Have just got back from two days looking after my mum who has dementia (with 2 yo dd) and am utterly drained, physically and emotionally, which likely is colouring thus. DH picked us up from the station and we went for a drink and a pizza before going home. On the way in to the pizza place there's an outside seated area with tables which was quite full. DH said excuse me to a bunch of people sitting outside blocking the entrance, becsuse dd was in buggy, and they said they couldn't easily move because the woman had a dog. Now these kids were definitely being a bit moody: the dog in question was a sausage dog which one girl being held in her lap, she could have moved. The other side was rammed with chairs. We could have gone right around but they were being unreasonable. But DH's response was, IMHO, completely disproportionate. He got shirty with them and said they needed to learn some respect. One of the blokes then stood up and looked like he was challenging DH to a fight. At that point I started telling DH we should just go but he wouldn't back down and a (verbal) altercation ensued, involving him at one point absurdly trying to rope in a passing community support copper. All ended without fisticuffs or major shouting, we went in and had our meal and went home. But I an furious with DH for thinking it was worth trying to win an argument with a bunch of adolescent tossers in front of dd and particularly when I was tired and upset. I loathe public arguments at the best of times and am admittedly over-sensitive at the moment so maybe I over-reacted: he seems very hurt at my reaction. But isn't the appropriate response here just to back down and ignore?
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Am I being over-emotional or is DH being a twat?
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quesadilla · 27/04/2013 23:07
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