to think that my dh wouldn't be so laid back about bedtimes if he was the one who had to get them up for school in the morning

(62 Posts)
chocoholic05 Sun 21-Apr-13 21:30:39

dh obviously can't take them to school because he has to leave for work at 630. The dc are a nightmare to get up in the morning and to get ready. I therefore want them to go to bed at a reasonable time. However every night dh is the same. Saying its only 7 or 730 or 745 or whatever. aaah its so frustrating! angry

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 07:12:31

by 630 latest. Tonight should be home by 5 etc

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:01:19

sorry if my last posts made no sense. Meant my dh varies in the time he gets home but usually by 630 but sometimes later and often earlier. He does do long hours and it's a long drive to work.

SpanishFly Mon 22-Apr-13 09:03:03

When do they actually go to bed and when do they go to sleep?

OrangeFootedScrubfowl Mon 22-Apr-13 09:04:14

We only have to leave the house at 8.40 and we get up at 7.00!

What time do they go up and what time do they usually fall asleep by? My dd's ( almost 3 and almost 6) go up by 7 or just after, getting them changed and stories takes about 30 minutes and they're usually asleep by 7.45 latest. Both up at six (sigh).

MortifiedAdams Mon 22-Apr-13 09:17:01

Bath at 6.30, stay upstairs after it, stories and bed by 7.15. DH can do all of that, so he gets the time with them.

jester68 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:39:53

My 2 are aged 7 and nearly 3.

They have bath at 6.
Then after being dressed for bed they come down for supper.

Back upstairs by 7 for brushing teeth and a story.
Youngest is asleep for 7.30. Eldest between 7.30-8.

They get up between 7-7.30 (wake themselves- only ever use the alarm just in case).

We leave the house for school/preschool run at 8.40 am

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:43:59

jester 68 apart from the supper bit thats a similar routine I want for my dc. I used to have it too but since dh has been in this job its all gone out the Window!

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:45:14

so bath for 630 unfortunately the bathroom is downstairs which doesn't help!

RenterNomad Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:34

No tv in the mornings or after supper here, as I find it too open ended.

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:49:09

mine rarely wake themselves. Ds1 was permanently attached to my waist this morning complaining of being tired and refusing to get dressed. We just about made it on time! And my stress levels were sky high not a good morning! sad

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:51:42

i would love to enforce a no tv after tea rule but dh just refuses and says its only this time etc but you're right it's too open ended in my opinion.

Squitten Mon 22-Apr-13 09:52:49

So take some control OP!

Why are you allowing this to continue when your DC's sleep is evidently suffering? Just tell your kids it's bedtime and get them upstairs! If your DH argues about it, tell him you'll discuss it after the kids are in bed and have the row later on. Assert yourself!

Sugarice Mon 22-Apr-13 09:53:56

What time do they go to bed?

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:56:37

since my dh started this job it varies for reasons i have already said. I'm not only battling against my boys reluctance to go to bed but I'm also battling against my dh and my boys no it and pick up on it!

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:58:55

meant my boys know it obviously! I'm on the phone!

KansasCityOctopus Mon 22-Apr-13 09:59:32

fgs, take some control woman.

turn the damn telly off, take them to bed.. never mind what your DH thinks. You TELL him THIS is how its going to be and you DO it.

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:59:40

I often feel ganged up on!

StuntGirl Mon 22-Apr-13 09:59:52

Does sound to me like its because he rarely gets to see them. That said is he actually doing anything with them or are they just 'there' while he is?

He's playing the 'fun dad' card and thats not fair on you. I agree with mortified, he does the bedtime routine from now on to allow him to spend some quality time with the kids and the kids to get a decent bed time!

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 10:00:54

ok I need to be more assertive! starting tonight! smile

livinginwonderland Mon 22-Apr-13 10:04:39

it seems to be like he wants it to be later so he can see his kids. it must be hard to be a parent and be at work all day, and to see your kids for thirty minutes when you get home and are still probably in "work mode".

Squitten Mon 22-Apr-13 10:20:56

Good for you OP - good luck and be strong!

It sucks being the working parent who doesn't get to spend much time with the kids but the kids can't be allowed to suffer just so the working parent can feel better. Make sure your DH is fully involved with the bedtime routine and does the baths and the stories, etc.

Sugarice Mon 22-Apr-13 12:10:35

You still haven't said what time they go to bed if your H lets them stay up, just curious.

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 12:25:49

well it varies immensely so no consistency really but a good night nearer 8 asleep by 830 or ay worse 830 asleep by 9. Bear in mind that my reception child is finding school very tiring. He often won't eat his tea because he is so tired however my dh often doesn't see that either especially as on days like that I trut to give him his tea early. It's strange he perks up as soon as dh walks in!

chocoholic05 Mon 22-Apr-13 12:27:23

oh and he is still my dh! He may irritate me sometimes but I love him really! smile

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