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to think you are a very silly person indeed (or a teenager) if you have 900+ facebook friends?

(53 Posts)
MintyyAeroEgg Sun 21-Apr-13 22:40:02

?

BIWI Sun 21-Apr-13 22:42:17

<goes off to check>

BIWI Sun 21-Apr-13 22:43:03

Phew. I only have 261 friends.
grin

mumandboys123 Sun 21-Apr-13 22:44:07

depends how long you've lived, where you've worked, the state of your social life, how well travelled you are...I don't have anywhere near that but as an older person who (shock horror) didn't grow up with the Internet, email and social networking, I have lost contact with an awful lot of people who I know today would be 'Facebook Friends' in the most modern of circumstances. I don't search for people I have 'lost' (I have a life, mainly, but lots of people marry, change names, work in professions where they would rather clients couldn't see them etc etc etc.) but occassionally I accept a friend invite from someone I haven't seen in 15 years. All good.

So, in my opinion you are being entirely unreasonable unless you know that the person concerned has never been to school, never had any friends, has no family and has never left the house.

MintyyAeroEgg Sun 21-Apr-13 22:44:13

That's ok then!

McNewPants2013 Sun 21-Apr-13 22:46:10

I have 419

WorraLiberty Sun 21-Apr-13 22:47:20

Funny you should say that.

I was looking at FB this morning and saw one person (not a friend of mine) who has 4,577 friends shock

MintyyAeroEgg Sun 21-Apr-13 22:48:54

confused I'm not sure I've ever met 4,000 + people! Let alone wanted to share my musings and ramblings with them.

MeVsMadonnaVsElvis Sun 21-Apr-13 22:52:02

I have 400ish. I don't care about the number at all - every single one of those people is someone I have met in real life - friends, family, work, school, travel etc.

Some people will add loads of random people and if that's what they want then cool I wouldn't judge or think of them as silly.

YABU.

I have 603 friends, I all know them personally. A large part of my friends is from when I was younger and used to compete in showjumping, boarding school, university and I also lived in many cities and travel a lot. I have them in 'lists' and restrict accordingly who can see what.

CloudsAndTrees Sun 21-Apr-13 22:57:06

People use Facebook in different ways. I know everyone on mine and that's the way I like it, but there's nothing wrong with using the Internet to connect with people you've never met. Isn't that what we all do on MN?

BIWI Sun 21-Apr-13 22:57:54

A large proportion of mine are MNetters. It stems from when we were all trying to work out what FB was all about, so loads of us added loads of MNetters as friends.

Over the years I have deleted some of them, but there are still many who I have never met but who I feel I have got to know through their status updates.

Bunbaker Sun 21-Apr-13 22:59:21

There is a girl in DD's year at school (year 8) who has about 1500 FB friends. I don't believe that she knows each one personally. I just think she is rather needy and wants to look popular.

I have about 15 FB friends, mainly because I just CBA with Facebook and never make the effort to befriend people. I don't really "do" social networking. I admit to being sceptical about people who are "friends" with several hundred people.

ajandjjmum Sun 21-Apr-13 22:59:42

I agree it can be a joke. DD has someone who is a FB friend, and I happen to know her Mum. We met in town randomly when DD was around 14, and when we left I asked why she didn't talk to **, and she said she didn't know her! She was young enough (and stupid enough!!) then to add friends of friends, but hopefully has matured a little now.

MintyyAeroEgg Sun 21-Apr-13 23:03:06

I think Facebook is different to Mumsnet, Clouds & Trees.

When I first joined fb I took it literally, and thought Friends actually meant Friends.

I know now that it doesn't, to everyone, but still!

I have friend requests from, for eg., my cousin's 27 year old daughter, whom I have met once. I haven't accepted because ... why would I?

McNewPants2013 Sun 21-Apr-13 23:07:21

I only put my statues that i would happy say in conversation in public.

there are people that add others for games and whatnot too

i used to have over 700 (back when i had no life) but im now down to 246 i think. some of those who i have never met have become better friends to me than my rl friends.

an 8 year old with that many friends? shock whats the point? and why is she on fb in the first place confused

SwedishEdith Sun 21-Apr-13 23:14:02

As someone with about 2 Friends, I think some people Americans do genuinely use it for real networking. I can almost imagine that they add you as they meet you. However, just because I've met someone doesn't mean I actually want to have any further contact with them though, however I know them.

BackforGood Sun 21-Apr-13 23:17:07

ILWDT Yr8, is a 12 or 13 yr old,

I can see that it would be easy to get up to many hundred friends. My teenage ds meets loads of people through things he's been involved with over the last few years, and then others he's at school with, or used to be a school with. He's probably near the number you say - but they are all people he knows from RL.
I think teens think differently from those of us who didn't grow up with the internet - it was a lot harder to stay in touch when it meant getting round to writing letters.

WTFisABooyhoo Sun 21-Apr-13 23:18:35

i have 95. intentionally. people piss me off. grin

manicinsomniac Sun 21-Apr-13 23:22:23

I think it depends on your age and how often you clean up your list.

I have around 700 because I was still at university when I first got facebook in the days when you could only join if you had an academic email address. So I actually did know hundreds of people then.

And obviously I've met an awful lot of people since. But I've never got round to deleting anybody.

FB is used for all sorts of reasons, my partner has just short of 2000 friends and is neither a very silly person or a teenager, he's just a guy who runs a business to provide for his family smile so I'd say YAdefinitelyBU.

CuttedUpPear Sun 21-Apr-13 23:35:07

I have 1,205.

What do you say to that? Am I a silly person?

I work in the events industry and I'm freelance. Every job I do I end up with more contacts on my phone and in my email, and soem more FB 'friends'. There is never a good time to go through and delete people, and anyway I quite often work with them or their colleagues again within a few years.

I use it as a networking tool.

SwedishEdith Sun 21-Apr-13 23:38:09

I know of someone with 5000+ friends. I'm tempted to invite them just to see if they actually check who they add

CloudsAndTrees Sun 21-Apr-13 23:46:49

MN and fb are different Minty, but only to a certain extent. There's no right or wrong, people can use the same website for more than one thing. You don't get moral superiority points for only having good friends and family on your completely unimportant list of Facebook friends.

People use these websites in different ways, that's all.

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