To change my 5yo daughters name?

(122 Posts)
HalfBakedCleverCookie Fri 10-May-13 14:45:25

I am planning to change the surname of my 5yo daughter. She currently has my maiden name but uses my married name so I am going to change it officially to my married name.

However whilst I am doing that via deedpoll (that is the only way to do it due to various circs) I am wondering wether to change her first name also.

Her name is Katie, when I named her I didn't realise that Katie is short for Catherine and ever since I found out I have regretted not giving her a 'proper' name. She would still use Katie as her daily name but would have the option of using Catherine when she was older.

so WIBU to change both her names while I am at it or should I leave Katie alone and just change her surname?

BenjaminButton172 Sun 12-May-13 09:31:48

Katie/jamie/sam are not nicknames. They are just names.

Why put a name on the birth certificate if u arent going to use it. I hate the 'our child is called alexander but we call him alex & we never use alexander'. Why didnt u just call the child alex. Its pointless.

nooka Sat 11-May-13 23:04:02

My children both have a formal name but are generally known by their nicknames. It's never caused a problem, nor do I understand why it might. The short forms are very closely linked to their formal names (like Jamie/James). My brother has always been known by the short form of his name, professionally and by friends and family. Seem completely normal to me, and I've never heard him complain.

Sure when flying etc the formal name is used, but that's not exactly a problem. My father was always known by his middle name, which is a bit more tricky, but he said it was no big deal (my mother complained, but he just responded to his 'other' name too).

mikkii Sat 11-May-13 22:47:56

My friend's daughter is also Katie.

Please don't change her name, my son's names are Alessandro Valentino, we use Valentino, Tino for short. It is truly a PITA remembering to book his plane tickets to match his passport. We wish we had never done it. DD's both get called by the name on their passport ( well, ish....)

2rebecca Sat 11-May-13 22:41:30

Sam is a nickname for Samuel, or Samantha.

Gottalovecosta Sat 11-May-13 20:36:22

Our son is called Sam - we decided we'd never call him Samuel and Sam is a 'proper' name. If he decides when he's older he'd like to have the fuller version of the name, he can choose to do that.

Anytime we're at hospital with him, they often call out 'Samuel Gottalovecosta.' despite his records all saying 'Sam'!

whatsonyourplate Sat 11-May-13 19:52:44

As the mother of a Kathryn, I think Katie has a higher chance of getting her name spelled correctly!

2rebecca Sat 11-May-13 19:48:44

Fair enough

HalfBakedCleverCookie Sat 11-May-13 18:31:17

2rebecca, school call her by married surname, that is what I asked them to call her and they never questioned it.

Even though her dad and I have split up, me and her brother both have married surname which is why I want her to have it also.

2rebecca Sat 11-May-13 14:35:23

I agree that a child won't be keen on a longer form of their name, but as an adult I don't see any disadvantage to having a longer more grown up version of your name to use if you wish.
"Becky" would be fine as a child but if that was on my birth certificate I don't have the option of the more elegant professional sounding Rebecca.

BlackholesAndRevelations Sat 11-May-13 14:19:28

I've taught children whose names are not what's on their birth certificate, eg Toby who was really tobias, and eddie who was Edward. Both boys got very upset (as did their parents!) when they were called by the full names. Why bother?

LooseyMy Sat 11-May-13 14:00:30

I've never understood the point of calling children a name they won't be addressed as. It just complicates life!

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected Sat 11-May-13 13:48:43

Definitely go for it - it's not up to anyone else but you.

cluecu Sat 11-May-13 11:31:43

I was baptised Katherine but called Katy from day 1. My mum wanted to give me a saint's name officially but knew Katy would be my name.

She spelled it with a 'y' as that made it seem a bit more unique so that's the only way I've ever used and I'm still the only Katy with a y that I know (apart from in the What Katy Did books) smile

2rebecca Sat 11-May-13 09:47:58

I would change Katie to Katherine because I'm in the Katie is a nickname brigade, like Jamie, Tony, Davie , Mandy etc. At 5 I'd probably ask her opinion, also what does her dad think. Changing her surname seems a bit off if you've split up from her dad anyway. How can she not know what her surname really is if she's 5? Surely the school/ nursery call her by her real surname?

HalfBakedCleverCookie Sat 11-May-13 08:53:26

Thanks kitty the kids know themselves as married name though so I don't mind keeping it.

Thanks everyone, I am keeping Katie as she is, I would have never known about the Katherine link if it hadn't been for mumsnet anyway. I loved it then, I live it now so why mess with it.

Arf at choosing a name because you prefer a song. Not a bad idea as inspiration but not reason to change it at 5 grin

KaFayOLay Sat 11-May-13 08:32:27

I have a Katie, never ever has she been referred to as Katherine and nobody has ever asked if Katherine is her real name.
I wouldn't change it.

pmgkt Sat 11-May-13 03:27:44

I'm a Katie not a Katherine, never been a problem. Keep it if she likes it.

chipmonkey Sat 11-May-13 03:13:28

I made the mistake of calling ds1 an "official" name which I didn'r lik and he hates! And which MIL insisted on using for about a year.
So ds3 is Tom! Officially.

McNewPants2013 Sat 11-May-13 02:59:51

My dd name is Katie to me it is her name. I think it's the best female name (biased of course )

PaWithABra Sat 11-May-13 01:06:04

Actually 'Marie' is a better song . Call her that .

PaWithABra Sat 11-May-13 00:56:43

unless you call her 'marie'

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDuOZnk2JLU

PaWithABra Sat 11-May-13 00:55:13

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IY9zzmV-ED4

the greatest song EVER written was written for a Katie. Don't you dare change it, ever.

katieellen Sat 11-May-13 00:08:01

my daughters name is kate , i call her katherine sometimes to annoy her as she hates the name and says its old fashioned ,her friends also shorten it to kat , kate and katie are modern names , i would stick with katie she will never use katherine .

SoftKittyWarmKitty Fri 10-May-13 23:14:25

I see, thanks for explaining OP, you've been through a lot. Personally I'd change mine and the kids back to my maiden name rather than keep the surnames same as an abusive ex's but it's up to you, of course. Good luck with it all.

HalfBakedCleverCookie Fri 10-May-13 23:05:59

No her older brother.

Older brother was named after dad who was abusive so we split up, I was pregnant with Dd and named her my maiden name. Exh said he had changed and scared of being alone with two children I took him back, we married, he hadn't changed and we have now seperated. I will be keeping my married name as I like it, ds already has it and Dd has always used it and thinks its her name so I might as well make it official.

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