...because I have strong suspicions my father in law is taking heroine and is an alcoholic. My husband and I have both found burned bits of foil in his room and a huge bottle of lighter fuel. Moreover he regular disappears in his room for hours on end, coming out looking totally out of it. He also starts drinking superbrew non-stop, on an empty stomach. from 11am everyday and is a moody as anything. He also plays very innappropriately with our little girl - holding her and touching her in very odd ways - I don't know, it just makes me so uncomfortable (he kisses her tummy while her nappy is being changed - I find it weird that he does that, especially as he is not the one changing her nappy, it's always when my husband is changing her). So due to all this, I have told my husband that I do not want him to babysit her, or his Mum (who is violent to his Dad), as I worry about our baby's safety, as he would be around and drunk/high/blow house up in flames! I know his Mum would care for her very well but just because there appears to be drugs paraphernalia in their house and they argue, I feel I cannot rely on her looking after our little one well enough when he is around the house. Of course, my husband is now fuming. Says I am upsetting him, although he openly admits his father has a problem, and has done since he was a child. I am at a loss as to why I am the only person making a fuss about this. His mother buries her head in the sand and will not talk to him about his addictions or make him get help. Maybe it is more complex than I understand - maybe she would make things worse. Anyway, my priority is not what happens to him, as he has brought this all on himself, but my baby....I would be devastated if anything happened to her. I don't want him around her knowing he is wasted most of the time. What do I do? My husband will not listen or confront his father. I am still forced to take our baby there. I do not know what to do. My husband has stormed off to bed and will not speak to me. I think this could be heading us for divorce....I cannot take much more of dealing with his parents pestering to see us when frankly one of them is of his head/wreaks of beer. I find it gross someone would be like that in front of a baby or child. Maybe I am too prim and proper. This is all my fault. Want to cry. Help!
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Crazysouthallian · 09/05/2013 00:57
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