I?ll try and keep this brief. We?ve lived next door to Jim and Sue (not their real names) for five years, husband and I get on really well with them, we?ve had BBQs together, we chat in the garden, we?ve got each other?s door keys and water each other?s plants. It?s basically a very pleasant situation and they?re a really nice couple.
On Thursday, Jim?s dog bit DH. DH was a bit miffed, and just put this down to animal behaviour. But on Saturday, the dog bit DH again, but quite badly and he?s had to see the doctor. At the time of the second bite, DH challenged Jim ? who had a complete meltdown, pushed DH against the side of the house, tried to punch him, and kept saying to DH ?you?ve had it in for my family for years.? God knows where all this came from, but DH was quite shaken. All this was a real shock.
Now whilst I?m totally on my husband?s side, we really did need to get this sorted out, on the grounds that we all live next door to each other, and I was feeling very awkward about being the in the garden, on the driveway etc etc, in case I bumped into either of them (even though I hadn?t been involved in the incident). And then there?s the issue that Sue and I are quite good friends.
So this morning I decided to try and broker some sort of peace ? I texted Sue and asked if she wanted to meet up, on a 1-2-1 basis, to clear the air. She came straight back to me, and said that yes, that was a good idea, and that she didn?t have a problem with me, and that life was too short to fall out. I got the sense she was relieved I?d been in touch. We exchanged a few more texts about a TV programme we?d both seen last night, and it seems that at least Sue and I are OK with each other.
So whilst obviously we?ll both side with our respective husbands, Sue and I can at least live comfortably next door to each other by the sounds of it.
However part of me feels slightly disloyal to DH; he TOTALLY has the moral high ground here, and I?m not disputing this, however if this didn?t get sorted out/dealt with fairly promptly then positions would get entrenched and we?d potentially have two household totally at odds with each other. I will certainly back him up when I see Sue (and I suspect Jim probably hasn?t told her the whole story) I?m not getting in touch with her to apologise, simply that this does need sorting out.
So am I wrong to have made contact with Sue? It?s just that we?ve all got to live next door to each other. I should add that I?ve been really upset about the whole issue, obviously that DH had such a rough time, and also that now everything?s really weird with next door. I?ve never had neighbour problems before, and even if DH and Jim never see eye to eye again (DH is definitely owed an apology) at least Sue and I won?t feel awkward hanging out our washing.
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Petal02 · 08/05/2013 11:53
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