To be totally horrified that women on a parenting website are giving advice to a violent rapist on how to see his child?

(205 Posts)
Heleneahandcart1 Wed 08-May-13 12:23:53

The HV recommended it to my sister in law.
I dont know why they are pushing this site, it is not a good place to be.

Boomba Fri 10-May-13 20:13:50

jupiter I don't think I would expect his attitude to be any different. He is a violent rapist after all. I agree with everyone else though; the really dangerous thing is all the silly women reinforcing his views and opinions. More than that, Netmums endorsing them by not deleting and blocking him, quicker

Smellslikecatspee Fri 10-May-13 23:33:14

I think they have now, very late but. .

LayMizzRarb Fri 10-May-13 23:36:57

When he posted this, my blood ran cold. I'm not a member of that site, but please someone tell me that he has been banned and all his posts removed? So the site that bans you for saying 'fuck' allows a so-called rapist to write this? ( and this text was visible to anyone on the Internet for quite a while) :

I'm saying this for no other reason, other than I think that this is the right thing to do. Be aware that if you do want to take this all the way to court, that things are only going to get a lot lot worst for you. For a start you will have to see the guy again. For another, you are going to have to face a barrister (probably qc) who is going to rip you to shreds. For a start he is going to have to point out that the first thing that you did was come onto an internet website asking for advise before reporting it, and for another they are going to go through all your previous sexual history trying to make you out to be a complete slut. On top of that they will make an issue of you being drunk and taking a man home with you... Basically they are going to make out you are at fault.

To top is all off, you are going to have this humiliation in front of this guy. You are going to have it in front of his friends and family, and also most likely your own family. If you think now is bad, then you need to appreciate what it will be like.

Like I said. I am not trying to upset you with that. But it only fair that someone is going to tell you what is really going to happen.

edam Fri 10-May-13 23:41:17

<shudder>

Never fails to amaze me how dangerous apparently well-meaning people can be...

If this had happened on MN, HQ would have stepped in, I'm sure. Netmums is incredibly irresponsible.

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