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Wishihadabs Thu 09-May-13 18:29:28

Maybe should have posted in relationships anyway here goes. I regularly WOTH on Thursdays. DH works from home and does school runs. A group of his mate's go out every month ona Thurday night . Only thing is they meet at 530 pm so I am rarely back from work. I try to enable DH to attend these sessions as often as possible. This week I organised a babysitter (just because I had her number on my phone) which he was happy to pay for so he could go. She is 18 and doing her A-levels. Unfortunately she forgot tonight. DH is now suggesting leaving the dcs (who need feeding) with either the builder ( who hasent yet left) or the 12 year old across the street ! it's a real pity the original babysitter forgot , but these things happen, she is probably a bit sttressed out about her exams. AIBU to think hello should suck it up instead of implementing these crackpot schemes for our dcs on a school night. Or am I overreacting ? It is v. frustrating as I have finished work but was at meeting this pm so on my way home, but won't be there til at leas t730 ( which IMO is a far more sensible time to go out anyway) and I am wondering what on earth I am going to come home to.

LemonPeculiarJones Thu 09-May-13 20:25:01

YANBU. He is. Whats wrong with him? Potentially endangering his kids for a night out?

And why is he so desperate about being there so early?

PurpleSwift Thu 09-May-13 21:11:24

Can't he just go at 7.30 instead?

livingdownunder Thu 09-May-13 21:41:42

how old are the dcs? I'm very confused as to his suggestions to leave with the builder or a 12yr old. Does he normally come up with these odd ideas?
YANBU

Wishihadabs Thu 09-May-13 21:44:26

No this is not normal for him.FWIW if he wants to pay a babysitter (trusted and known to the dcs) so he can go out when I'm not there, I have no problem with it. As I said it's only once a month the dcs like our regular babysitter. So I think it's fine.

However I totally not ok with him leaving them with uncle Tom Codly and all so he can go out with his mates.

In the end he went and collected our babysitter so they were with a familiar person. I think I made my feelings very clear.

Wishihadabs Thu 09-May-13 21:57:19

Dc are 9 &6

AnyFucker Thu 09-May-13 21:59:24

he must have really needed that extra couple of pints hmm

doubleshotespresso Thu 09-May-13 23:01:43

Really baffled as to why DH could not just wait for your return and meet his friends later...

His suggestions are ridiculous, calling you to make the decision for him is beyond the pale, I would have a few serious questions for him following an episode like this in your shoes OP.

niceguy2 Thu 09-May-13 23:23:35

Your DH is an idiot. As others have said, it's not the end of the world to meet up with his mates a bit later.

Tell him he needs to man the fuck up.

Triumphoveradversity Thu 09-May-13 23:39:28

I bet Bob the Builder would have done it.
Seriously your DH is an idiot , he should just meet them later.

StuntGirl Fri 10-May-13 00:19:26

Absolutely not sure why he has to go at 5.30 when the logistics do not allow that. Seriously, he needs to suck it up, wait for you to come home later and go out then. It won't kill him.

Wishihadabs Fri 10-May-13 07:25:57

I can completely relate to the bafflement around the 530 meet up. Apparently they start to peel off from 8pm. Personally I think it's an avoidance of the whitching hour at home. Then they go back to the dinner their good little wives have cooked (not career bitches like me). Personally I don't know what he sees in them and their wives are with out exception boooring. However as I say it's only once a month, so I live with it. Except if he decides to leave our children with other children or random strangers.

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