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To put my Dad and his partner in separate rooms when they come to stay with me?

(31 Posts)
Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Sun 21-Apr-13 21:48:34

After all, they are not married and surely it is a case of "Not under MY roof!!".

DF is 79 and his partner is 78.

AIBU? grin

bubblesinthesky Mon 22-Apr-13 21:38:25

YANBU

You can also do what my gran did to my parents before they were married and stand at the bottom of the stairs shouting up "I hope you two are being careful up there, I don't want any extra sheet to wash"

LatteLady Mon 22-Apr-13 21:42:46

Get the basics right, you will need to sit between them on the sofa to set the tone.

If possible one should be upstairs and the other downstairs, try to put the one with the dodgy hip downstairs, this will dissuade them from getting together late at night.

You may need to have the "chat" with them... or maybe your DH can talk to your dad about stepping up to his responsibilities. Now if you are allowing them to stay, have you thought about ringing her children, they need to know too.

IneedAyoniNickname Mon 22-Apr-13 21:47:56

Op are you my mum? Oh no, you can't be as grandad is older than your dad.

However she had a rule that once we had left home and moved in with a partner, wet could share a room when we stayed over. Until then it didn't happen.

Grandad doesn't live with his dp, and I did ask my mum if she enforced the rule on them. She said she didn't think either of them would want to sleep in the bunk bed grin

ComposHat Tue 23-Apr-13 05:06:27

cmon at nearly 80, the only thing he is going to get up five times a night is to go and have a piss.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Tue 23-Apr-13 18:39:21

Bubblesinthesky, I kid you not: when my Dad and his partner moved, I helped them sort a few things out, including making their bed. Partner says she was not too fussed about the mattress cover because "it is not as if we are trying for babies".

Composhat: I bloody well hope so.

Maryz Tue 23-Apr-13 18:51:46

My Granny put my mum and dad in bunk beds when they had been married for four years and had my older brother and me. She was terrified they would end up with a third child. My little brother was conceived that weekend [arf]

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