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to wonder what is the point of posting on Baby Names if...

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ParmaViolette Tue 16-Apr-13 21:47:11

...the only acceptable response is 'beautiful name hun, ignore the haters and enjoy your bubba!' or the more diplomatic 'YOUR CHILD- NAME IT WHAT YOU LIKE!'

Discuss.

RosieMole Fri 19-Apr-13 09:59:00

Don't understand why people have to be so vicious about other people's choices though. Even when it is just discussing prospective names, there will surely be people reading who have actually chosen a particular name for their child and it must be very hurtful to see it slagged off on these threads. There's been a few threads recently when people asked for suggestions for a sibling and it ended up with the existing sibling's name being mocked or ridiculed. Totally unnecessary and nasty to do this imo.

youmaycallmeSSP Fri 19-Apr-13 09:49:14

It is vaguely amusing on a very boring day to scroll through the girls name suggestion threads and see how long it takes for someone to suggest Araminta or Romilly, then for everyone else to join in raving about them. I am 99.9% certain that those names exist only on MN and are part of some in-joke that I'm not yet in on.

BalloonSlayer Fri 19-Apr-13 08:30:23

I love the ones where someone says "We have decided on Scrotus for a boy and Labia for a girl" what do you think.

6 pages of "how lovely" follow before you finally pluck up the courage to point out that they sound a bit reminiscent of other words. . .

Immediately someone else posts to say "Well I have a seven year old Scrotus, and everyone says what a cool name it is and NO, no one has ever nicknamed him Scrotum."

And you want to say, yeah, wait till Secondary, love. But give up and say a prayer for the poor little feller instead.

thegreylady Fri 19-Apr-13 08:23:33

Honestly Ptolemy is real. He is in my dgs nursery class and is four years old. He is absolutely adorable. He is known as Tolly and is very popular. It is a rural state school.

sweetestcup Fri 19-Apr-13 08:17:58

4 pages of support and outrage and then the Op says the name is 'slithery'

Hahaha grin

I think the troll thread was brilliant. Op ranted about family and friends making cruel comments about her PFBs name. 4 pages of support and outrage and then the Op says the name is 'slithery'

IIRC!

PurpleStorm Fri 19-Apr-13 00:29:27

I agree that it seems a bit daft to start a post on baby names if you're not really interested in people's opinions.

I think it's better than asking people I know in real life about baby names because they'll either say "Oooh, how lovely", or try and persuade us away from them for nonsense reasons. Such as claiming that Isobel can't possibly go on our short list because it's so hideously old fashioned that any Isobel would resent us forever for giving her such an unusual name hmm Yeah, right, PILs. Because you're such experts on currently popular baby names

And it's probably better to find out that most people hate a name before you give it to a baby. (Although I'm still not convinced that Gordon's really all that bad a name, despite relinquishing it after an almost unanimous negative opinion from DH & mumsnet. DC2 will not be a Gordon.)

thermalsinapril Thu 18-Apr-13 22:31:20

Most people on the names threads want honest opinions, before they make their final choices. It's a useful way to find out what people really think about particular names. Let's face it, most people's friends and family are only ever going to say "how lovely". I think it's great that people are so honest blunt because otherwise how will anyone know the reality of what people actually think of Persephone/Ptolemy/Waynetta?

Now and again, there will be a disingenuous thread asking for opinions on a name, and obviously people will respond honestly. Then about 40 posts later, the OP admits it's a name they've already used! hmm

Some posters pop up every single time someone mentions their DC's name on a thread. This means that on every thread where that name is mentioned, as soon as poster X appears, no-one feels able to give their honest opinion.

YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad Wed 17-Apr-13 20:19:49

Totally agree, Lady, it always makes me eye roll.

"John is awful, just awful! I used to sit next to a John at school and he pulled my hair constantly. Dreadful name."

I'm pregnant again and have moseyed over to baby names for a bit of inspiration. It seems to have become a little crazier/intense since I was last there and the names are a bit wackier.

Today's favourite: Ciorstaidh.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 17-Apr-13 19:57:13

The posters that amuse me are the ones that dislike names for personal reasons, such as 'I knew someone with that name and she was a bitch'.
What difference would that make to a complete stranger looking for a name for their baby?

bedmonster Wed 17-Apr-13 19:52:51

I have been drawn into babynames threads from a disgusted yet fascinated angle. Some of the suggestions as so pretentious they actually hurt my eyes to read them. The rest of them are completely unpronounceable. I think most of them are piss takes. I live in leafy posh Surrey and have never once heard of most of those names.

ouryve Wed 17-Apr-13 19:37:08

I have a hard time not responding when baby name topics come up in active conversations. Middle name for Kelvin? Ooooh, er, Mackenzie? (Hypothetical example, but after a glass or two of wine oh yes I would.

honeytea Wed 17-Apr-13 19:28:43

I think it is odd when someone makes a thread along the lines of "we need a girl's name that means star" then someone googles "girl's name that means star and comes up with a list of 15 names that mean star.

I don't understand why the first poster doesn't just google girl's name that means star and cut out the middle man.

fudgeit Wed 17-Apr-13 19:18:09

wonder if there has ever been an AIBU where an mner posted a baby name only for another mner to use it first hmm

extracrunchy Wed 17-Apr-13 19:16:33

I met both a Jago and an Artemis this week confused

I would say don't use mn, if you want to speak to people do it with real people who know you.

Best option is don't tell anyone.

Baby names boards are good for scouring for ideas, but I've learnt my lesson in regards to actually starting a thread.

exoticfruits Wed 17-Apr-13 19:06:45

Just go for what you like, you can't please everyone. I wouldn't discuss with anyone- just announce after the birth.

EntWife Wed 17-Apr-13 19:03:05

the baby name topic terrifies me. i am currently pregnant with dc3 and need to start thinking about names but the names thrown around on that topic just bewilder me.

i once heard a mum shouting after a naughty little Ptolemy last summer. i immediately texted dh to tell him. i always thought it was a mumsnet myth.

Oh don't worry Miaow all my DC's names have been labelled chavvy or not proper names, despite most of them appearing in the top 100 since Victorian times!

Was also told that I can't possibly name a child Harry, it must be called Henry and nicknamed Harry.

KitchenandJumble Wed 17-Apr-13 18:56:05

I genuinely love reading the baby names threads, because I love names and am always interested in seeing what is popular. However, sometimes people will propose a really outlandish name and others will respond, "The only thing that matters is that you and your DH like the name." Actually, what matters even more is that you might be setting your child up for a lifetime of hassle and annoyance.

MiaowTheCat Wed 17-Apr-13 18:35:06

I've been told DD2's name was hideous on there - sod 'em, it's not overly pretentious, uniquely spelt or a name that is fab on a baby or cute toddler but won't carry with them through teenage years and into adulthood well.

I do find baby name threads hilarious though as a general rule - on here you've got people worrying that Persephone might be TOO common or not ethereal enough... on other sites you've got people trying to work out how to change the spelling of James to make it "unique."

I met a Frayah today (Freya)

cantspel that is a Baby Names poster's wet dream.

My favourite thing to do is appear on threads, rubbish all the suggestions and offer up something like Kevin or Ellie-May (often with a unique spelling), haven't done it in a while but the reactions do entertain me.

wigglesrock Wed 17-Apr-13 16:53:24

I think it's really arsey to link to a thread in a different topic just to take the piss.

valiumredhead Wed 17-Apr-13 16:49:09

Ive only ever ventured over to Baby Names once, it made AIBU look tame! shock

cantspel Wed 17-Apr-13 16:46:04

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