I can't believe I'm even posting this.
But here goes.
I met someone on a train back from Scotland. (had gone there for a couple of days) He seemed like a really nice guy and we got chatting on the train. He asked me if I wanted to go for a drink after and I said OK. However, I wanted to drop my luggage off at my place before we went out and I said that to him. He said no problem and volunteered to help me drop my luggage off. Here's where I acted like an absolute idiot. I said OK you can come up to my flat and help me with my stuff.
When we came up we got to talking. He spotted a bottle of wine in my kitchen and it was just rude not to offer him some and so I did. We had some wine, chatted a bit and before I knew it we were kissing. And then we were doing more. When he suggested we get under the covers, I snapped out of it. I was about to have sex with a guy I had just met on a fucking train. I said NO and fortunately he was sweet about it and soon after he left.
I am so mortified that this happened. I am NOT the sort of girl who almost shags a guy she just met on a train.
I feel so naive and silly. What was I thinking when I let him come up? What if he had been a violent rapist? What if he hadn't taken no for an answer?
It's just that my last relationship was 4 years ago and I've just been feeling very lonely lately. :( I don't know what I was thinking.
I feel cheap and disgusted with myself.
I suppose this is more a blog than a question. Anyway, my girlfriends are all out of town at the moment, so if you have any helpful advice please shake some sense into my thick head.
AIBU?
AIBU to feel like an absolute fool and slut???
Kirsten567 · 05/05/2013 00:48
Erm ... I think you are being very hard on yourself.
You said no.
He was fine with it (like a normal, decent guy).
You have no reason to feel cheap or disgusted with yourself. What you did was nothing wrong.
If you're lonely, maybe that is a more important issue? If you are lonely, and you had had sex with this bloke - and you both wanted to - that would have been fine too. But you didn't, so given you're feeling lonely, maybe you need to think about what you want in life?
Would you like to meet someone, or are you shy about it?
Don't be too hard on yourself 
What happened to you does happen sometimes, I had a similar situation myself once, but it doesn't sound like you're going to make the same mistake again so just take it as lesson learned without any serious trauma.
It can turn nasty, but equally it can be exhilarating and adds spice to life for some people, for me the risk wouldn't be worth any payoff from having a one night stand with a stranger, but I can imagine how it might.
Feeling lonely is horrible and you just mistook lust for love/affection, it's an easy mistake to make.
FWIW, I met my husband on a train 18 years ago. 
All's well that ends well, so don't beat yourself up about what might have happened.
Did you get his number? 
Oh please don't feel like that.
It's so easy to get caught up in the moment.
You are not a fool and certainly not a slut.
Give yourself a break.
As soon as you felt uncomfortable you said no and the man was respectful of that.
You should be proud that you were strong enough to do that.
Sleeping with him wouldn't have made you a slut either.
You've done something that you regret. We all do.
You know where your boundaries are and what you are comfortable with and although you could have made a better decision with regards to your personal safety, it doesn't sound like you'll be making the same mistake again.
Just learn from it and move on.
I hope you feel better about the situation soon. 
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I can't see anything wrong here. Except yes, silly to invite him to yours.
I'd have a right spring in my step if this happened to me .
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