Obviously yes I am. I am concerned and worried too though before people tell me off.
Exactly a year ago PIL went abroad and FIL was very very unwell whilst on holiday. Rushed to intensive care and it was touch and go. Dh and his brother flew out and were out there with MIL for a couple of weeks. FIL was very unwell on the plane home and had to have medical assistance and be accompanied by a dr. He was told he wouldn't be able to go abroad again by plane because of his low oxygen levels.
Fast forward 12 months and they're talking about going abroad again, dr and cleared FIL to fly despite him being unwell twice more since getting home, low blood pressure, low oxygen levels and currently being on antibiotics for a chest infection. We all tell them not to go. They went anyway, last weekend for two weeks to a destination about five hours away. We suggested if they must go abroad that they went on a very short flight or by boat. They have plenty of money so cost is not a problem.
Last night FIL has collapsed again, stopped breathing and been rushed to hospital. Dh and bil are going out again first thing this morning (hence why I'm up because dh has just left to catch flight.) we are all worried and dh is obviously distraught. Why on earth did they go? I know it isn't their fault really but on some irrational level I am quite cross. This makes me sound awful but last year we had to cancel our holiday and this year we have a fertility appointment and then a short holiday both of which will now be cancelled. I am most upset about the fertility appointment of those. I know this makes me a terrible person. Not more upset than I am about FIL but still, yes, upset.
I feel terrible for mil, I know that someone needs to go out for her and that dh and bil need to go anyway to see their dad. I just keep thinking "why? Why did pil go?" I wouldn't have in their circumstances. I know FIL could have been ill in this country but for some reason the flying seems to make him worse and at least if he were here it wouldn't be so difficult for everyone and MIL would be at home with lots of support. Also although the hospital were very good last time (it's the same hospital this time) because their english wasnt 100% and everyone was panicking sometimes it was difficult to work out what was going on.
AIBU for thinking they shouldn't have gone? Particularly as FIL already had the end of a chest infection? I cannot understand why the dr said he was safe to go. We all thought for sure he'd say no.
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To be irrationally annoyed with my PIL?
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Idbeloveandsweetness · 05/05/2013 04:33
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