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yes I am being v unreasonable. Namechanged. Need telling off. Smoking.

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soashamedinamechanged Fri 26-Apr-13 13:53:13

Cut down from 10 a day to 1 or 2 (max) a day until I was 12 weeks - non after scan and I saw my baby smile

PND - and I stupidly started again. Roughly 7 to 10 a day.

I know I'm pregnant. Just waiting for it to be confirmed at Dr's therefore it's been confirmed by POAS

It's been 4 days since I found out and I'm still smoking. But I have cut down. I'm so ashamed.

I've just had 1 and put it out half way through as I hate myself so much.

I want to stop. I don't want to use patches as I didn't last time.

Please tell me I can do this - and do it today!

My heart is racing at the bollocking I'm going to get on here sad

But I need to write it down or I'll just stay in denial

mrsjay Fri 26-Apr-13 16:53:21

how many are you smoking can you change to the lowest tar you can find silk cut or something and try and do it that way , or an e ciggie you won't get a bollocking from me you are trying very hard to give up a drug habit .

mrsjay Fri 26-Apr-13 16:54:00

and putting it out is a good thing isn't it you are on your way to not having any at all

giveitago Fri 26-Apr-13 16:55:15

OP - giving you lots of hugs here as a smoker myself.

I gave up work when I was told we'd need to be on IVF waiting lists. I just gave up work and as a hardened smoker when on an nhs course to give up as I thought if I'm taking this sacrifice, just do the entire thing properly to try and conceive naturally before IVF. Went on NHS - I actually quit before my quit date - so easy (why hadn't I done it before?). But still no child so I started temping to keep me occupied and stupidly, stupidly started smoking again thinking well, I won't get pregnant naturally so why bother looking after myself and it's so easy to give up............

Well three weeks after starting smoking very lightly again, I dragged dh on a long haul holiday. Time of our lives - great country, great food, great people. I drank and smoked. Felt crap coming home. Went back to temping work -colleagues just kept staring at me. I enjoy being abroad and take great advantage of food etc. but drop the weight within two weeks. This time colleagues keep ON staring at me and there's a comment about my weight. I did a test - to my absulute amazement - I'M BLOODY PREGANT.

tHANKFULLY I'm only a few weeks into smoking again and i was able to give up immediately as it hadn't taken a hold.

Can I be honest here - I was soooooooooo shocked to be pregant naturally my instinct was to smoke and drink pints of stuff. But somehow I managed not to. It was NOT easy. But I managed it.

Do try OP. And I'm not being judge pants because the stress of having the last chance saloon pregnancy did topple me and I started smoked (well away from ds) once breast milk had dried up and I felt bereft.

If you really cant quit just try to cut down. I think listening to other people berating you can cause stress, but do it for your own reasons. Keep yourself quiet and happy and do try your best. The more stress you have the more you want to smoke.

Best of luck to you OP. Sounds like you're trying to do your best. Keep at it.

AlnwickRose Fri 26-Apr-13 17:00:11

Another vote for Alan Car.

imour Fri 26-Apr-13 17:01:55

i tried the ecig , nicotine gum , lozenges , cutting down but none helped , then i joined the wequit forum they are really supportive on there and read allen carr`s stop smoking book , i had my last cig 6th jan and both of these really helped ,please join the forum and get the book ,good luck

greenteawithlemon Fri 26-Apr-13 17:04:36

Definitely get into some kind of nicotine replacement therapy. It really eases the blow. Good luck! You can do it!

timidviper Fri 26-Apr-13 17:09:16

You can do it and you will do it, you know that.

Don't be afraid to use nicotine replacement though. Smoking is multifaceted, the nicotine addiction is only part of the habit and patches, etc can help. I often recommend people have patches or gum with something like a Quickmist spray for cravings that break through.

Please though DO NOT buy an e-cig. These things do not help you give up, they were developed as a smoking replacement, not as a cessation aid so you just "smoke" something different and it is just as hard to give up. In fact the way some are marketed makes it clear they do not want you to give up. They are also not properly regulated or tested so there is no guarantee of what is in them and there have even been some substandard ones that have been dangerous.

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