more of am i being abit mad..

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ditsydoll Thu 09-May-13 15:06:54

To consider going to a wedding less than a week after my due date?

I will either be overdue, have a tiny newborn or just not be able to go because I'll a actually be giving birth.

Iv got absolutely nothing to wear so would have to buy an entirely new wedding outfit for it.

I'm wondering how I'm going to feed tiny baby with bfing not properly established.

It's a close family member who I love and would really be sad to miss their big day.

Would u even consider going?

redskyatnight Thu 09-May-13 16:14:27

I went to a wedding 3days after my due date.
I was still pregnant.
I'd obviously forewarned my friend, but as the wedding was close to home was determined to make it there for at least some of the time unless actively hospitalised.

I bought a smart maternity top second hand from a charity shop and wore it with the black trousers I was wearing to work.

Depends on how you feel but, if new arrival hasn't yet (as it were) then it would be a shame to miss out.

On a note of caution though - A friend of mine's due date was v.close to our wedding date, and we just counted her into the pot, but left the decision up to her. She was over due and after a week of "no, won't go"/"yes, I will" went with "yes I will". She started labour during the service (4pm) but found it manageable and was enjoying being out so came to the reception & meal and only left for hospital after midnight. Child arrived half an hour later...

that's lovely Moonlight - way to steal the bride's thunder! gringrin

OP, I would do as the bride has suggested - say yes but she knows that you might not make it.
even if you have a tiny baby, you don't have to stay for the whole time, and you could always ask for facilities to rest away from the party if you need it.

there's always far too much food at these things, so that won't be an issue! grin

I went to my BFs wedding when DS1 was about a week or two old. I only went to the church and she quite understood why.

The only downside was that I found myself crying my eyes out in an hormonal puddle when she walked in!

Blowninonabreeze Thu 09-May-13 16:34:42

I've just ordered a dress from hire expectations to wear to a dress at 39+ weeks pregnant.

They hire maternity and breast feeding dresses, and you can cancel your hire at any time up. The point you receive the dress in the post.

Jengnr Thu 09-May-13 16:36:51

I went to one when baby was 10 days old. We only went to the church bit and justbsat at the back. They were delighted we'd gone.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Thu 09-May-13 16:43:02

I'm hoping to do the same. The bride and groom have kids already and I don't yet. They've insisted on keeping us on the list even though I offered to drop out just in case, and are happy to play it by ear - she said that a week after DC1 she couldn't, but a week after DC2 she'd have been fine, so understands that I just don't know yet.

HappyJoyful Thu 09-May-13 16:48:16

I drove myself and DH to a wedding, in a blizzard 120 miles away from home when I was 4 days overdue. I did stood in for my 'stand in' and did the reading in the church as well. But, I'm a stubborn and determined type and many had scoffed at 'how I certainly wouldn't be attending that wedding', it was a dear, dear friend and when she saw me in the church the tears were worth the treacherous rather foolhardy drive I didn't want to miss it for the world so I didn't! I was convinced mind over matter played a part and DD wasn't born for another 5 days.

It's entirely up to you! Is your DH supportive ? Able to drive etc ? I think being pregnant was probably easier than having the baby by a long stretch.. though I did have emergency c-section so it would have been worse.

I contemplated 'worse case' scenario giving birth in snow drift in a layby with a drunk DH and decided I coudl hack it ??! So as I say, decided to go. So yes, just be sure you can handle all the possible scenarios and plan accordingly and you'll be fine.

Oh, and I would most certainly not spend any money on a dress etc - I actually wore one of the brides hand me down maternity silk tops and leggings, you can get plenty of cheap non maternity that fit flowing for wedding or borrow ?

Good luck! Relax and enjoy if you want to go!

Unique - it certainly makes it easy to remember her DC's birthday!

I have to admit to boasting on a very frequent basis occasionally that I've had the whole "my wedding really was enjoyed by guests" belief independently verified - she only left when persuaded by a friend who was expecting her fourth as she'd decided her own DH was just being precious about needing to leave the party as he couldn't drink... grin grin

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raisah Thu 09-May-13 17:32:14

My cousin got married 2 weeks after I gave birth and I didnt attend. I am glad I didnt because I was a bit hormonal, tired and achy. I didnt want loads of people breathing their germs over and holding my unvaccinated baby

Flobbadobs Thu 09-May-13 17:39:39

I did this, 4 days after to be precise, it went fine and we just went for the wedding itself and the meal. I then fell asleep on the way home!
Just be prepared for the tiredness and the potential for your milk to come in unexpectedly... blush

MammaTJ Thu 09-May-13 17:53:54

Buy a dress, but don't remove the labels until the day, just in case you don't use it.

EauRouge Thu 09-May-13 17:55:26

My cousin was back riding her bike a week after giving birth. I, on the other hand, was gibbering on the sofa with stitches from ear to ear and milk squirting all over the place, lying down because I was unable to sit for more than a couple of minutes.

I'd wait and see how you feel!

HollyBerryBush Thu 09-May-13 18:23:40

I think it depends how close the wedding is to your hospital.

We were invited to a 40th Anniv party on DS2s due date, but it was the other side of London, so I declined. Had it been within a 20 min drive, I probably would have accepted.

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