antenatal baby scans on facebook

(68 Posts)
FagEnds Sat 04-May-13 18:07:17

I'm not sure I want to see pictures of someone's innards on facebook. A bit too much information?

ananikifo Sun 05-May-13 13:52:32

For everyone saying defriend: It is possible to hide someone's posts on your newsfeed, without defriending them. Your friend is not informed that you hid them.

CabbageLeaves Sun 05-May-13 09:08:07

Baby scans are not scans of a baby...not innards. I love seeing people's joy.

There is such a whole snobbery around FB nowadays. Live and let live. Or defriend.

Whilst I have one FB acquaintance who drives me nuts with her both indiscreet and indiscriminate posting (row with family member followed by a description of the cup of tea she is drinking...) I can quickly flick on. I could defriend but frankly it's not what I wish to do. I smile because its an irritating, but known quirk for a friend.

I have few FB friends (<100) and enjoy the variety in their posts. Maybe if all my friends did post like her I'd get annoyed. Perhaps time to look at your friendship group or your own life as a whole to see why this gets to you.

Justaperfectday Sun 05-May-13 09:08:02

Fb is for sharing with friends, why wouldn't someone want to share their scan pic - yabu and a miserable fucker wink

MummytoKatie Sun 05-May-13 09:00:42

Too!

MummytoKatie Sun 05-May-13 09:00:22

I must have two many doctor friends. Who post genuine 'innards" pictures. Baby scans are nice.

HairyWorm Sun 05-May-13 08:59:00

I was the one of those people TTC having MCs and watching friends post scan pictures on fb. It smarted but I certainly didn't begrudge them or think they shouldn't post.

I posted my 12 and 20 week scans and if that offends any friends on facebook for being TMI (so that they feel the need to go and write on a forum about it) then I really think they should get a life in the real world and take a close look at how important fb is to their existence. or just foff and unfriend me

I can't see why someone would be so joyless as to have an issue with scan pics.

everythinghippie29 Sun 05-May-13 08:30:47

I live quite far from my friends and family so will likely post my first scan picture so they can feel more involved in the pregnancy. If people don't like it they can always de-friend. I can see your point about it being overshary, but I see lots on FB and practically its easier way to share my happy news with the people I love! Will not be having it as my profile pic however, and will have privacy settings for just close friends and family. smile

YABU. And I hope I don't know you irl as i would hate to think of any of my friends/family sneering at my scan/newborn pictures on Facebook. Fwiw, I live literally on the other side of the world from my entire family, and all my friends, and many have commented on how much they enjoyed seeing scan/newborn pics, as I now have two ds's that none of them have met. Hopefully if any of them feel as you do, then they'll do the sensible think and unfriend me.

Ps, if you can make out any actual organs on a scan picture then you've got better eyesight than me.

meganorks Sun 05-May-13 08:13:48

Yabu. A scan is something you would usually show people. So why not put on Facebook. Sure a lot people don't care but at least it has bit more interest that yet another picture of what someone is having for dinner!

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat Sun 05-May-13 08:03:24

YABU

I like seeing the scan pics and my family and friends' baby/child photos, especially when I don't see them often.

I posted my scan pics as I wanted to share my excitement with my loved ones. Sometimes I think that a couple of my friends (who don't like children full stop) must think that I post too many (a couple a week roughly), but they can always scroll past, hide my posts, or defriend me if they are that bothered.

Other friends and family comment that it is lovely to see them as they change so quickly and they feel they can share it. And yes, this includes scan pics.

nicelyneurotic Sun 05-May-13 07:49:51

Ahh, I love seeing new baby scans, it's sweet and a nice way to tell people the news. You don't see anything gross, just a tiny baby on a black background. YABU!

Kafri Sun 05-May-13 06:26:56

what the bloody hell does it matter? I see many a picture on fb that im not overly interested in - nights out/those 'inspirational' pics etc. I have a clever little thing on my computer called a mouse! it allows me to scroll past the things I'm not too bothered about and click for a closer look at the things that interest me. have a look OP - you might have one too! grin

edwardsmum11 Sun 05-May-13 06:22:29

I have to admit I put mine up but I waited 8 yrs for my son and knew some people would know the significance.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Sun 05-May-13 05:32:21

delete the friends then.

Bastards. Being happy and excited - utter bastards.

I would hope, of the people on my FB, anybody sneering at my scan pic and subsequent newborn pics (one of which was of DS minutes old) that they would delete me, I share pics with my loved ones and enjoy seeing their varied pictures and updates.

Sneery fuckers please, please, hit the un-friend (or whatever it's called) button! grin

Ericaequites Sun 05-May-13 05:19:26

I don't feel I should see baby pictures until the baby is entirely outside the mother's body. Note: I am childless by choice.
On the other hand, I feel all thirteen year olds should see the Lamaze movie. Seeing how a baby is born might make them think about the consequences of sex.

'In person' only works if you all live in the same town.

I love seeing these pictures. They make me feel I'm more in touch with relatives and friends living on the other side of the world and they give me a chance to share that I'm excited.

If you don't like it, don't look. But since people share these pictures in a sense of excitement, it does seem rather unnecessary and unpleasant to have a go at them for it, I think?

thisonehasalittlecar Sun 05-May-13 00:31:13

I didn't do it but I did show my scans to my family and close friends in person; I don't think it's that different doing it online unless you are 'friends' with 800,000 strangers, in which case it would be a bit like having it enlarged and pasted on a billboard in your hometown. Which would be odd.

DevonCiderPunk Sun 05-May-13 00:29:03

Ah RaspberryRuffle I hadn't thought of the TTC angle. You're right there. Although I have had a fair few FB friends, who were TTC for many years, post scan pictures when they were expecting at long last...

RaspberryRuffle Sun 05-May-13 00:19:23

I'm with the OP, I just don't like seeing scan pics or just emerged babies...I'm happy for them but don't see the need for such intimate parts of your life (hopefully not body) on FB.
I see the suggestion of defriending people who do this, tbh I wouldn't defriend someone I know is pregnant in case it upset them. That's not saying they give a hoot about whether I'm their friend, I just think the people who dopost scan pics etc tend to be the more avid FB users who would notice such a thing and I think it's a bit mean. But I still don't like the pics.
Also one of my friends just shut her FB account as she's been TTC for ages and was fed up of all those pics, our group of friends from school seem to be all having babies right now, I think it is quite painful to be reminded all the time taht lots of the other girls have what she really longs for.

DevonCiderPunk Sun 05-May-13 00:11:30

YABU. Scan pictures are one of the happier things to be found on Facebook. I love to see a friend's scan pictures; if it offends you, simply de-friend anyone who wants to share their baby scan with you.

...and I've never even noticed the "innards" on a scan picture! I suppose a frame of uterus is there, but the baby is the focus of the picture.

IneedAsockamnesty Sun 05-May-13 00:06:55

Yabu.

Its not a graphic or gory image of a operation or something nasty and whilst I wouldn't do it myself its not a abnormal or offensive thing to do.

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GreyWhites Sat 04-May-13 23:56:52

I personally didn't want to, but I don't mind if other people do. I love seeing other people's tiny scan pics, I think they're cute. If you're feeling angry about it or disgusted by it, maybe this says more about you than about them?

ananikifo Sat 04-May-13 23:36:08

People post so much unnecessary information on Facebook, but sonograms are nice. YABU.

Arisbottle Sat 04-May-13 23:27:57

They are just trying to share their joy at being pregnant. Why would you judge a friend for being excited about being pregnant ?

We are TTC after a miscarriage , when I fall pregnant and remain pregnant I may post my scan photos , thankfully my friends are not judgemental nobs and they will share my joy, rather than sneering at me.

Fluffypinkcoat Sat 04-May-13 23:23:55

I like seeing people's scan pictures. I feel happy for them that they are so excited that they want to share it with everyone.

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