To still feel upset and a bit confused about this incident?

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Flossyfloof Sat 11-May-13 23:52:05

Went out for a meal with some acquaintances the other night. Had a nice time and got to know one or two new people. Whilst I was talking to one woman, someone's Mum, in the middle of a conversation she said to me "You're a bitch!". I genuinely had/have no idea where that came from. I didn't want any confrontation and didn't respond at all. Later on, when she was saying goodbye to her daughter, I was right next to her and she said, very loudly "She's a bitch!". I still don't know what I might have said to offend and honestly don't think I said anything. This lady lives some way away but I live close to her daughter. I want to text the daughter to ask what I have done. I don't want to fall out with anyone but I have now been bothered about this for a few days, can't seem to let it go. I would really like to ask what I did and to explain that I think this woman perhaps misunderstood or misinterpreted something I said. I loathe the word bitch and am probably reacting more because of this word than if she had used another one. Please talk me through this!

GingerBlondecat Sun 12-May-13 16:30:48

Sweetie, given how concerned you are and worked up trying to work out if you had done something wrong, albeit unknowingly.
My Thoughts are that she has a medical issue.

((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))) And give yourself a break.

If it was YOU, your friend would have said something to you

GingerBlondecat Sun 12-May-13 16:31:12

flowers

LeaveTheBarSteward Sun 12-May-13 18:05:59

It is really odd, please do update us though.

SugarPasteGreyhound Sun 12-May-13 18:44:50

I read your op and immediately wondered if there might be an issue with dementia or Alzheimer's

Flossyfloof Wed 22-May-13 23:00:50

Well, I did promise to return with an update! I managed to speak to my neighbour briefly this evening as I was giving her a lift, but only had a couple of moments as I was giving someone else a lift too! I asked if she had heard what the Mum and I were talking about and she said that she hadn't really been aware. She certainly didn't hear what the Mum said, as I thought. She was quite shocked but then we stopped discussing it as our other friend got in. So nothing else to say, really, except that I am not bothered about it any more. I was genuinely upset for a few days (pathetic, i know but it was a bit of a shock at the time) and asking for advice one here did help me get it into perspective. I haven't seen the neighbour whose birthday it was. Not sure if I would say anything now, I don't feel so bad about it, although I do feel pissed off that it spoiled my night and if I do tackle her it will make her feel bad. Have to see how I feel when I speak to her.

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