I KNOW i'm not being unreasonable. Just posting here to check. . .

(36 Posts)
TheCunnyFunt Tue 30-Apr-13 18:12:49

I apologise in advance, as this is yet another in laws thread.

DP wants us all to go on holiday with his mum and 2 younger brothers (17 & 20). I don't know what to say. I went on holiday with them when I was 17, 2 weeks of hell in a caravan in Cornwall. I also moved in with them 9 months after the holiday, lived with them for 10 months!! I get on ok with MIL until we live together like that, we're just so different it makes it very difficult to get on after 24 hours.

She's so clean and efficient and I'm just a slattern! She cleans constantly, I'm a late riser in the mornings and when I lived with them I'd get up around 9 and find that tea for that night had already been cooked and was sat on the hob cooling down. She never stops and she gets mad at me for not cleaning enough in my own home.

I just can't go on holiday with them. If it were a hotel then I would. I'd be there like a shot! But the 2 options are a static caravan in Cornwall, or a Villa in Spain. I just don't see how going away to cook and clean can be a holiday either! And we have a toddler now, DD will be 2 when the holiday is taking place.

The BILs are always fighting too, not play fighting, actual fighting! MIL has a scar on her forearm where she waded in the middle of one of their fights last year to break it up. The 20yo is a twat, he will kick off at the slightest thing if he doesn't get what he wants right there and then. He recently caused a few hundred pounds worth of damage by smashing MILs kitchen sink because the clutch went on his car when FIL was driving it.

I'm not being unreasonable am I? Please say I'm not!

TheCunnyFunt Tue 30-Apr-13 19:10:01

He thinks it's a good idea because he doesn't remember the hell it was going on holiday with them and me living with them all. He knows what they can be like, but as far as he's concerned it's better than no holiday at all!

singingsoprano Tue 30-Apr-13 19:35:58

What Quote said smile

Is there any way that you can have a caravan on the same site but not share one? Your own space but still lots of contact (and a babysitter grin) There is no way that I could share a caravan with any of my own family or in-laws, and I get on very well with my own family at least. I need my own space and my children (and theirs) need their own routines.

TheCunnyFunt Tue 30-Apr-13 21:02:34

No, we wouldn't be able to afford it sad if we could afford it we would!

DontmindifIdo Tue 30-Apr-13 21:44:32

It's got to be a no. There's no way you can call that a holiday.

Andro Tue 30-Apr-13 22:37:36

TheCunnyFunt - does he have any concerns about you and his DD being around a volatile, violent adult?

cheesesarnie Tue 30-Apr-13 22:43:30

holiday with two violent men and a lady that you do not like v no holiday?

no holiday imo! it's not a holiday!

thezebrawearspurple Tue 30-Apr-13 22:48:41

yanbu, sounds like a nightmare, keep saying no.

oohaveabanana Tue 30-Apr-13 22:52:23

What quote said. With bells on.

iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Tue 30-Apr-13 22:59:10

What Quote said. grin

What quote said.

I like my in laws and get on well with them but going on holiday with them was a miserable experience. I can't imagine doing it again let alone putting myself and a child into a potentially violent situation

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