So LO is 5 months old now and I need to know if I should be putting my foot down with my OH!
We got off to a bad start when LO was born. She would cry if anyone held her but me. This, along with the shock of what a newborn is REALLY like, meant there was no instant bond between OH and LO. This improved when the crying calmed down but still 5 months on and I do absolutely everything for LO. I really don't mind as I enjoy my LO so much but it winds me up so much to see my OH's lack of interest. I've had so many moments of anger but talk myself out of saying anything hurtful because i think he will be so good with her once she is that bit older.
But it frigging kills me sometimes. HV suggested early weaning due to reflux and after a few days of the boring stuff I was very excited to give LO her first veggie puree. I purposely timed it for weekend so he could be there. But when I was all set up he said he wasn't bothered about watching and stayed on his computer!! I had to bloody try and spoonfeed, stop her putting fingers in mouth and film with my phone at same time (because our parents seem to care more than he does). He realised I was mad and came in in the end but that's not the point...
Things got a bit heated when LO was 2.5 months old and before I knew it I had said that my dad had done more bottle feeding than he had and my parents had only visited 4 times as they live so far away. This made OH extremely upset and he agreed I'd hit a nerve cos he knows he's not done enough. But nothing's changed.
I'm sick of offering, suggesting and nagging in a polite way. I want him to just want to do it!!!
If anyone here had an OH who was exactly the same please tell me that an amazing bond was formed once LO wasn't a baby! All I hear from other new fathers is a completely different attitude!
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littleginger · 15/05/2013 21:52
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