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AIBU?

to wear a white dress to a wedding?

155 replies

ToothpasteKisses · 06/05/2013 22:04

Have a friends wedding in June.

Have been looking at dresses online and my favourite ones are white. None are "bridey" looking dresses.

If you were the bride would that annoy you? Or is it a silly old tradition that only the bride wears white?

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5318008 · 06/05/2013 22:06

oh don't my dear. you'll just look a bit I Wish It Were Me, which ain't a good look on anyone

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sarahseashell · 06/05/2013 22:06

Although I wouldn't mind if I was the bride, I think it's best avoided. Just buy a different colour dress save any undue hassle

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MrsCampbellBlack · 06/05/2013 22:06

To be honest, I think its a little rude. If you're buying a new dress for the wedding then I would buy a non-white one.

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HollyBerryBush · 06/05/2013 22:07

V bad etiquette

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Katienana · 06/05/2013 22:07

Don't do it. It's rude and even if the bride doesn't mind other guests wil l think it odd.

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dubstarr73 · 06/05/2013 22:07

Dont do it you wil always be known as the one who wore white(to upstage the bride)its not worth it

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MikeOxard · 06/05/2013 22:08

Rude, just don't.

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Cravingdairy · 06/05/2013 22:08

The bride probably won't notice but the other guests may give you the side eye.

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timidviper · 06/05/2013 22:08

Another no vote I'm afraid

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chirpchirp · 06/05/2013 22:09

I personally wouldn't but probably wouldn't be annoyed if I was the bride.

If it is the cut/style of the dress that you like could you get it and dye it another colour?

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Hegsy · 06/05/2013 22:09

YABU my mum got married yesterday and there was a mother & daughter both in white/cream the daughters dress was VERY similar to my mums at the top. Hmm wouldn't have been noticeable in purple/mint etc but in ivory you couldn't miss it!

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BikeRunSki · 06/05/2013 22:09

My sister did this to my wedding and my brother's wedding. In neither case did the bride wear white, but there were a lot of raised eyebrows and comments around "bad form", "upstaging", "attention seeker" etc. Bad manners I'd say.

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kotinka · 06/05/2013 22:09

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bootsycollins · 06/05/2013 22:09

Absolutely not

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CSIJanner · 06/05/2013 22:11

YAB slightly U - I went to a wedding where a guest wore pure white - clutch, shoes, flower in hair, the works. It did not go down well with anybody, especially the bride and groom.

I'm saying slightly as you've not bought it - your browsing and asking the question. Are you bride or grooms side? Do you think you coud ask? Also, if you put a bright scarf, shawl, shoes etc with it, it could differentiate between you and the bride.

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HorryIsUpduffed · 06/05/2013 22:11

If and only if you accessorise with very not white accessories eg hot pink jacket, turquoise shoes, black and white hat, that kind of thing.

Head to toe white, Fuck No.

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stiffstink · 06/05/2013 22:11

As a bride, I noticed. Thought it was weird
One guest has worn white to every wedding I've seen her at. Its weird.
Its her wedding this year. Might wear white, just to be weird.

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MonkeyingAroundTown · 06/05/2013 22:12

In the same boat. Seen an absolutely gorgeous white vintage dress in white which I contemplated getting for a wedding I have been invited to. But I have not bought it out of respect for the bride. I doubt the bride would even notice as she would be on cloud nine but its the other guests who wouldn't hesitate in having a bitch fest at another guests white dress.

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Winetime1981 · 06/05/2013 22:13

Don't do it. I have a friend that always fecking wears white to other people's weddings. It does my head in. What's 'worse' is she's a gorgeous, tall, slim, stunning blonde and so she easily steals the show. Strange behaviour in my book.

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Fasterkillpussycat · 06/05/2013 22:13

Someone wore a skin tight white dress to my wedding and then proceeded to grind against my husband on the dance floor. We have been invited to her wedding this summer. I am only going if I can wear my wedding dress.

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CSIJanner · 06/05/2013 22:14

stiffstink Grin

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Winetime1981 · 06/05/2013 22:14

Agree with stiff - I noticed. Thought it was weird. Wasn't bothered but did think 'oh that's weird'.

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TiaMariaandSpringCleaning · 06/05/2013 22:15

I wouldn't. A colleague wore white to our evening do, didn't bother me in the slightest (it was a lovely dress and I said as much) but i later found out she copped some serious bitching from others about it. I felt dreadful for her as she genuinely didn't know it is seen as bad form, she'd made a real effort to be there and I was in no way what so ever bothered by it. (I did speak to those that had bitched at her but that's not really the point! ) :)

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Maxium12 · 06/05/2013 22:15

No, don't even think about it.

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Winetime1981 · 06/05/2013 22:16

Oh and said friend last year to a mutual friend's wedding upped her ante and wore a silk white maxi dress. I mean would you?!

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