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AIBU?

to cancel tonights offer, based on no reply to my text.

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delayedresponse · 24/04/2013 06:33

Have been seeing this guy, and we were trying to sort out a 4th date. He is busy towards the end of the week when im free and ive been busy the early half. I said i would see if i could shuffle things about for tonight and would let him know. Its not a great day for me as im travelling with work all day and am shattered and very busy, but its better than nothing.

So, i text him at about 7ish last night saying if he wanted to come over for dinner ( so i need to know so i can get food) then hes welcome to...and asking if he did manage to shift anything around later in the week like he said he was going to try to do.

Ive not had any reply. Im out all day ( which he knows) and am unconctable. Aibu to just cancel now?

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CaffeDoppio · 24/04/2013 06:35

You can't cancel something that doesn't exist and really - if it all hangs on you needing to do shopping why don't you just ring him? Texts do go astray, he may not have looked at his phone - anything really.
Or it might be he's just not that into you?

delayedresponse · 24/04/2013 06:41

He didnt have an issue with his texts monday when he was trying to get to see me

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Snog · 24/04/2013 06:43

You need to ring not text in this situation

maddening · 24/04/2013 06:44

Does it make a difference right now ? If you will get home an hour before you suggested he came round then if he has replied yes during the day then get ready and if no reply cancel it and relax?

I would let him know you won't see his reply till x time.

christinarossetti · 24/04/2013 06:45

I think 4th date is a bit soon to be putting yourself out by cooking at your home after a long day travelling tbh.

I would text to say this evening's off as you'll be too tired and try to plan something when you've both got time rather than squeezing each other in.

thistlelicker · 24/04/2013 06:46

Don't go food shopping! If he turns up get take away?

TheRealFellatio · 24/04/2013 06:52

I would text him again saying 'sorry, don't know whether you got my last text or not re: dinner at mine tonight, but as I haven't heard from you I'm retracting the offer. I have a busy day ahead and I can't face cooking at the last minute. Hope you are well. Perhaps seen you soon.

then DO NOT EVER TEXT HIM OR PHONE HIM AGAIN.

TheRealFellatio · 24/04/2013 06:56

see, not seen

bigbuttons · 24/04/2013 07:06

I think you are trying too hard with this man. let him do some of the running now.

SamuelWestsMistress · 24/04/2013 07:07

4th date and he's already managed to piss you off? Not a good sign I don't think.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 24/04/2013 07:08

If he shows up get takeaway!

Tailtwister · 24/04/2013 07:11

I wouldn't bother texting at all. If he contacts you later just say that you had assumed he wasn't coming since he hadn't confirmed one way or the other. Then I would just stop running after him. If he wants another date let him work for it.

delayedresponse · 24/04/2013 07:22

im not texting him again to chase him up, im not running after any man, like you say, too much effort too early, and if he wanted to see me he can bloody make some effort and not leave me hanging on.

it does kind of matter that i know now, im not 20 with no responsibilities, i need to sort the child out, sort my legs out and then sort the house out, these things dont happen by magic.

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delayedresponse · 24/04/2013 07:33

hes text and asked me out saturday instead. result!

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 24/04/2013 07:39

What time did he text? Bit rude to leave you all day waiting.

kukeslala · 24/04/2013 10:18

YABU

The point of texts to me is they are non urgent and can be replied to at a suitable time for you.
You gave him 12hrs (overnight) OP, to reply to a text, and Im assuming some of those he would be asleep.
If it was all loose, like your post indicates, I would see if I could shuffle things about and let him know.
YABU to think he would keep himself free, when you confirm just 24hrs before the day, and to expect a reply within 12 hrs!

Good luck with the date Sat.

MsVestibule · 24/04/2013 10:31

I found the worst thing about dating in the noughties was bloody texting. So much room for ambiguity and allows selfish tossers (not saying your new man is one, BTW) to get away with murder.

TigerSwallowTail · 24/04/2013 10:32

I'm assuming he's text between 7.22 and 7.33 this morning neomaxi so he hasn't left her all day waiting without contacting her, I wasn't even out of bed at that time, I'd say that was quite early tbh :o.

Good luck on Saturday OP, I hope you enjoy yourself.

everlong · 24/04/2013 10:34

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delayedresponse · 24/04/2013 12:36

Nope, the text was sent in the evening, so he had left it rather a long time.

I wouldnt go home and wait in my pjs and not care if he turned up, i hardly know him, its different to it being a long term friend or boyfriend, its a 4th date, far too early to see me in the bath or wearing a towell!!

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TigerSwallowTail · 24/04/2013 13:23

You text him last night and he replied first thing this morning, is that right? I don't see anything wrong with that tbh.

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