To be scared of giving up smoking

(68 Posts)
McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 21:24:47

I want to give up smoking, but I have failed many times.

Everytime I fail it really knocks my confidence and my self esteem.

I hate smoking, I feel guilty that the money I spend on smoking could be used to pay off debt or treat the kids. I am sick of smelling like smoke, wasting my break times by going out for a smoke.

I have tried everything to give up but a few bad days with my son my stress levels goes through the roof and I give in and buy another packet of cigarettes.

sydlexic Mon 15-Apr-13 21:26:43

Have you tried champix, both of my DDs were successful with it and I never thought they would quit.

McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 21:28:23

Can't have champix because of past MH problems sad

MrsBW Mon 15-Apr-13 21:30:02

Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr.

Here

It will totally change the way you think about smoking... And you'll learn in those periods of stress that smoking just makes it far far worse, not better

Have a look at the reviews...

shallweshop Mon 15-Apr-13 21:31:28

My DH quit smoking just after DD was born after reading Allan Carr's book on how to do it. He said it really helped.

Good luck.

shallweshop Mon 15-Apr-13 21:32:02

Sorry, should have said that DD is now 8.

McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 21:34:25

MrsBW I have got that downloading now

purrpurr Mon 15-Apr-13 21:34:41

Just wanted to say you're not alone.

Giving up smoking is so bloody hard. Stacking guilt and negativity on yourself won't help you quit. There seems to be a casual attitude to nicotine addiction, still, in general society which I think is very unhelpful. I tried to quit so many times. I ended up reading a lot about addiction itself, which focused on so-called 'real' addictions, i.e. hard drugs. I needed to understand my own addiction, what drove it, what drove me to it, why I put it first above everything. Why I put a toxic pesticide above myself, and those I loved. When I was able to treat nicotine addiction as a real addiction, I gave it the respect it needed - like you'd give respect to a big hairy poisonous creature coming at you with fangs dripping - and I was able to move forward from there.

I still dream about smoking, and I still take it one day at a time. One hour at a time, sometimes. But it's so much easier than I ever thought it would be.

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 15-Apr-13 21:35:01

Have you tried E lites or other electronic cigarettes?
I'v just got one though i haven't started on it yet, but there's been loads of threads on here extolling their virtues.
I think you're at the perfect place to stop now, as you're starting to hate the utter tyranny of it.
I've stopped twice in my life, the longest was 18 months and I was at your mental stage each time.
The problem is going back and just having that one, especially when you're stressed.
I'm hope my e fag will help with that.

deadduck Mon 15-Apr-13 21:36:05

I love Morrisson's nicotine lozenges. Totally prefer them to cigarettes these days.

McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 21:39:09

Tried to electronic ones but didn't help.

I hope this book helps

aldiwhore Mon 15-Apr-13 21:44:08

As a smoker and ex smoker, I sympathise. Have you ever been to see the cesation service?

They are very good.

I tried Champix (went a little crazy on it, and smoked, got nothing from the cigarettes but the habit was still there - plus I like smoking which helps not a jot) I've tried just quitting... I'm currently trying my 'crack pipe' not an actual crack pipe not an e-cig but a VIP vapouriser, and so far, so good. I am still a nicotine addict, but I don't like the vapouriser at all (dry throat) and it gives me the 'hit' when I need it.

Everyone will recommend something different, and I completely understand how bloody awful you feel when you commit to something that simply doesn't work for you. KEEP SEARCHING.

I'm also an expert diet failure too, who's finally, after about 25 years found what works for me. There is hope. Keep at it.

There is no solution to quitting smoking. Not every method works for everyone, just keep working your way through it. I HATED the idea of a vapouriser at first because of the cost, and because I'd still be an addict, but hey, baby steps... and at present, skint addict that I am, I don't smell, and I loathe the idea of an actual cigarette (my christmas cigar is another matter though). xxx

Keep at it.

And although it's useless to say, failure is not a failure of YOU, there's nothing wrong with YOU, so do not allow lack of success to knock you to such a degree that you're left with no confidence or self-esteem, counselling may help you with that 'brain fart', because there is nothing wrong with you sweety. You're simply in the grip of something powerful, and you need some help.

I hope you find your solution soon. x

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 15-Apr-13 21:44:30

Good luck with the book.
It just made me scream with rage and throw it across the room, I felt like I was being brainwashed.
Which is actually the point of it, if you repeat yourself enough times it'll get through.
My longest quit period was the patches BTW.

Ponderosa Mon 15-Apr-13 21:48:40

YY to Allan Carr - it's great to be a non smoker (11 years).

Good luck

McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 21:49:05

I have made an appointment with the nurse and hopefully I can kick this habit.

Thanks for the support.

LittleEdie Mon 15-Apr-13 21:56:21

Allan Carr works.

aldiwhore Mon 15-Apr-13 22:06:58

I will be buying that book... I am resistent to being told what to do. I have a hand to mouth habit (smoking, eating, nail biting, drinking - not always alcoholic) if I could break that I'd be a slim, non-smoking, dehydrated woman with nice nails wink

Why did you start smoking? I am pretty sure I did it because my mum hates it with a massive passion and we have (very loving) issues.

I like that the book might make me rage... I tried Paul McKenna "I Can Make You Thin", I didn't rage, I started to fancy him/his voice which is infinitely worse, and remained fat. hmm

McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 22:08:25

I really don't know why, but started 1st year in high school

Smudging Mon 15-Apr-13 22:11:28

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Dawndonna Mon 15-Apr-13 22:11:35

I was terrified, but last year, at the age of 53 I managed it. It's been just over the year now. I used ecigs which seemed to work for me. You're right it is scary, but you can do it.
Good Luck, whatever method you choose.

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 15-Apr-13 22:13:04

If your'e resistant to being told what to do Aldi, the book won't work.
Well it didn't for me anyway, but well done to all that managed to give up with it.
I just got so bored with the nagging repetition.

WorraLiberty Mon 15-Apr-13 22:15:07

Which E.cig did you try OP?

There are some pathetically shitty ones out there but E.Lites are brilliant imo.

And believe me, I'd tried everything including forking out £150 to attend one of Alan Carr's courses. It was bloody useless.

Then I got the E.Lites and cut down...then eventually 'smoked' only the E.Lites and then gradually gave up.

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 15-Apr-13 22:17:08

Have you given up the E.Lites too Worra?

McNewPants2013 Mon 15-Apr-13 22:20:00

The ones you get at garages

WorraLiberty Mon 15-Apr-13 22:22:50

Yes I gave them up about 4 months after I cut down to using just them and no real cigarettes.

I just kind of got to a point where I wouldn't think about them and when the weather turned really cold one winter, I couldn't be bothered to go outside to 'smoke' it.

That's one tip though, it's best to use it outside as you would a real cigarette. Otherwise it's easy to just sit there in front of the TV/computer puffing on it.

If I had done that, I probably would have ended up with a higher nicotine intake than when I was smoking.

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