To be totally horrified that women on a parenting website are giving advice to a violent rapist on how to see his child?

(205 Posts)
Heleneahandcart1 Wed 08-May-13 12:23:53
edam Fri 10-May-13 23:41:17

<shudder>

Never fails to amaze me how dangerous apparently well-meaning people can be...

If this had happened on MN, HQ would have stepped in, I'm sure. Netmums is incredibly irresponsible.

LayMizzRarb Fri 10-May-13 23:36:57

When he posted this, my blood ran cold. I'm not a member of that site, but please someone tell me that he has been banned and all his posts removed? So the site that bans you for saying 'fuck' allows a so-called rapist to write this? ( and this text was visible to anyone on the Internet for quite a while) :

I'm saying this for no other reason, other than I think that this is the right thing to do. Be aware that if you do want to take this all the way to court, that things are only going to get a lot lot worst for you. For a start you will have to see the guy again. For another, you are going to have to face a barrister (probably qc) who is going to rip you to shreds. For a start he is going to have to point out that the first thing that you did was come onto an internet website asking for advise before reporting it, and for another they are going to go through all your previous sexual history trying to make you out to be a complete slut. On top of that they will make an issue of you being drunk and taking a man home with you... Basically they are going to make out you are at fault.

To top is all off, you are going to have this humiliation in front of this guy. You are going to have it in front of his friends and family, and also most likely your own family. If you think now is bad, then you need to appreciate what it will be like.

Like I said. I am not trying to upset you with that. But it only fair that someone is going to tell you what is really going to happen.

Smellslikecatspee Fri 10-May-13 23:33:14

I think they have now, very late but. .

Boomba Fri 10-May-13 20:13:50

jupiter I don't think I would expect his attitude to be any different. He is a violent rapist after all. I agree with everyone else though; the really dangerous thing is all the silly women reinforcing his views and opinions. More than that, Netmums endorsing them by not deleting and blocking him, quicker

The HV recommended it to my sister in law.
I dont know why they are pushing this site, it is not a good place to be.

shock holy crap!

wtf are they thinking over there?

the more i hear about that site... the more disturbed i feel about it

No Jupiter, I was recommended it for weaning advice and other such things.

I am very glad I was already a member here instead!

BabyMakesTheBoobiesGoLeaky Fri 10-May-13 11:27:52

He's scum,pure and simple.

MsJupiterJones Fri 10-May-13 11:14:10

Boomba that is just appalling.

Sorry you had to go through that in the first place but to have your word doubted by someone like that must be a horrible feeling.

MsJupiterJones Fri 10-May-13 11:08:36

The only reason I can think that HVs recommend it is for the Local sites. But it really is extraordinary how endorsed it is. I received an email from the NHS this morning with a link to the 'health chat' page of NM too, which afaics is full of nonsense. Nothing as insidious as the stuff on this thread but still... why?

Omg, what a disgusting excuse for a person.

KoreRenati Fri 10-May-13 08:49:06

Eurgh, he's vile!

Boomba Fri 10-May-13 08:17:53

Urgh...the disgusting shit PMd me!

I posted on Hannqhs thread, to say
1 that I had been raped, didn't report it...regretted it. To wish her strength

And

2. To tell Sam, that rapists were unhwlpful/ unwelcome

His PM, said he doesn't want to argue with me on the main forum, but that it obvious I haven't been raped. That I am not helping 'the poor girl's and I should think more about the impact my actions will have, before posting!!

The Mods have edited the thread, it looks like Sams posts have been removed, letshope they have banned him as well, doubt it though.

We need to stop health professionals recommending that website to new Mothers and women who may be vulnerable.

My GP made a comment and told me to get off this site when I told her I went on it (full of loons apparently) but my HV etc is quite happy to recommend NMs. angry

Dear God that website is awful, the mods should be ashamed of themselves.

Boomba Fri 10-May-13 06:57:14

I've reported him FFS. why don't they ban him?!

Oh lovely.

A rapist advising a woman who has been raped how terrible it will be for her if she goes to court.

Heleneahandcart1 Fri 10-May-13 03:00:38

Now hes on another thread trying to put off a woman who is clearly in distress. What a piece of shit.

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/advice-support-40/serious-stuff-43/928723-so-confused-need-shoulder-2.html

sweetestcup Thu 09-May-13 21:38:28

I have never wanted to join, I really dont think my eyes could take all the sparkle and glittery tickery things plus all the quoting...its a mess to read.

crazynanna Thu 09-May-13 21:34:46

Oh sorry..wrong end of the stick blush

Boomba Thu 09-May-13 20:35:17

no crazynana that was on here blush

crazynanna Thu 09-May-13 20:33:51

Don't worry Boomba...NaziMods always get rid of the more reasonable poster. I was banned for sooo much less. Unless you are NeoNaziMum on there..you just don't fit the Mod's criteria.

IRCL I am the Wolfie Shiney hater if that's any help smile

Boomba Thu 09-May-13 20:19:21

A personal attack!!

Im hugely misunderstood grin

No, I honestly never intended any 'attack'...there was a thread where OP was moaning about some neighbour with a superiority complex; her life was a charade. follows long thread, about how awful people like that are, they get their comeuppance etc. People suspected the awful person was a MNer

i posted something like 'OMG, is it XXX?!...and got banned. For naming the name, i suppose.

Daft thing is, all my other posts on the thread were in defence of the 'awful neighbour' (possibly XXX)...in that, why not just move on, stop obssessing/you lot are as bad, wishing misfortune on her confused

i nice really, honest officer!

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 09-May-13 19:28:03

You were banned from MN Boomba?
What did you do?

everlong Thu 09-May-13 19:26:00

Nice idiots though hey usual wink

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