OK, important facts first: DS is 8.5 years old and we are awaiting assessment for possible ASD issues. When I went to pick him up from after school club the group leader took me aside for 'a word'. DS had been lying on top of one of his friends and sort of dry-humping; when the staff asked what they were doing, they said 'Playing the Go To Bed game'. They've made an incident report about it.
The first thing I checked was whether either child had been distressed or bullied; they said no, not at all, they were both giggly over it and then a bit ashamed when ticked off. The group leader asked where he might have got the idea from and I said I don't know, because I really don't. He only watches kids TV channels, apart from quiz shows and Dr Who, he only reads his own books.
I have had a talk (or rather several talks) with DS this evening about boundaries, inappropriate behaviour and making sure that any games played are stopped if someone doesn't like it. The group leader was fairly OK about the whole thing and seemed to think it was just a bit of silly naughtiness rather than an assault; I did make sure that I emphasized to DS that everyone is allowed to stop a game, not like it, refuse to play, and that I wasn't angry with him for making a mistake but he needed to understand about boundaries and some games being for grown ups and not children.
I am scared that we are going to get SS visits and stuff now. I'm scared of my DS being either labelled as a sexual predator or turning into one.
Anyone else had this sort of thing happen?
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Worried this is going to end up a bigger deal than it needs to be - inappropriate behaviour at school.
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SolidGoldBrass · 23/04/2013 23:20
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