour Thu 16-May-13 12:36:31

Oooo that made my blood boil (on your behalf!).

She was probably being 'helpful' in a really annoying kind of way, but i applaud you for not batting an eyelid when DD said she wanted crocodiles smile

I have a DS and we have always said if we ever have another and have a DD then she can wear most of DS's old clothes!

MarthasHarbour Thu 16-May-13 12:36:49

oh and YADNBU by the way! wink

Bizarre. My very girly 5 yr old dd is delighted to be wearing her brother's hand me down batman pyjamas this week. I can't see how it is decided that cats are for girls and crocodiles are for boys.

MarthasHarbour Thu 16-May-13 12:39:27
Punkatheart Thu 16-May-13 12:39:54

I loathe the pink girly stuff - as if feminine is always Cartlandesque good smells and quietness. Yeh to crocs! I would have loved those as a kid! Your girl sounds adventurous and lovely.

AThingInYourLife Thu 16-May-13 12:40:53

"I can't see how it is decided that cats are for girls and crocodiles are for boys."

Because cats are cute and fluffy, like girls.

A crocodiles are tough and interesting, like boys.

Passmethecrisps Thu 16-May-13 12:42:52

Crocodiles are awesome. Dinosaurs are awesome. Why should only boys get awesome?

YADNBU.

Before my DD was born we didn't know what sex se was so we bought what we thought was unisex - including dinosaur babygrows and blue and red spotty ones. It would appear we were the only people who thought these were unisex

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Thu 16-May-13 12:43:05

Cats are viscious killers.

Crocodiles are viscious killers.

Children are children.

Nope, none the wiser.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Thu 16-May-13 12:45:14

I spelled vicious wrong. Oops blush

RooneyMara Thu 16-May-13 12:46:57

I hate it when this happens. It's intended, I think, to make you feel bad on some level but I can't quite put my finger on why.

ds3 is 4 months old and he sometimes wears a little red coat, and tights. A lot of people assume he is a girl, but even when they know he's a boy, people stare as though I am going to damage him by dressing him in red and/or tights (I presume that is the problem)

He also has a red pushchair and I get asked if he is a girl frequently.

AThing? You're being sarcastic, right? hmm

(Hard to tell without the tone of voice...)

MarthasHarbour Thu 16-May-13 12:49:13

i wondered this too orchard hmm

RooneyMara Thu 16-May-13 12:50:12

yes of course she is.

CockyFox Thu 16-May-13 12:50:17

I knew it wasn't just me. I like crocodiles so does DD.

I'm not somebody who says this is for boys and this is for girls but equally I'm not anti-pink and Anti-princess, I'm just Pro-DD and however she wants to be .

RooneyMara Thu 16-May-13 12:50:35

well from what I know of Thing.

BarbarianMum Thu 16-May-13 12:50:55

No you are not being unreasonable. I would go so far as to say, had your ds wanted the pink pajamas, that would not have been unreasonable either.

Animals are not gender specific.
Pirates are not gender specific.
Flowers are not gender specific.
Vehicles are not gender specific.
Colours are not gender specific.....and on and on.

Today a mum at school complained that her daughter had selected a 'boys book' from the library. It was a factual book about science. Girls only like fiction, apparently. hmm

Sometimes I could weep.

If it's any consolation op DS decided he was going to wear his tutu out today. Did try a feeble attempt at taking it off him before we left but he's ill, we've not slept & anyone who wants to give him funny looks is risking it, as I've not had enough sleep to stop myself from telling them what I think about their 'helpful' advice on gender appropriate clothing... brew

RooneyMara Thu 16-May-13 12:52:39

Oh lovely! Ds1 had a tutu. Once he painted himself green, face included and put on my old pink ballet tutu. He was 3 at the time.

I love showing him the photos, now he is 9 this is all UNTHINKABLE

NeedsTherapy Thu 16-May-13 12:53:10

I had a similar problem with dd. we went to buy some wellies and I wasn't keen on any of the pink ones, I aske what she wante and she picked out some skull and cross bone ones, after a discussion about why I didn't think they were appropriate (girl or boy I don't do skull and cross bones on clothes unless dressing up as a pirate) she picked some boots with fish on them only for an assistant near by to point out all the pretty girls shoes and say she wouldn't really want the yucky boys shoes would she? My dd looked at me and said, but its fish, I like fish.
The till operator also asked if they were for her brother and made a comment along the lines of but there for boys dd is 2!

I don't even look in the girls section for my dds most of the time any more! Especially for PJs. The girls PJs are always cut ridiculously small for some reason. Last week I bought Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle PJs for dd2 (6) and Avengers Pjs for dd1 (10).

CockyFox Thu 16-May-13 12:53:56

And DS who is my eldest had a red pushchair, red is definitely unisex. After all some of the most stereotypical tough men dream of owing a red Ferrari.

Saski Thu 16-May-13 12:54:48

I am pleased to hear that there will be some cute little girl in crocodiles, because I have met too many mothers who push the pink sparkleigh nonsense before the poor girls are actually conditioned to it, thereby actually contributing to it. I don't understand.

Plomino Thu 16-May-13 12:55:09

DD 1 rolled out of bed this morning wearing her brothers Dr Who and the Daleks pyjamas , which she prefers to her fairy ones because the dalek ones are soft and well worn .

She also insists in going riding in her brothers old Arsenal fleece for the same reason .

She has thick blonde hair down to her waist , so as yet , no one has mistaken her for a boy . Ad if she's happy ( and slept longer today than she has for a week ) then why not ???

MrsHowardRoark Thu 16-May-13 12:56:17

This kind of thing really pisses me off.
Why do people insist on reinforcing gender stereotypes?

At a cafe today I was asked what sex my child was. When I asked why I was told that the boys' picnic had a turtle box and Spider-Man chocolate and the girls' had a butterfly box and hello kitty chocolate. I refused to tell them and it caused the most ridiculous panic.

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