OH Godchildren

(49 Posts)
skincaid Sun 21-Apr-13 22:21:12

SIL has asked OH to be GP to her DC, but not me, his wife?

skincaid Sun 21-Apr-13 22:21:51

Just that really.

WorraLiberty Sun 21-Apr-13 22:22:14

That's pretty normal isn't it?

I mean 1 from each side of the family

Or 1 family and 1 friend?

DomesticCEO Sun 21-Apr-13 22:23:04

Very normal. I'm godmother but dh wasn't asked to be godfather.

Not sure what you're upset about!

Is your dh your SIL's brother?

MmeLindor Sun 21-Apr-13 22:23:07

This is your DH's sister?

I don't think it is common to ask both spouses, just the person you want as a GP.

swlmum Sun 21-Apr-13 22:24:13

Isn't that normal? My SIL are his mothers to my DC's. didn't cross my mind to ask their husbands as well.

ArabellaBeaumaris Sun 21-Apr-13 22:24:45

My DC have 8 godparents between them & we haven't asked a single couple!

swlmum Sun 21-Apr-13 22:25:04

God' not 'his' ...

Lindyhopper29 Sun 21-Apr-13 22:25:52

My children have no godparents at all and have never suffered any problems so don't see what all the fuss is about

TidyDancer Sun 21-Apr-13 22:26:09

Wats the problem with that?

I am godmother to a 3-year-old girl and will also be to her unborn brother. DP is/will be godfather to neither. Nothing wrong there.

skincaid Sun 21-Apr-13 22:26:16

Not upset, just unsure how it works. Just thought as we're married we'd both be asked?

MooncupGoddess Sun 21-Apr-13 22:27:05

It would be weird to ask a couple - surely the spouse of a GP becomes a bit of a surrogate godparent anyway? Much better to spread the love.

Springforward Sun 21-Apr-13 22:27:19

Another vote for "normal" here, or at least among my own family/ friends.

TidyDancer Sun 21-Apr-13 22:27:28

It's nothing to do with being married. Without wishing to sound harsh, why on earth would you think it was?!

Jinsei Sun 21-Apr-13 22:28:44

I'm a godmother but DH wasn't asked to be a godfather. The child's mum is a close friend of mine, DH would never have expected to be asked.

CloudsAndTrees Sun 21-Apr-13 22:29:23

It's completely normal. I'm a godparent to a child that my DH isn't godparent to, it's a non issue.

LalyRawr Sun 21-Apr-13 22:29:52

Personally I find it weird that family members are Godparents. They already have a relationship with your children (Aunt, Uncle etc) so I always found it a bit unnessecary to have them as Godparents as well.

My DD's God parents are a couple! Though I count both as best friends seperately anyway.

IneedAyoniNickname Sun 21-Apr-13 22:30:22

Both my dc have both parts f a couple, plus one other as god parents. I'm nor sure what the norm is, we asked who.we wanted, bit non relatives only.

skincaid Sun 21-Apr-13 22:30:50

I'm just unsure what GP duties are, and whats involved.

cantspel Sun 21-Apr-13 22:31:03

my oh is a godparent to all 3 of his brothers children. i am godparent to no one.

WorraLiberty Sun 21-Apr-13 22:31:06

Tbh unless you're religious I think the whole thing is a pile of bollocks.

If you're going to be close to a child growing up, then you're going to be close to them.

Being a GP or not, will never change that.

skincaid Sun 21-Apr-13 22:32:50

Thanks for the replies.

thegreylady Sun 21-Apr-13 22:34:46

Not usual to ask both spouses at all. It is often someone who is not a relative to expand the child's circle of care if it is ever needed.

Numberlock Sun 21-Apr-13 22:37:01

Agreed Worra. I have no contact with my godson due to divorce and one of my son's godfather has never shown any interest.
But plenty of other family friends involved in their lives who aren't godparents.

MmeLindor Sun 21-Apr-13 22:40:21

Well, officially, you agree to take responsibility for the child's welfare should something happen to the parents, I think.

Since the child is your DH's niece or nephew, I would hope that he would do that anyway, in the event of being needed.

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