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To be a size 22 and happy with my body

(237 Posts)
Lucyellensmum95 Sat 27-Apr-13 21:58:51

I am a size 22 up top - blessed in the nork department and a size 18 on the bottom.

Sometimes i get irritated because i can't find clothes in my size that i like but when i look at my body in the mirror - i like it.

As i say, my top heaviness is due to an ample bosum, which is, for my age pretty firm still.

I have been slimmer, in fact i was a size 10 when i met DP - but that was 20 years ago. Then after i had DD 7 years ago, due to illness i was a size 12 again - miserable, i hated it, my breasts shrunk and i didn't feel like me.

I do have self esteem issues but not surrounding my body.

When i tell people i am happy being the size i am they make hmm faces at me - i find this insulting.

I am pretty fit, i walk for miles and cycle distances that make the hmm face pullers making shock faces and declaring that they can't do that. I am extremely flexible and can touch the floor next to my toes wth the flats of my hands without bending my knees

I would be happy to be a size 18 on top and a size 16/14 down below but no slimmer, thanks. I would probably prefer that size but for no reasons other than health reasons - i eat a healthy diet but probably drink a little too much wine I also have flabby thighs which need sorting out, but othe than that, when i look in the mirror, i like what i see.

I'm 5'2"

I am a very sexual person and i FEEL sexy and my DP certainly thinks i'm sexy.

As i say, i have self esteem issues but they are no way associated with my body imagine. I don't like my face so much.

AIBU to be irritated when people clearly don't believe that someone of my size is happy with their body.

Maxium12 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:44:54

Arse, lose weight.

VelvetSpoon Sat 27-Apr-13 22:48:15

YANBU.

I think it's really important to love yourself, and feel happy with and comfortable with your body, whether you're a size 0 or a size 22.

I'm overweight. I have been thinner, I have been fatter. Personally I prefer being thinner than I am now simply because it is physically more comfortable, BUT I always look in the mirror and like what I see. IMHO life's too short to waste time hating the way you look.

FunnysInLaJardin Sat 27-Apr-13 22:51:36

YANBU. I am happy with my size on the whole. I am a good 16 and am 5.6. I could be thinner, but I like eating and drinking. I entirely understand that you can be happy with who you are even though you don't fit the 'ideal'.

FunnysInLaJardin Sat 27-Apr-13 22:55:09

ah likeit I am a smoker and like it. I smoke 3 a day and any more and I hate it, but I really do enjoy my 3 fags a day! Oh god I am fat and a smoker. Oh and I can also run a 5k in 30 mins confused

Isn't it great that we can't all be put in boxes and that an overweight smoker can still be very fit!

Aint no fat old people about. S'all I'm saying.

FunnysInLaJardin Sat 27-Apr-13 23:01:43

bob there are loads of old fat folk about. Most old folk are fat to a degree.

Nah. The really old ones are the little scrawny ladies with their shopping trolleys.

GreenPeppercorn Sat 27-Apr-13 23:07:44

I am beyond the size that is considered normal. I am a size 16-18. If it has buttons then I am a size 20 up top because I have big tits. I am happy with myself. I look good in tight jeans and fitted shirts. I look good in long skirts and tight tees because I have a slim waist. I look horrific in leggings. I look horrific in pencil skirts or cropped or baggy trousers. I am very confident in my own body. I am attractive, I have lovely long thick red hair, and a pretty face. And a pair of norks that just won't quit wink

However, it isn't healthy for me to be as large as I am. I need to lose about 2 stone to just be healthy. So I am trying to do that in a slow and healthy and sustainable way. That won't affect my self confidence. I am just upping my exercise level and dropping off that extra glass of wine or extra slice of cake. End of the world it is not.

Being above the coveted size 10/12 is not the be all and end all but being healthy IS important.

DinosaursLoveUnderpants Sat 27-Apr-13 23:11:35

I would struggle to believe that you truly are happy with your body whilst being an 18-22. I've been there and I know how much better, healthier and happier I am now that I have lost the weight.

For me it wasn't abut how I looked, it was about how unhealthy I was. I honestly had no idea how unhealthy I was, I think most obese people don't realise either because they get there a few pounds at a time it is easy to forget what it is like to live in a healthy, slim body.

I wouldn't make hmm faces at you though, because I am more polite than that, but if I'm being honest, privately I would be thinking 'yeah, right'.

FunnysInLaJardin Sat 27-Apr-13 23:11:44

bob once you get really old you lose interest in food, and eat like a sparrow.

Green well done for saying you have a pretty face and lovely hair. I have a pretty face and very dark thick hair cut into a bob. It's awful how being a bit bigger can overshadow that. I have never admitted to being attractive before, but I know I am. I have huge boobs too and have never worn a shirt!

DinosaursLoveUnderpants Sat 27-Apr-13 23:13:58

"I am pretty fit, i walk for miles and cycle distances that make the face pullers making faces and declaring that they can't do that. I am extremely flexible and can touch the floor next to my toes wth the flats of my hands without bending my knees"

This is the sort of thing that used to say toconvince myself that I was still pretty fit despite my weight. I used to cycle miles to work and back each day so I must be fit surely? But I really wasn't. I was fit for a fat bird, but I wasn't fit.

GreenPeppercorn Sat 27-Apr-13 23:15:11

I have no issue with being honest about myself. I am too big, far too big. I need to lose some weight and I am doing that. I am not a model and I am not a stunner but I am pretty and I am proud of what I have been given. Why should I not be? I will still be pretty when I am a size 12 and I am still pretty when I am a size 18.

Self confidence is a very attractive attribute.

squeakytoy Sat 27-Apr-13 23:15:32

I cant wear anything with buttons on either... not unless its a size 22 or above and hangs on my shoulders like a tent... and also makes me look enormous!

Even when I lost weight and wore size 10 waistbands I had ginormous boobs so looked ridiculous.

Floralnomad Sat 27-Apr-13 23:17:52

bob as a nurse let me assure you there are plenty of very old ,obese people sadly.
I don't believe anybody is happy being overweight ,you are just not unhappy enough about it to do something about it .

GreenPeppercorn Sat 27-Apr-13 23:18:50

grin at squeaky - large norks are not catered for in the buttoned up department! I am a comfortable size 14/16 unless it has buttons and in which case I may as well go into the outdoor shop and buy an attractive tent.

GreenPeppercorn Sat 27-Apr-13 23:20:11

Personally I feel pleased that Floral is here to remind me how shockingly unhappy I am. Now if you will excuse me my prawn balls are ready.

ParmaViolette Sat 27-Apr-13 23:20:57

I'm making the hmm face

Floralnomad Sat 27-Apr-13 23:26:03

I didn't say you were shockingly unhappy actually .

BuggedByJake Sat 27-Apr-13 23:27:07

Glad you are happy but what about your health? I'm 5ft2 & look slightly overweight at size 10. size 18 at any height is overweight but at 5ft 2 you must be morbidly obese so yes YABU.

Well I believe you Op. But then I would as I too am a 22.

I realise that this will shake some people's world view but yes it is possible to be fat and NOT miserable.

Can I ask everybody who's wailing ' but think of your health' - what about yours? Do you smoke> Have you ever smoked? How much honestly do you drink?

GreenPeppercorn Sat 27-Apr-13 23:31:23

I am 5 foot 7 not 5 foot 2 but I am still a chunker.

GreenPeppercorn Sat 27-Apr-13 23:32:22

Between the ages of 17-25 I was a size 6-8 because I ate an apple and a cup a soup a day. Boy I was thin but so very unhappy. I'm much happier now.

DinosaursLoveUnderpants Sat 27-Apr-13 23:33:31

Northern I am as fit as I can be I think. I eat a balanced diet, limiting caffeine, sugar and artificial sweetners where I can, I am teetotal, have never smoked, exercise moderately everyday, with higher impact gym sessions 2-3 times a week. So yes, I think my health is pretty good now.

LeaveTheBastid Sat 27-Apr-13 23:33:49

Former fatty who said "think of your health" - Don't smoke, drink every month or so when I break free for a night out.

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