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to think sitting in a pub drinking on your own for 5 hours is an abnormal thing to do

(64 Posts)
aisoft Sun 12-May-13 20:44:01

Me and DP went shopping today and popped into Walkabout at about about 3:45 to get some food before going home. My little brother was in there drinking on his own and he had several empty pint glasses on his table. I asked him about this and he said he'd come down to watch the football at 1, he's a Spurs fan and his team were playing at 1:30 but then he was staying on to watch the next game which kicked off at 4, this means he would have been there nearly 5 hours drinking alone incessantly. I think this is very strange thing to do but DP thinks its no big deal as he's just relaxing on a Sunday and I'm being a nag and a busybody.

MidniteScribbler Tue 14-May-13 12:49:47

I don't think it's strange. When I travel I love nothing more than to find a nice bar/pub with outdoor tables, and sit and drink some local wine whilst watching the crowds go by, which I find interesting. You usually end up being invited to join a group, or end up chatting with people.

harleyd Tue 14-May-13 12:44:50

perfectly normal
i wouldnt think twice about going to the bar by myself if nobody else wanted to go out

Crinkle77 Tue 14-May-13 12:38:46

Not that unusual unless he was doing it everyday. I know loads of fella's who go to the pub on their own and watch the footy.

nevergoogle Mon 13-May-13 22:46:12

are you going to tell on him? grin

Callycat Mon 13-May-13 19:50:06

Yeah, I was a bit rash. Sorry, I should not have implied that everyone who does this is an alcoholic.

'Tis a sore point with me. I'll shush now.

IrritatingInfinity Mon 13-May-13 14:44:17

Fishing and bird watching can involve hours of 'sitting' not doing much. Neither do anything for me but I can see that it is nice to sit, relax and be lost in your thoughts.

Celticlassie Mon 13-May-13 14:35:41

Not weird at all - I've got lots of male friends (and my little brother) who do this regularly.

I think the whole idea that drinking alone suggests a problem is a very outdated one. I lived alone for a number of years - does this mean I should never have had a glass of wine with dinner, or while watching a film on a Saturday night?

Lj8893 Mon 13-May-13 14:12:16

Callycat, sorry you have found that to be your experience within your family.

However its really not the case.

Callycat Mon 13-May-13 13:11:45

From experiences within my family, I'd say the only people who are happy to sit drinking, alone, for hours on end are alcoholics.

Lj8893 Mon 13-May-13 11:16:50

Yeah on a night out in a pub women (lone or not) can get harrassed!

But just generally spending a quiet day in a pub like has been discussed, I don't think a lone woman is too likely to get constantly chatted up. I certainly haven't been unless I've been completely naive when I have sat in a pub on my own for an afternoon (or even quiet evening) I've just had friendly people talk to me (male and female, and either I or them have started the conversation)

It isn't that women on their own is so much thought of as strange, its the constant chatting up that is the problem and men seeing you as fair game. It can be a problem, when I go out with one of my female friends we often go to gay clubs, to be out of that atmosphere. The smaller, more friendly pubs have closed that were "my locals".

StuntGirl Mon 13-May-13 10:23:22

What? Personally I think it's weird that you think it's weird.

Morloth Mon 13-May-13 10:16:29

I have sat in pubs for hours with a book and a bottle of wine.

How is that any different?

Haven't got that kind of time now, but if I did, I would.

The only difference is the entertainment.

Flobbadobs Mon 13-May-13 10:15:10

Normal. I have been known to call in somewhere for a drink when on my own, a woman drinking alone isn't seen as anything weird round here!
He would have wanted to watch the football with likeminded people even if he didn't know them.

Lj8893 Mon 13-May-13 10:12:20

I don't think women on their own in pubs is thought of as strange, its certainly not strange where I live.

Thinking about it, if I had the choice of shopping for the day, or sitting in the pub, I would sit in the pub.

Thinking about it, if I had the choice of shopping for the day, or sitting in the pub, I would sit in the pub.

It is normal in every pub that I go into regularly. In a way if a Match is on and you are a regular, you aren't really "on your own". He has spent the day watching sport whilst having a drink, I don't see the problem. I am not a big football fan, but I like to watch main games in the pub. I feel disappointed if I don't know anyone who wants to go out to watch the World Cup, I wish that women on their own in pubs were not thought of "as strange".

bollockstoit Mon 13-May-13 09:54:25

I think it's "normal", and I know several men who do this, however they are fairly heavy drinkers. It can be normal and still not a particularly good idea.

MadBusLady Mon 13-May-13 09:38:20

I'd do that and not even to watch the football. I'd probably stop at three pints and I'd have some food too, but then I'm not a 19yo strapping lad. I'd take books and newspapers and the kindle and have a chat to the bar staff or a random punter now and then. Bliss.

Obviously he can't drink that amount every day forever, but I assume he doesn't? Agree with what SundaysGirl said, this is maybe an introvert/extrovert thing.

Trill Mon 13-May-13 09:34:35

He wasn't on his own, he was there with all the other football fans.

He wasn't just drinking, he was watching football.

It's not as if he spent 5 hours sitting silently staring into space while drinking.

SundaysGirl Mon 13-May-13 09:22:38

I still don't get WHY you thnk its strange? Because he was not with a specific group of people? Whats the difference in sitting with 3 mates and watching a game all afternoon with some pints and doing it 'alone' around those you don't actually know but sharing the atmosphere?

So long as he is not a problem drinker to your knowledge I'd say this is more about how you feel about socialising and spending time by yourself than about your brother.

Morloth Mon 13-May-13 08:49:19

God, what I wouldn't give for 5 hours alone in a pub drinking...

cory Mon 13-May-13 08:36:30

Drinking alone is only a problem if you need the presence of other people to restrain you from drinking too much. That will be true of some people. But not everybody is in that boat.

The same quantity of alcohol isn't suddenly going to become more dangerous because you consume it on your own.

And it is totally possible to become an alcoholic in company.

60sname Germany Mon 13-May-13 00:27:07

DP sometimes goes to watch a game on his own in our local - we have Sky but the flat is small and he thoughtfully doesn't want to hog the tv all day if there are back to back games. He likes the atmosphere and has a few pints, doesn't equate to a drink problem!

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