leave my 16 week old DD

(65 Posts)
claremp7 Fri 03-May-13 07:51:58

Me and my partner are due to go to a wedding in a few weeks and DD will be 16 weeks old.
I'm breast feeding her so that's obviously one hurdle. I know I can express but have very painful nipples and find it hard. I could do it, maybe I'm using this as an excuse.
The wedding half way across the country away and its a no children wedding. We're only invited to the evening.
My parents who live 350 miles away are coming down to see us for a week and also to babysit. They're really looking forward to it.
I'm sorry for the rambling but I really don't want to leave her and go to the wedding. AIBU to not want to go?

right decision not to go - Tarka makes good points.

I did go to a wedding when DS was about 7 weeks old. It was near a very good family friend and she looked after DS from about 3pm to midnight - we were staying with her. it was great and I enjoyed it - but my boobs exploded everywhere. Not a cool look! When he was 3 months we had another wedding near my Dad's house (great friends we have!) And so Dad took DS after the day section and we had the night out. The boobs were much better behaved on that occasion. grin

JenaiMorris Fri 03-May-13 12:27:57

I wouldn't have gone.

I wouldn't be remotely hmm at someone else doing it, but there's no way I could have expressed sufficient milk and ds rarely took bottles (and not for want of trying - it was a right PITA).

noblegiraffe Fri 03-May-13 13:12:33

Did SIL formula feed? That might explain the 4 hours between feeds thing, and the suggestion that you can just trot off for the evening without a second thought.

MyNameIsAnAnagram Fri 03-May-13 13:19:01

I wouldn't got that far just for an evening do even without the baby issue!

Yanbu at all, before ds was born I was planning to leave him for a weekend at 6m to go to a wedding, but couldn't in the end.

maddening Fri 03-May-13 13:50:10

Could your dps come with you so you can have dc with you and keep up the bfing and just leave dc essentially for a few hours?

You could get a 2 bed holiday cottage and stay with your dps? Built in babysitting and you don't have to be away from dc for so long?

claremp7 Fri 03-May-13 14:32:19

Hi and thank you again everyone. DP spoke to colleague and DD is invited and always has been. We just got the wrong end of the stick! Now what do I wear?

diddl Fri 03-May-13 14:36:40

"Now what do I wear?"

Something bfeeding friendly??

Illustrationaddict Fri 03-May-13 14:44:09

Totally up to you, but if it was a good friend I would go. Think its healthy to have a little time together as a couple, remember what it was like pre baby, especially if you have 2 very dependable and willing babysitters. It would just be nice for you to have a proper sleep if nothing else, refreshes and makes for a happy mummy smile

WoTmania Fri 03-May-13 14:56:50

YANBU glad it'sall been resolved. You can get some quite nice nursing dresses these aren't particularly eveningy iyswim but for the general idea

SirBoobAlot Fri 03-May-13 14:59:34

No way would I leave such a small baby for that long, especially if breastfeeding.

You can go to a wedding any time, the early days with your little one only come once.

SirBoobAlot Fri 03-May-13 15:00:46

Oh sorry didn't see there was more than one page to this. Idiot.

Glad you don't need to stress about leaving her smile

You can get some beautiful breastfeeding dresses online.

DoingTheSwanThing Fri 03-May-13 15:11:41

If they allowed you to take her along and you wanted to go, get a sling and some ear defenders and she'll be absolutely fine, probably sleep through it! Did a whole day wedding with 5mo twins not so long ago, they loved the evening and danced away in slings (not that they could hear much smile)

megsmouse Fri 03-May-13 15:17:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Secondsop Fri 03-May-13 15:46:48

What to wear - what about a wrap dress, with a pretty scarf that you can use as a breast feeding cover? That's what I wore constantly when I was breast feeding my baby. Have a lovely time!

DeskPlanner Sun 05-May-13 07:41:59

Just caught up with this thread. Glad It's been resolved. Have fun. smile

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