To be a bit proud of myself?

[CunningAtBothEnds]

My mum and nan hold some slightly outdated views on house hold balance and responsibility. Today i said that DP was having both DS's over night the night before our wedding.

Both DM and DNan told me that I was lucky... I said "why they are his children too"! Which shocked them both.. Dont get me wrong i appreciate all the things dp does as he does reciprocally, but in no way do I feel he is doing something extraordinary!

AIBU to of been a bit proud of this? Normally id if nodded an agreed but mumsnet has changed the views I hold.AIBU to believe I am just as valid as my partner and he isnt doing me a favour minding his own offspring?

[HeySoulSister]

good for you!!

[FringeEvent]

Well done for speaking up :)

I'm a bit proud of you too

[MostPeopleAreMad]

Yay! And for you.

[Theala]

yay you! more of this please!

[thefirstmrsrochester]

Proud of you too.
DH moaned once about missing a night with the lads to babysit. It was swiftly pointed out to him that he was participating in bringing up our children. He has not made the same mistake again.

[Tailtwister]

Well done for speaking up! I hate the idea that men are ever so amazing if they look after their children, like they're doing they partner a favour of something.

[CommanderShepard]

Good for you!

[quirrelquarrel]

Good for you OP! This kind of thinking needs to be normalised.....of course it does. Hope your DP will back you up later on this, casually or not.

I must say, one of the things I love seeing presented as if it's just normal on TV shows etc is caring dads who get really involved. Don't know why as my dad is the most involved caring dad you could imagine, so I doubt I have some sort of complex about it! The American show Parenthood (with Lauren Graham from Gilmore Girls) is fab for this, I recommend it 100%, and in general for anyone wanting to get stuck into a new series.

[quirrelquarrel]

Sad that you have to be proud of yourself for this, though!

[quoteunquote]

Well done, hopefully some it will sink in for them.

[CunningAtBothEnds]

Im glad im not on my own! I did actually manage to shoehorn in "mother the 1950s is calling, they want to reclaim their views!" Bless them they dont mean it with malice but, it does still need challenging! I have friends who ask their partners if they mind having the kids, I think I may start some sort of covert mind altering thingamabob!

[redexpat]

Well done!

[LimitedEditionLady]

Does anyone elses partner do that glum.expression when you say youre going out for a few hours at weekend?even though they go out all the time,even whole weekends and you havent been out in months and months?

[ICBINEG]

Nice one!

I felt glow of pride when my DM told my DGM off for telling my Dnephew that he shouldn't play with the doll because dolls are for girls.

All that banging on about feminism is filtering back up the ancestral tree....

[CunningAtBothEnds]

Limited, mine knows better

[pictish]

Good for you OP. You are of course quite right!

Limited - no. Dh doesn't mind if I want out sans kiddy. At all.
Shame yours does. He sounds very selfish.

[LimitedEditionLady]

Yeah i guess that is selfish.oh well im going anyway whether he likes it or not,its only a meal with a friend.sometimes does feel like he thinks our child is mine and he is helping me out babysitting....he doesnt ask if i mind him going out all weekend!i do mind a bit.....

[pictish]

Sorry to hear that Limited.
Seems really unfair.

[LaGuardia]

No Limited you are not alone. My DP pulls the same face when I say I am planning do a car boot at the weekend, and, you know, make us some extra cash. No way I am taking the kids there.

[LimitedEditionLady]

You know what niggles me laguardia?he works all week he be making the most of the time on their own.stupid male.

[mrsjay]

well done you MY dd is 20 and dh always did his bit and share with childcare My dad said and I quote is he a big jessie for being able to put ponytails in her hair and take her to nursery when I was in hospital