To be exhausted by constant competetiveness from some people?

(72 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Thu 25-Apr-13 19:04:48

Ok I am not anti-competetion and I think that a proper 1st, 2nd and 3rd is good but it is the petty one-upmanship between everday folk that gets to me:
Competetive parenting, gardening, homeownership, smugness, bullying, competetive misery, bitchyness, wieght-loss gain, clothes labels etc. Everyone just STOOOOOOOOP!
Can't stop the course of human nature I guess but OMG sometimes it just gets a bit wearing.

I think I may be more exhausted by this than you are, actually. ;-)

I think I have become immune to it as I got older TBH. grin CBA.

superstarheartbreaker Thu 25-Apr-13 19:07:43

I would like to add workplace politics and trolling to teh list of competetive pursuits.

nenevomito Thu 25-Apr-13 19:08:54

I'd reply in detail, but since I'm better at you than everything, it would just upset you.

5318008 Thu 25-Apr-13 19:09:07

Ahahaha notquite, v good

The clothes labels mean nothing to me. I wouldn't spot anything designer. Plus cars. They all look the same to me-I have no idea what is a 'good' car.

deepfriedsage Thu 25-Apr-13 19:10:11

I pity the showoff competative people.

Chottie Thu 25-Apr-13 19:12:02

Thank goodness someone else is feeling the same about all this competitiveness - budge up on the sofa smile

I loathe and detest it in any shape or form. My tolerance level is going down. I think I might turn into one of these old ladies who speaks her mind

YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad Thu 25-Apr-13 19:13:59

I usually say something anti-competitive that is so shocking the person doesn't want to engage with me.

"Look at my new amazing designer shoes!"
"They're nice. Look at mine - I stole them from a nursing home!"

"I built a miniature Eiffel Tower with DD using toothpicks, it was such an amazing bonding experience."
"Good for you! I'm usually too drunk to play with my DC!"

youdontwin i just guffawed at nursing home shoes blush

I tend to ignore competitive parents because they are still not as fabulous as me haha it screams of insecurity to keep banging on.

I burst with pride when the kids do something well/for the first time especially ds as he is just lovely grin but after the initial 'yey' i don't need to rub it in every other parents face!

quesadilla Thu 25-Apr-13 21:13:52

Obvious competitive parenting I treat with the contempt it deserves. But there is a fair amount of very stealthy competitive parenting which I find hard to deal with such as one I had the other day: "has dd started classes in (her dad's first language)? Our two have started learning xxx." The response this ridiculous stealth boast deserved: "she is two, ffs" seemed a little harsh for a friend.
It's when it's couched as a question or as concern that its tricky... Harder to be aggressive about it.

SingingSands Thu 25-Apr-13 21:20:32

I work with a girl so competitive that I come home drained every day. Everything is a competition to her. It backfired on her recently though because she got into an argument with a colleague about who had the biggest head, which she won, and then realised that it wasn't really a victory!

Love the "nursing home" shoes comment!

DomesticCEO Thu 25-Apr-13 21:23:41

I had a friend like this once - she competed over everything including who had the prettiest cat (WTF???) and the most active sex life (constant boasting and way too much information!).

It came to a head when she got pg with twins four months after I got pg with DS1 - she competed on who was having the most babies/hardest pg/most exciting pg, etc.

Dropped her after that. angry

I have the prettiest cat. So there.
Not that I'm competitive or anything wink

MagicHouse Thu 25-Apr-13 21:40:54

I find this exhausting too! I usually just respond with something nice like "yes, your new designer shoes/ bag/ promotion/ house/ car/ holiday home/ boat is lovely :-D" and change the subject.

doritosmonster Thu 25-Apr-13 21:42:31

I am laughing loudly at nursing home shoes, being too drunk to play with the kids, and the prettiest cat!

I've known a few uber competitive people and they really annoy me. Someone on a forum I go on is very competitive. Every post is about how much money she has, and everything she buys has to be the most expensive. It's boring.

No MostPeople it's me that has the prettiest cat. wink Pic on profile-where is your pic? grin

FoundAChopinLizt Thu 25-Apr-13 22:23:37

Yes, I fight back the urge to say in response to those people

'well, yeah, my dad's bigger than your dad and he earns a squillion pounds-so there!'

In Rick Mayall style.

Or 'considerably richer than yow' Harry Enfield stylee. grin

Cherriesarelovely Thu 25-Apr-13 22:25:38

Oh I know what you mean!! Years ago I distanced myself from a friend who did this constantly. After several years we are back in touch and I'm hoping he has changed a bit, it was so wearing!!

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 25-Apr-13 22:26:58

DH had a work colleague who was relentlessly competitive. I just think that deep down these people are not very happy, satisfied, centred. So it doesn't really annoy me.

HesterShaw Thu 25-Apr-13 22:28:21

Don't join in then!

HesterShaw Thu 25-Apr-13 22:29:18

Or maybe I don't know any <ponders>

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Thu 25-Apr-13 22:31:16

I have a theory that Cornwall is the least competitive place in the country.

I've found No one gives a shiny shit about designer shoes or new cars, I've found. It's very refreshing.

my county is better than your county grin

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