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Garden Etiquette!

(33 Posts)
Popsie3 Thu 25-Apr-13 07:26:29

My garden backs onto another garden, in the summer months the family let their 3 young children play out from 7am every morning, They are always shouting and screaming, in the week days the children go off to school by 8.30 but on the weekends they are out all day, Of course children make noise in their own garden but do you think 7am is too early to be let them? My living room is at the back of the house and with all my windows closed they are still very loud!

HollyBerryBush Thu 25-Apr-13 07:27:35

I wouldnt have a problem with it. Daylight hours means being up and a bout

YesIamYourSisterInLaw Thu 25-Apr-13 07:54:25

On the weekdays I wouldn't have have a problem with it but on the weekends I would say its to early. I won't be my housework before 10 on a weekend out of courtesy

EggsMichelle Thu 25-Apr-13 07:59:28

I was sent out to play in the garden as a child, but DM would keep a close eye on DSis and eye and make sure we weren't making too much noise. Even now if we are talking in the garden, DM is obsessed with keeping us quiet!

SkinnybitchWannabe Thu 25-Apr-13 08:09:22

I wouldn't let my dc out at 7am on a weekend mainly because Im still asleep too early and its inconsiderate.

limitedperiodonly Thu 25-Apr-13 08:09:40

It is too early to be making an noise. I'm up and about but am still waiting an hour until I put on my washing machine and start hoovering.

Don't know what you say to them though. I expect the reason they shove their kids in the back garden is because they don't want to shush them in their living room.

livinginwonderland Thu 25-Apr-13 08:11:43

i was always up that early in the summer. i can see that it is a bit early, but you can't exactly tell them that they can't go in their own garden.

ItsYonliMe Thu 25-Apr-13 08:13:35

Of course YANBU. My children have been taught to think about others, including neighbours. Sadly, yours sound ignorant and selfish.

ItsYonliMe Thu 25-Apr-13 08:13:57

(Your neighbours I'm talking about!)

imour Thu 25-Apr-13 08:14:26

is a bit early , i never had my kids up fed and dressed at that time , i dont even let my dogs out till 8 in case they bark and annoy someone , some people just have no thought for others who have been working all week and want a lie in .

Backinthebox Thu 25-Apr-13 08:14:39

Damn those pesky children for wanting to play out in the fresh air so early instead of sitting inside like zombies watching CBeebies!

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Thu 25-Apr-13 08:15:16

7ams not too early to be in the garden but too early for screeching, I shhhh'd my ds at 5pm when he was shouting in the garden this week!
Not sure what you can say without sounding many and miserable. Sorry I know that's not too helpful!

Bunraku Thu 25-Apr-13 08:18:42

I wouldn't be bothered by it as I have a skwawky toddler but my neighbours who complain at all times of the day would probably...well....complain grin

MaryMotherOfCheeses Thu 25-Apr-13 08:20:05

Allowing children to be loud outside at 7am on a weekend is downright inconsiderate.

ItsYonliMe Thu 25-Apr-13 08:43:23

Backinthebox - it's nothing to do with them being outside. It's to do with them shouting and screaming. I'm sure you would be annoyed if an adult was shouting and screaming outside - there's no difference.

It's the parents' fault for allowing their children to behave like that and piss people off. Poor kids.

TheVDM Thu 25-Apr-13 08:46:41

Although I am usually up at some stupid time I like to be considerate of neighbours, luckily our house is a little on the solid side and nothing goes through the walls so I feel happy to put the washing machine on at whatever time, day or night.

I would let my daughter out in the garden at 7am if she actually woke up that early on her own, she's a bit lazy and likes 9 or 10am, but I wouldn't let her screech and make loads of noise as people are entitled to have their bedroom windows open of a night.

Our problem is that we live near the sea and are infested with seagulls that have no consideration for noise.

idiuntno57 Thu 25-Apr-13 08:47:21

Surely children can run in their own garden in the morning. I do think that people who want peace and quiet should move to the countryside. Urban living is about accepting that we live in close proximity to others.

And I too would much rather my kids played outside than plugged themselves into the tv. They are supposed to run around and make noise. Its their job.

Tailtwister Thu 25-Apr-13 08:55:40

I would say that 7am is far too early, especially for noisy play. I appreciate that children do make a lot of noise and it's hard to get them to lower the volume, but a bit of consideration for the neighbours is called for.

dexter73 Thu 25-Apr-13 09:01:28

So all the people thinking 7am is fine to have kids outside making a noise won't mind me having a party in my garden at 10pm, after all why should I stay inside plugged into the tv when others should just accept my noise? Bit of consideration to all people is not a bad thing.

Latara Thu 25-Apr-13 09:01:49

YANU - 7am is ok for a weekday.

But also YANBU - it's far too early for a weekend as many people like a lie-in. I wouldn't vacuum at 7am on a weekend for example as my neighbours sleep in a lot.

Tbh my Mum always told me & my sis off if we made too much noise in the garden though, even in the afternoons.

I had neighbours at the back with sons who regularly tried to kill each other or that's how it sounded - now that was irritating at any time of the day admittedly. Especially hearing pre-teens constantly swearing loudly. Luckily the sons have grown up more now.

Surely children can run in their own garden in the morning.

Running isn't the issue, as you well know. It's the fact that the parents allow them to scream and shout continually.

I do think that people who want peace and quiet should move to the countryside. Urban living is about accepting that we live in close proximity to others

Yes, close proximity but being reasonable with it. It works both ways.

They are supposed to run around and make noise. Its their job.

I think this last sentence is one of the most stupid I have ever seen on MN. A child's JOB is to make noise??? No wonder we see so many entitled children (and parents).

Dogsmom Thu 25-Apr-13 09:14:55

Nowhere in the OP did they say that the kids shouldn't be playing in their own garden at 7am just that it was too early for shouting and screaming and I agree, if you live in a community then you should respect your neighbours.
Imagine if we all thought we could be as noisy as we liked 24/7.

jacks365 Thu 25-Apr-13 09:15:18

Dexter i wouldn't say a word if you had a garden party at 10pm to me that would be reasonable (never done it myself though).I'd be accepting of kids playing out at 7am but i think 6 would be pushing it. I'd love my dc to be out playing in a morning but weekends they rarely appear before lunch.

ryanboy Thu 25-Apr-13 09:27:52

You say you are in the living room so it's not as if they are waking you up.Given that you are already up, then why is the noise worse at 7am than 10 am?

MrsDeVere Thu 25-Apr-13 09:34:58

I love the sound of kids playing but they don't need to scream and shout at 7am to have fun.

Living in a city makes consideration even more important otherwise life can be hell.

I HATE the sound of very loud music for others its what you do as soon as the sun comes out.

But I can cope with it if someone is doing it for a couple of hours. Noise (IMO) becomes stressful if it is regular and you can predict it.

If you know that the screaming will start at 7am every morning you start to anticipate it and you can't relax even when its quiet.

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