I have issues with DH drinking, as he cant just have a social drink, he has to drink himself unconcious, not every night and it doesnt affect work, and he doesnt drink during the day usually, but enough to really piss me off.
well we went to a family party yesterday in a posh hotel. We walked there with our 3 kids, and stopped at 2 pubs on the wave for a "flyer" I was paranoid how much he would drink before we even landed as a couple of drinks and you can tell, he starts to slur slightly and his behavour changes. Anyway he only had a pint and a half and was fine when we got to the venue.
first round there however, and we both order gin and tonic, he a double, he flew into a rage after he had handed me mine and then said I had picked the wrong one up and it was the double and I had put too much tonic in and it was ruined. I honestly couldnt see the problem but he was almost panicking that he didnt have the double. He calmed down after a minute, but then spent huge amounts of time away from the table ordering wine for the meal, he got me a glass of red, and himself a bottle of white. They poured his white and then put the bottle in an ice bucket, at the other end of the table from us and he was panicking again, saying it was his bloody wine and they had no right to put it anywhere other than next to his glass. Honestly it was embarrassing. I think he has a problem, he disagrees and says I am controlling and a nag.
what does anyone else think please?
AIBU?
To think my husband is a borderline alcoholic
birdinatent · 06/05/2013 21:02
He sounds exactly like my friends DH, who is a raging alcoholic and has dropped out of treatment so many times now we've all given up hope 
The way he panics if separated from his double and his bottle summed it up for me.
not borderline, no...
Get yourself to Al anon. It doesn't have to be this way, but he definitely has to realise it himself.
Yes he is an alcoholic I'm afraid. I agree, get help for yourself. You cannot help him.
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God, my XP was like that. Alcohol was a fucking nuisance. He became paranoid, awkward and violent and had to drink until he passed out. I am ashamed to say I was relieved every time he passed out because I knew his binge was over.
Family members tried to intervene and help, but he took not the slightest bit of notice. He was a living nightmare.
His drinking got as it was every night, and he ended up getting banned from driving (third time) so I ended up carting him round everywhere with a baby. He used to send me out to all night off licences for more booze and I'm ashamed further to say that I enabled his drinking by doing this, but if I hadnt He would have kicked off with me.
He assaulted me 3 times that I reported to the Police, and many slaps, kicks and punches in between.
He actually beat me up when I was 7 months pregnant and kicked off on the Maternity Ward because he had drunk a bottle of vodka beforehand.
I will never ever forgive him for what he has done.
When I booted his sorry drunken arse out of our house he was a mess, all apologies and false promises.
And yes youv guessed it, hes still on the ale
Its our little boy I feel sorry for.
OP, I'm not making your DH out like my X, but from what youv said he needs help. Its awful whn you know theyre going to end up smashed
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