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to be furious at dh for leaving DD (7) and DS (3) at home for 5 mins?

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toomanyeasterbunnies Thu 11-Apr-13 18:52:58

DH popped out to end of road in car to get some bread. He made sure DD knew how to call him and he went out for no longer than five mins. I am furious. He thinks I am over-reacting. Am I?

ArabellaBeaumaris Thu 11-Apr-13 18:54:17

I think you are overreacting. No doubt others won't.

LouLouH Thu 11-Apr-13 18:54:31

Nit at all. Its not only what could happen to them it is what could happen to him whilst out.

LouLouH Thu 11-Apr-13 18:54:44

*not

diddl Germany Thu 11-Apr-13 18:55:33

I wouldn't have done it.

If the shop is that close-could he really not have taken them with him?

I doubt he was only 5mins by the time he parked, shopped, queued...

LouLouH Thu 11-Apr-13 18:56:21

Sorry arabella but it is a safeguarding issue. So no she's not over reacting!

rubyslippers Thu 11-Apr-13 18:57:29

you are not over reacting

LouLouH Thu 11-Apr-13 18:57:55

If something had happened to him whilst out how long would the children have then been left alone?!

livinginwonderland Thu 11-Apr-13 18:59:35

eh, i'm torn. if he was really only five minutes, it's not really a problem but i can see why you were upset about it.

Gorjuss Thu 11-Apr-13 19:00:16

No your not overreacting I would go mad too.

shellbu Thu 11-Apr-13 19:01:11

no yanbu what if something held him up , as diddl said he could of taken them , what if a fire started or some weirdo knocked the door , things like that happen , id be furious too .

Xmasbaby11 Thu 11-Apr-13 19:01:39

YANBU - I would freak out. That's far, far too young - anything could have happened.

7 year old by themselves I would be mad, but could live with. 3 Year old involved, no way.

LouLouH Thu 11-Apr-13 19:04:54

There is not actually a legal age to leave a child at home alone. I was surprised when I went on a safeguarding course to find that out.

HotCrossPun Thu 11-Apr-13 19:07:25

I've not got kids - but I would say YANBU.

I wouldn't leave them, I wouldn't leave my 10 yr old and 4 yr old.

Not worth it.

aufaniae Thu 11-Apr-13 19:09:21

YANBU, especially for the 3yo. Why couldn't he take them with him? What other safety corners is he cutting?

Tee2072 Thu 11-Apr-13 19:09:35

How often does something happen to someone popping to the shop that it's always used as an argument on these threads?!?!

malteserzz Thu 11-Apr-13 19:10:56

I would be furious too

SwishSwoshSwoosh Thu 11-Apr-13 19:12:07

YANBU, that is really crap, made worse because a 3yo is unpredictable and a 7yo is nowhere near old enough to handle that.

7 is much too young to be alone full stop but waaaaaaay too young to have to cope with the insane things a toddler can do in 5 minutes.

diddl Germany Thu 11-Apr-13 19:12:16

There is no legal age, but surely leaving a 7yr old in charge of a 3yr old is illegal?

Well, if anything had happened, it wouldn't be the 7yr old being prosecuted?

Was it really imperative that the bread was fetched then-couldn't it have waited until you got in, OP?

DecAndAnt Thu 11-Apr-13 19:12:55

Why didn't he take them with him? Lazy and dangerous.

Shutupanddrive Thu 11-Apr-13 19:14:04

No way! I have a 7 year old and a 3 year old and would never do this in a million years. Totally irresponsible. I would be furious

redskyatnight Thu 11-Apr-13 19:14:11

I'm on the fence on this one tbh. I'd have no problem leaving a 3 year old in the house for 5 minutes while I hang the washing out. And there's probably only minimally more risk in going to the bottom of the road very quickly.

5madthings Thu 11-Apr-13 19:14:41

I would leave a 7yr old for five mins (depending on the child but my ds1 and ds3 were fine to leave at that age for a few mins, ds2 not so fine at that age!)

Wouldnt leave a three yr old, well actually my dd is 27mrhs and i would leave her with 13 yr old ds1 but not with a 7 yr okd!

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