In leaving DD at home poorly whilst we go out for a meal?

(52 Posts)

It's my birthday. DH and I are meant to be going to the local hostelry for dinner whilst DD is at Guides in the next door hall. We can walk her to Guides at 7pm, have dinner then walk home with her at 9pm.

She has not gone to school because of a sore throat and bad head.

DH thinks we shouldn't leave her at home this evening and we should cancel our meal.

I think she will survive.

She is 13.

Gentle is not in my psyche I'm afraid.

blush Sorry - posted too late.

Sorry you didn't get your birthday night out sad

Just go! She's 13 and has a sore throat. Wouldn't think twice of going if it was me. Happy Birthday!

SusanneLinder Fri 17-May-13 12:34:46

Your DH better make up for being a prat on your birthday.

FWIW- I would have left the 13 year old. My 14 year old is also off with a sore throat, and I buggered off to Morrisons and left her.grin

TheSecondComing Fri 17-May-13 11:24:03

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THERhubarb Fri 17-May-13 11:22:05

I bloody hope he apologised to you Exit! I bet you pull out all the stops on his birthday and it annoys me no end when they can't be arsed to make an effort for you.

Make sure he takes you out this weekend and gently remind him of all the things you've for him on birthdays and Father's Day.

Glad your dd is feeling better.

Kewcumber Fri 17-May-13 11:20:23

if she's well enough to go to guides, she's well enough to be left for a few hours. She's not a baby.

Did she go to guides (out of interest)?

ssd Fri 17-May-13 11:18:15

yy to "one of our arguments"

been there done that

She is a bit better. Managed to phone me from her room to demand a bacon butty!

Thumbwitch Fri 17-May-13 11:09:55

Aww shame but I can relate. Hope DD is better today.

No we didn't. DH and I had one of our arguments at lunchtime and I decided I would rather imbibe belladonna than sit making pleasant conversation with him for two hours. So I cancelled the table and drank a bottle of prosecco and ate a bag of peanuts whilst watching the dambusters anniversary.

Alwayscheerful Fri 17-May-13 07:33:05

13 not 3!

Areyoumadorisitme Fri 17-May-13 07:26:20

Did you go and did you have a nice evening?

LEMisdisappointed Thu 16-May-13 16:51:52

So long as she is happy to be left, she will be fine - go and enjoy yourself - i would suggest getting a friend to keep her company (emphasis on the "company" not look after, shes 13!) but you don't want to pass on whatever lurgies she has - she will probably sit and facebook everyone watch tv anyway. She will be gutted if you stay home grin

Almostfifty Thu 16-May-13 13:01:52

She's 13, not 3!

Happy Birthday!

THERhubarb Thu 16-May-13 13:01:06

Tell your dh to get a grip.

THERhubarb Thu 16-May-13 13:00:21

If she doesn't get any worse then rent a DVD for her to watch. Make sure she takes a couple of painkillers and has a drink by her side. Take your phones with you.

She will probably be fine and if she's not then she can call you to come home.

If you don't go and she's ok then you'll only resent her and your dh for making you stay behind.

It's not like you are going to be a million miles away, you are just down the road. You can be back within minutes. Obviously if she worsens then you must stay but if she's no different, no good can come from you cancelling your meal. She is hardly likely to benefit much from you skulking around her.

Happy Birthday!

I was left on my own at 10 whilst parents went to work shock

Right, decision made, just need to talk DH round now.

LaQueen Thu 16-May-13 12:55:54

Paracetamol, get her comfy infront of the TV...off you toddle...enjoy your dinner smile

differentnameforthis Thu 16-May-13 12:38:40

I was left on my own at 13 with chicken pox, while parents went to work. Coped pretty well all told.

Pretty sure your dd will be fine & might enjoy her own company!

RocknRollNerd Thu 16-May-13 12:13:31

Go! and Happy Birthday!

Me and DH buggered off to Bath for 2 nights when DS (aged 2 or 3 I think) had tonsillitis. It had been booked and paid for months in advance and MIL was coming to stay and look after DS. I had a brief crisis of guilt when we got up the morning we were due to go and he was 39 and a bit degrees and clearly suffering with his usual sudden onset tonsillitis. We went to docs, got anti-b's and MIL persuaded us that she'd raised 3 kids (incl DH who was also a martyr to his tonsils!) and it would all be fine. It was indeed fine (we knew DS picks up very quickly once he has anti-b's and he adores MIL) so I would say leaving a 13 year old for 2 hours should almost certainly be more than fine.

badtasteyoni Thu 16-May-13 12:12:54

Ok that's not possible then - I was thinking of one of her grandparents, etc coming round to keep her company rather than a real 'babysitter' IYSWIM....

I am ashamed to say we have never had a babysitter apart from my parents. My dad is housebound so she usually goes there if we need to go out. But I don't want him catching whatever lurgy she has.

The irony is that she is meant to be having her mmr jab at 5pm.

<opens can of worms>

Hope she hasn't got mumps shock

HazleNutt Thu 16-May-13 12:09:52

I certainly would have been shock if my parents got me a babysitter at age 13 because I had a sore throat.

badtasteyoni Thu 16-May-13 12:07:45

Happy Birthday! But I think it's a bit mean to leave her at home on her own if she's unwell. Can't you get someone to come and sit with her for a couple of hours so you can still go without feeling guilty?

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