AIBU - No sweets or squash

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mamab30 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:16:45

AIBU to not serve squash or give out sweets at a children's party?

Just wondering what parents would think of going to a children's party where there was only water to drink and just birthday cake to take home. For us that would be normal and I wouldn't think anything of it but just wondering if parents would be surprised at not seeing squash or sweets?

rubyslippers Mon 29-Apr-13 13:18:28

i would be surprised but wouldn't think much more of it

party food is a treat and the squash and the sweets part of the fun

can't you offer water or juice though?

I'd probably think you were a bit mean. Especially if there was no squash as some children just wont drink water. Mines does happily but I have friends whos kids will only drink diluted fruit juice or sugar free squash.

havingamadmoment Mon 29-Apr-13 13:19:53

I would be surprised as I have never been to a party like that. I wouldnt see anything wrong with it but I would be surprised.

Squitten Mon 29-Apr-13 13:21:03

I would think the drinks were unusual but I'd be fine with just cake - I always think it's nice when the cake is the "big deal" at the end.

SirChenjin Mon 29-Apr-13 13:21:24

Part of the fun of a party is squash and sweets - I would be surprised, but it wouldn't feature in my thoughts much after about 2 seconds.

It's not 'normal' for us to neck sweets and squash on a regular basis either, but like birthday cake, it's part of the whole treat that is a party.

I wouldnt be impressed with the only offering water - my DS won't drink water and I would be a bit peed off to be honest if he had gone thirsty.

Like Ruby says, sweets etc part of the fun of the party. Once in a while isn't going to hurt.

DoubleMum Mon 29-Apr-13 13:21:33

No sweets is fine but you will likely find some of the guests won't drink just water. Plus even though it's normal for your house it is a party - it isn't meant to be normal!

ZZZenagain Mon 29-Apr-13 13:22:37

I'd be surprised that water is the only drink offered but fine to have cake and no sweets IMO

Punkatheart Mon 29-Apr-13 13:22:53

I never served squash. Proper fruit juice in cartons, yes. Neat, easy, hard to spill. Sweets, no. Chocolatey things, yes. Everyone survived.

Patchouli Mon 29-Apr-13 13:23:04

Are they 1?

I'd be glad there were no sweets but think it was a bit crap not to have squash.

manicinsomniac Mon 29-Apr-13 13:23:57

Agree with others - no sweeets is fine as long as there is other food but I would be surprised by only water.

Jinty64 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:25:07

What age are the children? If they are under two then I think this is probably ok although you could offer milk or water to drink. If they are older than that I would think it pretty miserable.

Jinty64 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:26:51

X-posts. If they are 1 I expect the parents will bring their own drinking cups and no sweets is fine.

mamab30 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:29:24

Lol!

Could do orange and apple juice, that's a good idea. We drink that (NFC) so that would be good.

Just don't approve of squash or sweets and hate coming home from parties with a party bag full of sweets. For us, squash and sweets aren't the treat.

mamab30 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:30:25

Rubyslippers - I will be serving water! (Thought I wrote that in original post.)

Startail Mon 29-Apr-13 13:31:23

If you only have water and chocolate cake DD2 would have told you and every child, parent, teacher and anyone else who would listen what awful parties Ms Mamba held.

And I think I might have to agree (well not about the cake).

Parties are about fun and breaking your usual rules. You don't need heaps of sweets, but you do need some treats and you do need DCs who have been running about to drink.

I wish DD wasn't such a pain about water, but she is. If I had my time again I'd have been stricter when she was tiny, but DH drinks squash not tea so it was alway about.

pictish Mon 29-Apr-13 13:32:20

Bit boring and worthy if you ask me. For a party.

mamab30 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:33:06

Love how you all think I'd be mean or miserable to not do sweets! Haha!

SirChenjin Mon 29-Apr-13 13:33:47

So why ask us then? confused

Startail Mon 29-Apr-13 13:33:54

Seriously for a party Tesco's economy juice will do fine, they will drink £££ of decent juice if they've been running about.

Even DFs with DCs at expensive schools have cheap juice for parties.

pictish Mon 29-Apr-13 13:34:06

Well if you're so sure you're right, then why ask us?
Carry on with your worthy party and leave us out of it.

Just don't be surprised when you hold the party next year and no one turns up. They'll be saying we don't want to go to that boring party!!

Can't you let your hair down for a kids party. That's a bit uptight to be honest!

mamab30 Mon 29-Apr-13 13:34:54

Starail - if my son said something like that in front of everyone I'd give him an earful for being so rude and ungrateful!

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