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To think that it's weird that friends teenage son wants to come out with us?

(34 Posts)
Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 18:17:06

So it's a civilised night out for me and a friend tonight. 2 middle aged friends going for a drink and a catch up at a local pub and I get a text to say, do you mind if teenage son comes too. He's a lovely guy but its a girls night out. It's not the first time either. He's just a regular guy, with his own mates and a good job, so why on earth he wants to spend his Friday evening with his mum and her mate is beyond me. AIBU? I feel churlish if I text back to say, well, yes, actually, I do mind.

Charliefox Sat 04-May-13 17:27:41

No stunt girl, to give him his dues, he pays his way.

StuntGirl Sat 04-May-13 14:41:53

Sounds like he was just hankering after some drinks funded by the Bank of Mum grin

BigBlockSingsong Sat 04-May-13 14:17:17

I think if its girls only take a firm line,

Charliefox Sat 04-May-13 14:14:49

It was meant to be just me and a friend, rather than a group but he came with us and a lovely time was had by all. He spent 50% of his time messing about on his phone but he had some really funny apps, which kept us amused. We then went for a curry and a curry night is always a good night! So maybe I was being a touch unreasonable after all!

letseatgrandma Fri 03-May-13 20:19:41

If it was just going to be you and your friend, then no, I wouldn't like that! If it was a big group, that's a bit different.

Beamur Fri 03-May-13 20:04:30

I used to go out with Mum sometimes too and all my friends liked her as well, so don't find the thought of intergeneration socialising that weird. Fine to want some time with your friend by yourself too though.

thebody Fri 03-May-13 20:03:11

Me and dh love to go drinks with our older lads. They love it too as we pay!!!

Have been out with couples and them if they home and that's fine.

However if just a girls night then no, don't get me wrong the lads would come for the free booze but I wouldn't ask as it inhibits conversation and would make my friends uncomfortable.

Actually they blush and go all 'young man' on them so its a tad embarrassing.

Yrnbu.

pantsjustpants Fri 03-May-13 20:02:25

My eldest son has been out with me loads of times. He brought his friend too when it was my friends hen night, they had a great time.

I think it's lovely actually.

buildingmycorestrength Fri 03-May-13 20:00:38

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JerseySpud Fri 03-May-13 19:56:18

I don't find it that weird tbh, i used to go out with my mum to the pub sometimes for a drink and once i went clubbing with her (Had to be to oldfogeyplace Flares though)

MadBusLady Fri 03-May-13 19:55:47

I'd think he was a well-adjusted, sensible young man who enjoyed mixing socially with a range of people. smile But YANBU to want a girls' night out, if that is what you'd planned.

BackforGood Fri 03-May-13 19:53:47

However nice he is. However much he gets on with either OP, or his Mum, the point is, it completely changes the dynamics of what's been arranged.
If OP were hosting a BBQ for 25 people and the son wanted to come along, then it wouldn't alter the dynamics in the same way, as it's a big group thing, but what was arranged was a quiet drink and a long chat with two old friends. Totally inappropriate to invite a 3rd person along, whoever they are.

DeskPlanner Fri 03-May-13 19:49:53

He looooooves you ! grin

Beamur Fri 03-May-13 19:48:01

I'd take it as a compliment that he enjoys his Mums and her friends company.

Iggi101 Fri 03-May-13 19:44:40

Same as bringing a partner out surely, not always appropriate no matter how nice they are!

ZenNudist Fri 03-May-13 19:27:04

Perhaps he's broke?

no yanbu if you don't want him there why don't you tell your friend, as I have said my teenagers do come out with me and my mates but if my friends said no I want to talk without teenagers present I would leave them at home, also I don't limit the conversation with the teenagers there, they soon leave if you start with the sex conversation..

Annunziata Italy Fri 03-May-13 19:07:42

My sons are the biggest mamma's boys out and even they would dread coming, YANBU.

NewAtThisMalarky Fri 03-May-13 19:05:20

I don't think YABU to not want him there - but that wasn't your question

(just to make my position clear)

Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 19:02:23

Maybe I am being a bit churlish then.

Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 19:01:35

I know why she wants to bring him. They're mates, he's fab and lovely and it's great that he gets on so well with his mum and her mates aka me. It's just the conversation limiter aspect. Meh, what the hell, he's coming anyways, so nowt I can about it.

NewAtThisMalarky Fri 03-May-13 19:01:25

I don't think it's wierd. I enjoy my teenage children's company and we go to gigs - comedy and music - together. In sure once they are age to go to the pub I'd happily have them along with me.

I'm surprised that it's seen as something peculiar, tbh.

Footface Fri 03-May-13 18:59:16

Maybe he's lonely?

Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 18:58:18

He's 18. Yes, conversation limiter is exactly it! I've known him since he was 2 yrs old. Shouldn't he be out with his mates on a Friday night though!!

how old is he? my DS 19 will sometimes come to the pub when I meet my friends esp the ones he has known all his life, but he rocks up to get a free pint or two then goes on his way. lately I have taken my DD 16 with me when I go out with friends for a quick drink they know her, she is having a hard time at school being bullied and has no friends at the mo, I feel she needs some support but my friends are happy to have her. wouldn't take either of them if it was a catch up girlie night with a friend I don't see often , have you asked why she wants to bring him?

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