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to not know what ive got til its gone...come back pre baby body all is forgiven

(32 Posts)
iccarus Tue 14-May-13 12:43:50

Ok, so my two beautiful baby boys are undeniably worth it but seriously im not even 30 and my body is wrecked already!ive always had pretty low confidence in my appearance but i look back at pics taken about five years ago and wonder what i was moaning about. I was a size 10 with reasonably perky boobs, shiny hair and no dark circles (ruddy great haversacks) under my eyes. Fast forward and i look older than my mother with stretch marks, saggy boobs and an extra 2.5 stone that wont flaming shift. Mirrors should be banned!aibu to want to slap the old me about a bit and say enjoy it while it lasts you stupid woman!

My lovely curvy smooth body that i thought was fat is so long gone i miss it soo much sad pregnant with dc3 and i have - stretchmarks from behind my knees right up my legs, round my bits and bobs, up to my boobs, around my back fat, on My saggy dd/e boobs and am just repulsive sad i am wibbly for crying out loud!

Dp loves my big fat boobs, has no problems with my strutting about in the nude but i know he misses my pre ds body as much as i do. Once dd2 comes i'm taking up every exercise known to man grin

bishboschone Tue 14-May-13 15:55:48

My dd is 9 and I jut about regained my figure but ds is 2 and its finished off my skin. To be fair I don't exercise other than walking at mo due to bad back but still I don't think it can be fixed . In an hourglass though and with the right underwear I can wear body con stuff so it's not all bad .

TerrysNo2 Tue 14-May-13 15:53:43

Icarus I don't mean things will get worse, just that we always look back on things with rose tinted glasses!

nicelyneurotic Tue 14-May-13 15:08:01

Mine has popped back more or less to normal, slight dimples on one side of belly but not too bad at all so there is hope! And I am not a young mum either.

But my hair, oh I have about 50% of what I used to have! Does it grow back?

BreconBeBuggered Tue 14-May-13 14:36:11

The tragic thing is, I still look for clothes that would only suit pre-baby me. Well, pre-DS2 anyway - managed to ping back quite successfully after the first pregnancy. I look longingly at the cute little dresses and tight trousers I used to wear, then stump off to get myself something sackshaped from Frumps R Us.

Bumpotato Tue 14-May-13 14:34:10
Bumpotato Tue 14-May-13 14:31:43

My boobs, fat belly with apron make my front look like Homer Simpson's face (boobs are the eyes, apron crease the mouth and belly button the nose)

loofet Tue 14-May-13 14:28:09

Yes!! Totally with you... Before DC I had a perfect hourglass figure with perky DD's. I always wanted those horrible stick thin legs that look like they're going to snap for some unknown reason so I was always going 'on a diet' when in reality my body was perfect for my height and just really suited me.

Fast forward to now after 3 large babies I have 3 stone i'm really struggling to shift (lost 2 this year but the other 3 i'm really struggling with), saggy FF boobs, stretch marks galore and a saggy tummy. I hate my body now, I wish wish wish I hadn't ever put my pre-baby body down sad Doubt it will come back now...

OHforDUCKScake Tue 14-May-13 14:25:50

ICBNG might you have separated stomach muscles from pregnancy?

KellyElly Tue 14-May-13 14:24:30

You never appreciate what you've got when you have it. Human nature grin. The dark shadows under the eyes are what really gets me. they never go no matter how much bloody sleep I get. Someone needs to invent a miracle eye cream!

DyeInTheEar Tue 14-May-13 14:23:47

Really? Dare I dream? I've had 3 . Thought I'd passed the tipping point [sob]

Wishwehadgoneabroad Tue 14-May-13 14:22:07

Dye My belly button did that. It's back to normal now though. Give it time maybe?

DyeInTheEar Tue 14-May-13 14:20:49

I had a lovely belly button. Now I have a ginormous over stretched crater.

iccarus Tue 14-May-13 14:19:12

Oh crumbs terry, don't say that. Ive already thought things will get worse if we decide to go ahead for number 3. Bouncychair are you finding the weight hard to shift despite breastfeeding? Breastfeeding helped the weight drop off with ds1 but ds2 is 4 months now and if anything weight seems to be creeping further up.Garr!

iccarus Tue 14-May-13 14:17:45

Oh crumbs terry, don't say that. Ive already thought things will get worse if we decide to go ahead for number 3. Bouncychair are you finding the weight hard to shift despite breastfeeding? Breastfeeding helped the weight drop off with ds1 but ds2 is 4 months now and if anything weight seems to be creeping further up.Garr!

TerrysNo2 Tue 14-May-13 13:51:52

In 5 years time you will probably wonder why you didn't appreciate the current you! grin

bouncychair Tue 14-May-13 13:51:00

So glad I'm not the only one! I only had DC2 6 months ago by c-section and still breastfeeding so finding it just too difficult to diet.

But my whole arse/hip area just seems to have spread - I can't see it ever going back!

Fairylea Tue 14-May-13 13:43:33

Ice I have the same thing. Doctors have told me it is tummy muscle separation and go on about exercises. I have done everything and anything and it never ever goes.

I know where everyone on this thread is coming from!

Peevish Tue 14-May-13 13:41:46

Don't start me on .Caesarean overhang. Can I just add I want my pre baby HAIR back? I had a lot fall out when my son was about four months old, and nine months later, I have short, curly regrowth around my temples, which looks stupid. I was looking at some photos of when I was about 42 weeks pregnant, and I don't see the bump, I just see the glossy, thick hair!

ICBINEG Tue 14-May-13 13:37:17

bish how long have you been in this state?

Also why is the preggers stretching apparently less likely to re-tension than the eating fantastic amounts of cake stretching?

Wishwehadgoneabroad Tue 14-May-13 13:36:28

I hear you

<looks at size 14 body post baby and wishes for old size 10 body back pronto>

bishboschone Tue 14-May-13 13:34:48

Me too.. I'm a size 8-10 but body is sooo squishy and I have a very crepey tummy. It's annoying because I have great abs underneath. Boob were amazing when I was young , now just meh hmm.... Hey ho.

ICBINEG Tue 14-May-13 13:31:20

yes there is a vertical crack with two cheeks underneath...

bamboobutton Tue 14-May-13 13:19:12

God yes!

I was looking at old photos the other day and can't believe i used to think i was fat, i was a size 10 and thought i was fat!

<looks at size 16 on 5'4" frame> now I'm fat.

OHforDUCKScake Tue 14-May-13 13:07:43

ICBINEG is the crack vertical?

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