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Football match or family holiday??

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helsbels03 Sun 05-May-13 08:28:53

AIBU - dh's football team just got into the play offs to move into the premiership. If they get through the semi 's then the final will be the day after we go on holiday to Tunisia. He has just asked I would mind if he flew out 2 days later as he wants to see his team at wembly. I am vv annoyed and upset he would rather watch football than go on holiday with us, we are only going for a week so he would be leaving me 3 young dc and my elderly mum for almost half of the holiday. Please give me some perspective on this- am I over reacting?

WTF? He is being totally and completely unreasonable.
I bet the hotel in Tunisia will have the match on Sky anyway.

Callisto Sun 05-May-13 08:31:25

He is clearly an idiot and YANBU at all.

LIZS Sun 05-May-13 08:32:03

yanbu. If he were a player then it might be more of a dilemma.

I can see both sides on this, I'd be gutted to miss a match like this, but the holiday should come first.

HollyBerryBush Sun 05-May-13 08:33:07

As I live in a sports dominated household, I see both sides of this.

Compromise, google, find a bar locally that has sky and he can watch the match there.

DH woudlnt ask to gip on a family holiday - but I'd probably understand if he did.

I can see why he wants to be with his mates, especially if he supported one of those little teams where this a once in a life timething, rather than an every other season thing (uppy, downy).

But fact of the matter, family is real life, football is a hobby. He should know the difference by now.

Numberlock Sun 05-May-13 08:34:35

Tell him not to bother coming at all. How much extra is it going to cost anyway? (I presume you're just going for one week?)

Yet another reason I'm glad I'm single and don't come second to football.

Is this type of behaviour usual or a one-off?

scarlettsmummy2 Sun 05-May-13 08:34:44

I thought you meant he was a player!

WiseKneeHair Sun 05-May-13 08:34:56

My DH's club also, somewhat unexpectedly, got into the play offs (Leicester?). If its the same team, I wouldn't worry too much as they are unlikely to win the first round. If they do, tell him he's a dick and its just not going to happen.

Bowlersarm Sun 05-May-13 08:35:06

YANBU

We are a big football family but I would be livid if DH put a football match over family holiday, unless it was maybe, maybe a cup final. There are always so many up and coming football matches to watch, even though this is an important one (is it CP), and family holidays are a rarity.

HollyBerryBush Sun 05-May-13 08:36:34

But its Wemb-er-ly innit?

>much eye rolling<

CSIJanner Sun 05-May-13 08:37:48

Give us the name f the team, and the power of mumsnet will probably find names of bars, time and probably the cost of their fish and chips for the homesick

helsbels03 Sun 05-May-13 08:39:26

Hi - yes wisekneehair it is Leicester so doesn't happen that often. I am now thinking I might ask me sister to come instead and we will have a great time. It will not be forgotten tho !

waikikamookau Sun 05-May-13 08:44:10

whats wrong with watching it on the telly?
does he often go to matches?

RussiansOnTheSpree Sun 05-May-13 08:46:26

How often do Leicester get to Wembley? (That was a rhetorical question. I know the answer -since MO'N left, not very often). Is your DH a season ticket holder? Does he go to away games? If the answer is yes, then I think you should let him go to Wembley. If the answer is no, then he should just watch it on the Internet (I'm far from convinced you'd get the play-offs on Telly in Tunisia). I think it all comes down to his usual level of commitment. Obviously you will be looking for some quid pro quo treat in return (because apart from the faff for you, it won't be cheap for him to go to Wembley).

RussiansOnTheSpree Sun 05-May-13 08:47:45

hels If he's a proper fan - season ticket holder, away matches etc - it won't be forgotten if you don't let him go to Wembley. Your choice, but he won't see it your way.

theoriginalandbestrookie Sun 05-May-13 08:54:19

YANBU, it doesn't matter what it is he is being a complete twit. DH has never threatened not to go on holiday, but once there was talk of leaving me at a French airport at arrival to sort out baggage, car hire and drive to location ( hate driving abroad) whilst he sprinted off to watch the footie. Thankfully it was on at a different time, so it didn't happen, but I'm not sure what my reaction would have been.

Good idea about your sister and would be nice for your Mum as well. Check how much it costs to get it changed over to her, much better than having him arrive half way through and then thinking he has a right to be all grumpy if they don't win.

WiseKneeHair Sun 05-May-13 08:54:28

Ah, then I don't think you need to worry. I don't think they have a cat in hells chance of beating Watford.

Yes. if this was my team I may have floated the idea but still gone ahead with the holiday. It is unlikely to be on TV over there, even if it is no one will be watching, and it is the whole experience, I've been supporting my team with the same bunch of friends for 25 years, they are league strugglers who very unexpectedly got to Wembley (FA Cup) a few years ago, it was amazing. I wouldn't sacrifice a family holiday for it but would privately be pretty fed up about it.

MortifiedAdams Sun 05-May-13 08:57:11

Ohhhhh......I thought he was in the team in which case id say YABa little U. However if he is just spectating - He is BVVVU. Tell him he comes the whole.week or.not at all.

Ive been to Tunisia and im sure they only fly twice a week so do the flights even allow him to do what he is suggesting?

ssd Sun 05-May-13 08:58:54

OFGS let him go, I know its daft and he shouldnt even ask, but its not the end of the world for you, is it?

so he flies out to join you 2 days later, I mean is that the end of the world for you, coping on your own for 2 days?

bet if it was you wanting to do it he'd be fine with it

theoriginalandbestrookie Sun 05-May-13 09:00:58

I think that's a bit harsh ssd.

For us family holidays are very precious, we both work and at home there are multiple distractions so holidays are the one time that we all recharge our batteries together.

I would feel very disappointed if DH decided to prioritise the performance of a football team over that time, but the OP is more gracious than me and has already thought of a good alternative plan.

sooperdooper Sun 05-May-13 09:01:37

There'll be some way of watching it over there, he's being ridiculous

Goldmandra Sun 05-May-13 09:02:42

He needs to get a grip. It isn't his team. It's a bunch of people he doesn't even know playing a game that he could watch on TV.

He has a family who know he exists and would like to share a holiday with him. In what universe is a bunch of strangers running around a field more important?

waikikamookau Sun 05-May-13 09:03:00

I agree with SSD.
you never know op you might enjoy those first 2 days more, grin

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