to think that I am a failure as a parent because my dd aged 10 doesnt know how to ride a bike

(122 Posts)
sonu678 Thu 18-Apr-13 23:21:44

Because I have been so caught up in my own work, that I haven spent time taking her out. And her old bike has not only died in the rain where her father left it all year, and I didnt notice. And even if it was prisitne, she is too tall for it, and wouldnt be using her muscles properly on it anyways.

please tell me Im not as bad as I think I am. She hasnt done the bikability in school this week, along with 9 others, because she hasnt got a bike.

steppemum Thu 18-Apr-13 23:26:30

of course you are not a bad parent. Kids can't all have everything.

But if you want ot get her a bike, there are often bikes on freecycle, and you can get a decent one for not much on ebay and gumtree.

sydlexic Thu 18-Apr-13 23:29:07

My DS is 12 and can't ride a bike, I did try. Dont honk it is important.

I'm 37, still can't ride a bike and think my mum and dad did a pretty good job.

Cravingdairy Thu 18-Apr-13 23:29:43

I can't ride a bike! My parents aren't failures. I still mean to learn some day. It's a great skill to have and she can learn any time. Perhaps you could hire bikes for a day somewhere?

sonu678 Thu 18-Apr-13 23:29:48

thank you.
Its the time, rather than the money that is the issue tbh. I still dont know when i will find the time to take her out. sad and yet ive always felt cycling is a life skill.

expatinscotland Thu 18-Apr-13 23:31:21

I haven't ridden a bike in 34 years. Still here. Hasn't done me a lick of harm.

pigletmania Thu 18-Apr-13 23:32:34

My dd 6 sn can ride by not without stabilisers. She is not tat keen on riding tbh so I don't push her

I can't ride a bike either, I don't resent my parents for it. no biggie, imo.

PTA Thu 18-Apr-13 23:34:00

I would not worry too much, as steppemum says, kids can't have everything.

Can she really not ride a bike or is it just that she doesn't have one? I was beginning to panic as ds1 now aged 10, has only learnt to ride a bike in the last few weeks, a big proper bike without stabilisers.

I was worried as I thought he had missed his "window of opportunity" to learn because I had never taken him out on his bike for various reasons, not least being that I actively dislike cycling and haven't ridden a bike since I was about 10 or 11.

andubelievedthat Thu 18-Apr-13 23:36:03

so, your 2 busy to notice ,? your husband doesn"t pay enough attn ?and anyway, the bike is the wrong size ?and u work in the medical arena, as in ,"she would not be using her muscles properly ? you are not a bad mum ,your making excuses . >can she swim? and hear comes the "how dare i ..... "but , be fair , u asked .o.m.o

expatinscotland Thu 18-Apr-13 23:37:42

I don't care for cycling, either. It's dangerous, too.

There's no such thing as a window of opportunity, it's a motor skill, you can learn them throughout your life.

cestlavielife Thu 18-Apr-13 23:38:52

If you busy with her doing other stuff then don't sweat it...but it reads like you don't spend any time with her at all ???

What time do you spend with her ? Eg in weekend ? What do you do In that time with her?
If you want to teach her it is about time management

But it is not a big deal if she doesn't ride a bike ..do you have one yourself ?

But maybe you do need to find time to spend with her doing something or change that time to bike riding if she /you think it is important .

sinpan Thu 18-Apr-13 23:40:26

My ds was older than your dd when he cracked it . I never learned myself. A neighbour did the job. I do think if it had been left too long he might never have learned, which is what happened to me. It became a big deal . But definitely plenty of time left for a ten year old

WizardofOs Thu 18-Apr-13 23:40:28

I can't ride a bike either. I am 30 more than 10.

My Dad had a fear of bikes (yes really!) so I never had one. I have not really missed it to be honest.

sinpan Thu 18-Apr-13 23:41:15

A neighbour did the job of teaching my ds, I meant!

auntmargaret Thu 18-Apr-13 23:42:10

It's a life skill.

expatinscotland Thu 18-Apr-13 23:42:57

Swimming is a life skill. You can live long and happily without riding a bike. Never saw the reason myself.

Pleaseandthankyou Thu 18-Apr-13 23:45:15

My dd is sharing a flat at uni with two nineteen year olds who can't ride a bike. They are talented in other ways ....

auntmargaret Thu 18-Apr-13 23:46:53

To get from A to B, quicker than Shank's Pony? Where would the Resistance have been without bikes? You did see Chummy in Call the Midwife?
That is all.

Startail Thu 18-Apr-13 23:47:04

My DDs tyres are flat, I get realy nervous of them cycling on our narrow lanes. I don't encorage them to cycle as much as I should.

I used to go miles, but we had less traffic and wider roads.

Osmiornica Thu 18-Apr-13 23:47:41

My 6 year old has just learnt to ride a bike this weekend. It took her less than an hour to learn and this was only on a cheap second hand bike. It's never too late to learn and doesn't have to take long. Once she gets it that's it.

When I was a student I remember teaching a fellow student to ride - he had no idea how to do it but it only took an hour or two.

I used to love going out on my bike so consider it an essential skill like swimming but it can be easily learnt.

expatinscotland Thu 18-Apr-13 23:48:22

I don't watch Call the Midwife.

Like I said, haven't been on one in 34 years and don't fancy it ever again.

It's over-rated.

Schooldidi Thu 18-Apr-13 23:48:55

I haven't ridden a bike since i was 18, and I'm fine with that, I don't intend to ride a bike again if I can help it (a nice tricycle with a basket maybe, but not a bike)

Dd1 took herself out on her ancient bike about 3 weeks before school did bikeability, and she taught herself. It took her 2 weekends of almost constant practising but she got there. She was 11. So, no I don't think you are a bad parent because your 10yo can't ride a bike. Other things are far more important.

auntmargaret Thu 18-Apr-13 23:49:24

Oh, go on. It's fun

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